so I have this long time friend who knows everything about me. Calls me and tells me things that lead me to believe she's getting close to suicidal...though she says she's just PMSing.

It's not funny to cry wolf to someone who has been through it and though we both have been through it there are the ones who seem to dwell on it. She's not my only friend who would bring up a friend who had died from suicide.

My advice is and what I want to say is friends are here for your shoulder and this hub is here for me to poor it back on. I'm not a DR. that's why if anyone can get someone help when they need it. It not only helps that person but may also be helping your friend at the same time.

Imagine and those of you who know know how the ones left behind feel...we feel left behind. We don't need doom and gloom and neither do you your not guilty of anything...why should you not see the sun again.

And that is what she needs but I can not help her, nor can you she has to want to get that help. Just like Britney...until she gets to the bottom and or till she's 6 feet under she's need help.

I knew a therapist who once told me if you live with an alcoholic for more than a year you yourself are now sick. I think it applies to many different situations and to this one as well. Like a PTSD condition. This is what I'm trying to say people so if your calling your fiends with PMS and Drama that's one thing but don't do it on a daily basis or a weekly basis don't call when you only feel bad to use my shoulder. Don't but that pressure and that stress on the people you love especially if they have already suffered from any trauma relating to what your needs may be.

What got me through so many things, being resilient as they say, is just living in the moment knowing every second is different and every day is new for me. It's all I need ...but looking back is never good espeicially when you tend to run across those bad things. I may have blocked out a lot on my past memory because I learned to do it from such a young age. I think that is what gives me my resilience. I learned to self help at a young age and then I did go into therapy for 5 years 3 Doctors. They all helped. I still self help and rely on the future and my goals, dreams and plans for sunshine every day. If don't have a sunny day, I know I will soon.

Talk about it, and blog about but don't bring your fiends down about it. They just call it Drama. and it's not.