Are you in Love with a Sociopath
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A sociopath could be a very intimate part of your life and you may not know it. In most cases, a sociopath will lure their victim in with their superficial charm and manipulation. If you are in a relationship with a sociopath, you can be robbed of not only your checking account, but also your dignity, and self-esteem.
What is a Sociopath?
A person who is a sociopath has a psychological disorder called antisocial personality. A person with antisocial personality disorder exhibits a lack of regard for the moral or legal standards in the normal culture. Furthermore, the person has an enormous inability to get along with others and to follow societal rules. Below are some characteristics of a sociopath:
- Manipulation
A sociopath can be very manipulating and can conning. They can be very charming one minute, and then become domineering. Often times they use their victims as instruments and humiliate them. They start out by luring their victim into their web by mimicking everything the other person needs and desires. Then later in the relationship, they show their true side. This leaves the victim feeling very confused, because at this point, they have fallen in love with the sociopath and do not want to believe that they have been conned.
- Pathological Liars
A sociopath is a pathological liar. The sociopath will lie on a consistent basis and it is impossible for them to be truthful. They have no morals or values and have no problem lying about anything to get what they want. They can be very convincing; even to the point that the victim will believe the lies when they have solid evidence in front of them proving that they were lied to.
- No Shame or Guilt
There is no shame or guilt that will come from the heartless sociopath. The sociopath will take your heart and rip it out of your chest and never think twice about it. They have one goal in mind, and that is to take the opportunity to manipulate and destroy their victim for their own personal gain.
- Emotionless
A sociopath can not show true emotions such as love to anyone. They are shallow and only think of themselves. Any type of emotion that the sociopath may show to their victim is faked. It is only a part of the plan to get close to the target and to set them up for the final extermination.
A sociopath is very sexual and will give fulfill all of the desires and needs of their victims. This is part of the plan to gain the closeness needed to complete their objectives. It is after the plan has been played out when the victim is left feeling betrayed and heartbroken.
- Need Extra Stimulation
The sociopath is never content. They are always looking for something more exciting as they become bored very easily. They try to push everything to the limit and live life on the edge. They usually have very poor work ethics and have a very impulsive nature.
- Abusive
The sociopath can be verbally and physically abusive to their victims. They will constantly insult the victim and make them feel as if they are less than they are. They like power and control. Furthermore, the sociopath has a lot of rage. One moment they are loving and caring, and then they snap into a fit of rage, followed by love again. The victim is always left to feel as though they have done something wrong and they get trapped on an emotional roller coaster that never ends.
- Irresponsible
The sociopath is very irresponsible. They have no guilt of wrecking other people’s lives. They can cause havoc on marriages and never feel guilty. Also, they always blame someone or something else for their actions.
- Secretive and Paranoid
The sociopath is very secretive and paranoid. They are always scheming up something bad and always hiding things and worried that someone will find them out. When faced with evidence about their lies, they will always deny it and make up excuses as to how they have done nothing wrong. A sociopath can become dangerous when the victim finds out about their secrets and confronts them.
- Jealousy and Control
The sociopath is normally very jealous. You could be talking to the mailman and the sociopath will accuse you of having an affair Or, when eating at a restaurant, you will be accused of sleeping with the waiter.. They often want to keep their victims to themselves and keep them away from any family and loved ones that might figure them out. They love to dominate and control the lives of the victim.
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Ending the Relationship
If you are in a relationship with a sociopath, you need to be very cautious before ending the relationship. This relationship is a game to the sociopath and the sociopath can become enraged very easily. Once you find out what you were being used for (money, sexual gain,), you realize it is time to run like crazy and get out. Although sociopaths are not known to be killers, they can be dangerous with their rage.
It is best for you to never confront them when you are alone. If you are in this type of relationship and are ready to get out, seek help from the local authorities if you feel that your life may be in danger. You may end up losing some money and feel heart-broken for awhile, but you can find freedom from your situation.
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Hello, UK! It's good to hear from you! This was a very informative and well-written (as usual) hub. Fortunately, I've not come across a person with such behavior, except maybe int the work place, but have heard of such people and usually they're men whom girls have fallen victim to. I don't think there's such a thing as a "good sociopath." Maybe they're just people with OCD.
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Very, very, very, good article, Useful Knowledge I will be passing this hub around to all of my friends. From your information, most of us can say that we know at least one person that fits 90% of the description. I told you, that you had the appropriate name, keep up the good work.
Katie,
A sociopath develops the traits at a very young age due to biological and genetic factors. A sociopath's criminal behavior is shaped by social forces and can be caused due to a dysfunctional home.
Don and Fastfreta,
Thank you for your comments.
Very nice hub! Even with these warning signs, identification can be very difficult. They are more adept and practiced at concealing than most of us are at revealing.
One additional trait is that they very seldom "do" their own dirty work. They work themselves and you into an emotional frenzy about non existent situations, you "fix" it and you have done the doing for them based on a false belief. This is the number one reason for missing the warning signs and the difficulties of leaving because you are guilty of something whether it was knowingly or not and find yourself framed by yourself with a person ready to use your good traits against you.
Another interesting and well written hub, I enjoyed reading it very much and I am thankful that I don't seem to know anyone like that.
I've only had a passing acquaintance with two. They are both in prison now. Very good description.
Not all sociopaths go to prison. I reared one after he was orphened. It was quite an experience. My husband and I kept wondering what we did wrong. It took a psychiatrist to tell us we were doing nothing wrong that the child was a sociopath. Somehow that never dawned on us.
I did not have the responsibility of rearing this individual until they were twelve.
The good news is that this individual is now in his forties. No jail time yet or brush with the law as far as I know. This person has hurt a lot of people though and feels no guilt about it.
Evidently he tooked me seriously when I told him that there are consequences to actions. This individual just goes so far but not so far as to get caught at anything that could cost him prison time.
I once knew a Sociopath.....
Never fully realized how crazy people could be until then.
you have given us a very useful information sometime unknowingly you involved in that kind of situation and it is very hard for you to come out of that in that condition one shld take some professional help
This is awesome. I linked this hub to my Narcissist hub. I hope you don't mind. Great job! Hugs
Very, very, very, good article,
My sister inlaw is a sociopath and has gone to prison and taken my brother with her. I think what I have learned on this post will help me help my brother, maybe he can be saved from her grasp.
Very well written; it's very crucial to recognize the early symptoms of dating a person of such nature..
I am not in a relationship with a sociopath. I was raised by one. Check out my hubs. He has a Ted Bndy personality. He can sonvince anyone to give him anything. He can convince someone that being raped by him was what God wanted.
very well written... I am becoming a fan
i dated a sociopath!!! he had every trait that describes a sociopath
Thank you for a great article! I was recently married (briefly) to one that required my children to actually, physically rescue me. You made a point that most do not actually result to killing....but there's always that One that does. To your readers, don't take that chance. I know that I was scared beyond belief. I have changed my name, my region and took his behavior very seriously. Keep enlightening! Please note also that they are so very good at what they do that most people are deep into a relationship before they even realize what evil is happening to them. I am intelligent, wonderful, strong woman who was completely taken advantage of! Shame on him.
I have been in love with a man i had no idea was a sociopath until all the pieces feel together. I knew he had a torred past when he was younger, i only ofund out through friends he kept most of his past a secret. He is very hadsome, charming and all american looking guy. He is very intelligent and on the surface he appears "perfect". ALthough he is a womenizer, cheat, liar and manipulator. I recently found out through a childhood friend that he impersonated a "porn" producer when he was in his twenties - went to Las Vegas and seduced many women for sex under the pretence that he was auditioning them for a movie. Apparently his hotel room was a revolving door. I also heard that he a knows "sex addict" by some of his friends nto really understanding that the magnitude of his actions. Intentionally setting up women and using them - I even heard that while in college he had most of his work doen for him by other students or at the time girlfriends. He and I met 7 years ago, he pursued me and charmed me - he groomed me into trusting him. This story is endless and all the signs were there but I refused to see them - i did not want them to be true - I fell in love with him. Now I know I have to leave him after 7 years and I do not know what will happen next. I have seen glimpses of his temper. In the past I have tried to break it off with him a few times and he will call me non-stop, drive past my house, and pursue me with a frenzy. When i have given in he treats me wonderfully for a few days - then right back to where I was. my question is how do I end this without issue. It hurts to know that he will move on and not care about me - but I need to get my life back in order. How do I let go?
I met a man online who is a sociopath. He played on all my insecurities, even telling me 'don't punish me for the way men have treated you in the past'. Told me numerous times a day how much he loved me, missed me - and no, we have never met - and told me about his son, who is autistic and all the baloney made me fall in love with him. He went on a vacation Disney World with his parents and sister. We texted the whole time he was gone, probably 40 or more times a day. Last night the texts weren't sending properly so I called him to tell him what I was trying to say, imagine my surprise when a woman answered and questioned who I was. Naively I thought it was his mom so I told her, and asked her name, when she told me something hit me, I knew at that moment that I was talking to his wife and sure enough, it turns out he was on a family vacation all right, but it was with his wife, son and daughter, not his parents and sister. I've talked extensively with his wife since, but I have a feeling that she is as much of a liar as he is. I am having a very hard time letting go of this, I still feel love for him even though he has hurt me so badly. How do I get over the need to have someone love me to the point that I'm willing to overlook all the lies?
Thank you all for your comments and for sharing your stories about relationships with a sociopath.
Sucker- You are worthy of a man who will love you and be truthful in your relationship. Never settle for less than that. Do not give up hope. You will find a good person somewhere out there.
Thank you all for your comments and for sharing your stories about relationships with a sociopath.
Sucker- You are worthy of a man who will love you and be truthful in your relationship. Never settle for less than that. Do not give up hope. You will find a good person somewhere out there.
I was in love with a sociopath. Fortunately I found out exactly what I was dealing with and nipped my situation in the bud quickly. My story is here: http://www.scribd.com/doc/22267659/Master-Manipula
I have been in a relationship for 7 years with a man who up until today I did not know was a sociiopath. we talked online off and on for years and I thought i knew him I would talk briefly with his family and knew a couple of his friends. He had "proiscuity" problems and he just recently started going to counceling to "help" his problems. He has said sorry maybe once int he relationship but I can't even begin to remember when it was. Everythign was my fault no matter how obvious that it was his. I pushed all other men interested in me away. He ran off all my friends everyone close to me or he befriended them and they stopped talking to me for whatever reason they felt was necessary. He told me for 7 years he loved me and there were times I'd tell him I could not handle the situation and i'd walk away and he'd always pull me back.
I'm so heart broken right now that I probably need counceling over it, because a year ago a man a so called friend was trying to help me through a bad time involving my sociopath boyfriend and he was not a good person either and raped me and got me pregnant. My boyfriend got upset and told me it was all my fault and he had nothing to do with it. My logical mind told me that if he'd not led me on for 7 years then I'd not be in that situation but of course it was my fualt because I had made a friend in the first place.
Now I'm a new mother with a baby and he left me because I was no longer his "ideal" but he keeps calling and telling me he loves me. I know I should change my number and shove him completely out of my life but thi shappened this week and I am having a hard time coping with everything thats happened over the past year not to mention I just found out I have cancer.
Does anyone know of an online anon support group that I might join?
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KatieE39 says:
4 months ago
Well done! What do you think shapes a sociopath?