Although a strip tease is a form of performing art, you do not need to be an artist to perform and charm your partner with one.  During a striptease, the performer slowly removes their clothing a piece at a time while dancing.  The emphasis is not on nudity but on the tease and anticipation, the suggestion of nudity.  That is why a striptease is not something that you can do properly without some preparation. Striptease and lap dancing for your partner is not just about taking your clothes off, it is about doing it in a sexually enticing way.  To drive your partner crazy with desire and leave a long lasting sweet memory you must prepare your private show carefully.

• Prepare yourself. The whole ceremony of bathing with sensual essential oils, applying cream to your body, and getting ready for him will put you in the mood for what is coming. If you feel sexy, you will act sexy.
• Prepare some appropriate clothes for the occasion. It is important to wear sexy underwear, the more the better as you want to make the tease to last as long as possible. Choose a theme, and think about his and your fantasies, would he like you dressed as a sexy secretary? Or does he prefer the leather/latex look? Or maybe you would like to play the innocent school girl? Whatever your theme, remember that high heels are essential, whether they are long boots or stiletto sandals. High heels will not only aid your posture –pushing your breast forwards, tucking your tummy in and lifting your bottom- but they will also slow down your movements making you look sexier to his eyes.

• Accessories. Choose your accessories according to your theme, accessories not only set the scenario but they also help your tease. A feather boa, an animal print cushion, a stick, a chair, whatever you choose you can use it to hide yourself behind, to offer yourself to your partner, to attract him.
• Lighting. The basic rule to remember is that when the lights go down the desire goes up. This is one of the most important points for success. It is not the same dancing for your man under a fluorescent light in a kitchen as doing it in a softly lit room where he can comfortably sit to enjoy his treat. The light not only helps to set the mood, but it also helps to hide imperfections. If possible use some scented candles to light the room, otherwise use small lamps strategically placed rather than the ceiling light.
• Choose your music carefully according to your dancing abilities, your audience and the effect you want to create.

The Music is one of the main components for a successful strip tease. Choose a rhythm that it is easy for you to follow. Your dance will not be sensual if you are counting your steps and you have a stressed out face trying to remember the next step; besides it is not sexy to fall of a chair or a dancing pole and pull a muscle, unless of course, you are playing “doctors” with your man.

Before you decide to show off, try different songs, find your rhythm; something you are confident with, find the music that makes you want to dance, a rhythm that makes you feel sexy. You might want to try “Justify my love” by Madonna for a really slow sensuous dance or if you are more energetic “lady marmalade” for a good booty shake. If you are fond of R’nB go on and set the room on fire with some energetic movements like the ones Jennifer Lopez uses in her Get Right video. For a hot and mellow dance you might prefer some Soul, something like This is a man’s world by James Brown.

For a young audience you might want to try some electronic music and undress at the frenetic rhythm of No Stress by Laurent Wolf or even some whine up like Kate de Luna's

If you are into classical dancing, your partner is a music connoisseur and you are looking for a dramatic effect you could try teasing and undressing at Carmen’s rhythm.

HAVE FUN AN BE DARING BECAUSE YOU CAN!