Swinger Lifestyle
68"A" Definition
The swinger lifestyle is one where a couple married or not makes the decision to swap and have sexual encounters with another couple or couples. After this is agreed upon, there are other factors that come into play depending on the couple. Some couples will only play with others couples if they are together, but some will go out separately to play on their own. Full swap is when both partners swap with another couple and soft swap is when a couple swap with only one other person.
Open Relationship?
I have heard some people refer to this as an open relationship, but I feel as though they are different styles. I think of an open relationship as one where you and your mate have decided it is okay to go and be with other people not to participate together in sexual rendezvous.
Some couples have been very successful in living this type of lifestyle and have been living this way for years. I think that different things work for different people and if it works for your relationship, who am I to judge? One of the comments that a couple told me was that they knew that they were soul mates, but did not want to limit each others sexual desires. So instead hiding and cheating, they would explore them together. Yeah, I know. That is deep.
Lets keep it real. You and your mate have to really be on the same page with this one. Think about it. "Would it turn you on or make you mad to see your mate enjoying the pleasures of another man or woman?"
Meet and Greet
What is a "Meet and Greet" you ask? Good question. Well, I had the opportunity to attend one for my own curiosity and so I could report back to you. It was a great social gathering with "like minded" adults. Most swingers group have some type of forum (yahoo groups, messenger, websites, blogs, etc.) where you can communicate back and forth to see if sparks fly with someone in the lifestyle. Then, at least once a week, at a designated place and time, you get to come meet and greet the person that you have been talking to face to face. There is no sex involved and it is a no pressure zone atmosphere. I couldn't believe how many people showed up that lived a "normal" life just like me. I don't know what I was expecting, but if I didn't know it was a "meet and greet", I would have thought that it was just another social outing. I came home thinking, "If this was so laid back, I just might have to check out an actual party." I had the chance to visit Erotic City Atlanta.
Stay tuned....
To Swing or Not To Swing
Could you ever see yourself being in a swinger relationship?
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Comments
@ MrChameleon I agree with you especially when you say at the end of the day, she is STILL YOUR WIFE! Thanks for your input!
I've been in and around this lifestyle for almost a decade. A lot of people have preconceived notions about what goes on, the type of people that are involved, and etc. There is no "magic formula" for what works and what doesn't. Even in the swinger lifestyle, there are variations of how people proceed with certain things.
To answer the first question, I'm not bothered at all by seeing my wife with another person. As long as nothing is being done dishonestly, then I'm good. I'm not a jealous individual and I know at the end of the day, she's still my wife.
Some people cannot wrap their heads around that idea, and that's fine. This isn't for everyone and not everything is meant to be understood.
Just my 2 cents. I'm always open to answering questions as well!
FLAgirl21 says:
2 months ago
I have to say this is something that I am very curious about. I've never tried swinging in a "serious relationship" before, however I think it is something that would be interesting. I would have to ask myself first though, "Will this effect our relationship if one of us do not like it, or will everything resume as normal"? An maybe if he does not like and I do, or the opposite, then just maybe it wasn't ment to be. What ever the case may be, I think your article is great and it really showed me a new insight of what swinging is all about. If you could share with me any other advice on this topic that would be great!