In spite of the callous behavior toward his wife and children, toward the people of South Carolina (as well as the nation), toward the woman he committed adultery with, and toward the God he claims to serve, Governor Sanford has been treated with patient respect and he should respectfully resign. Standing down would be his best step up.

So far, instead of making decisions that would help him rebuild the trust that his wife and others gave him, Governor Sanford has taken the inane stance of demanding to be forgiven his way, forcing those who could be his best allies to withdraw from him for the good of all concerned. While his friends implore him to step back and repair the damage where it can be repaired, he continues to insist on his perceived rights.

Some things are just obvious. Truth does not change. Excuses do not change a wrong situation. “I’m sorry” does not change what must be done if wrongs are to be set right. The question of whether a person forced to do the right thing has really done the right thing is valid. When colossal wrongs are committed it is always wise to question the motives behind a professed repentance.

The way to right a wrong is by coming clean in a manner that leaves no doubt, especially in the hearts and minds of those closest to the situation, that a change has been effected through right responses to good counsel. Common sense dictates that the depth and breadth of a professed repentance needs to cover the degree of the offense if someone who has behaved as a liar, a thief, and a predator is going to be believable.

Whether Governor Sanford will yet do the right thing by everyone his behavior has affected is still a question without an answer. He could lose his facade and put on his work shirt and jeans. He may yet play by the rules he postured himself under. He might make himself accountable to his pastors, his wife, and church family while he takes the time to remake himself into what he claimed to be. It is still possible for him to go through the process of needed change by getting the help that is offered to him.

In the meantime, South Carolina needs a governor now and consideration of Mrs. Sanford cannot be avoided. Her background and experience speak volumes about her abilities. She has worked hard, stood faithfully for the values she thought her husband was all about, and she has certainly gone the extra mile. Mrs. Sanford’s discerning insight in recognizing that a pattern of wrong behavior would only escalate without help meant hope for her family. She had the strength and good judgement to demand that it be sought in the face of the stubbornness that was destroying her family and endangering her state.

Presently, comparing her responses with other wives who have had to face the public scandals of their husband’s ill-advised actions, one cannot help wishing that this governor’s wife could begin writing a national advice column, become a top advisor to the primary leaders of our country, and take the South Carolina governor’s seat all in one fell swoop. What she faces in this is the repercussion of her principled behavior. She is more desirable than ever.

Everything about her initial response spoke the foresight of Nabal’s wife Abigail in I Samuel 25. Mrs. Sanford had the wisdom to adamantly refuse to stand with an Ananias or let herself be presented as a Sapphira (see Acts 5). Calling the grievous behavior what it is by her unwillingness to pro-offer forgiveness, the Governor Sanford's wife maintained a willingness to forgive. Her forgiving spirit could have been beautifully displayed if the fruit of repentance had been exhibited, but she cared enough about honesty to maintain a call to true repentance when the governor only regretted that he had been caught.

How the personal details are working out in her marriage is none of our business. I pray for her and her family. I pray that the man she is married to will become the man that she thought she married. The point that is our business is that the determination and courage to maintain high standards, the character to do what it takes to work out real solutions and create opportunity in the middle of a difficult circumstance make marriages and governments great.

The qualities that the leaders of South Carolina need were displayed by the wife of the failed Governor Sanford of South Carolina from the very beginning of the debacle. However, I doubt that Mrs. Sanford should run for office. All things considered, her children are probably too young to respond to the disgrace of their father’s actions in ways that will protect their futures without her sustained presence in their lives. Still, her kind of leadership is a high call to politicians who hope to fill the present gap that Governor Sanford has refused to graciously step out of.

Too bad Governor Sanford did not recognize the pricelessness of her loyal support and return the favor of good leadership to his family and state. Too bad she had to remember the Old Testament’s Deborah and do her best in the face of the governor’s cowardice. Her firm response to the crisis generated by her husband’s selfishness are a needed example of maintaining right priorities.

May those who are considering running for office during these critical times follow Mrs. Sanford’s model, and let’s hope and pray that she and her family each continue to embrace good counseling and rise above these circumstances to move forward in positive ways.