Step One:  You are comfortable with his company and do not think that you need to put on "airs" or act like someone other than yourself.  This ease in being comfortable can also be categorized as compatibilityand should work both ways meaning that he should feel comfortable with you as well.  Example:  You are not afraid of him seeing you without makeup and there is not the urge to run to the restroom to put on your "face" because of what he may think of how you look.  For one thing, you know that he is more interested in your character and personality that if you used the Max Factor or the Cover Girl Mascara.

Step Two:  He respects and trusts you by being on time for dates and not sneaking out on you if you were to go off to college for the summer.  Respect is huge because that means that he has you on the pedestal as his mother or a favorite aunt.  He watches how he talks to you and his every other word is not one of the unmentionables because he respects you company regardless of whether that is the hip thing to say.  If you were to go off to college for example, you would not have to worry about a girlfriend telling you that he took someone out to dinner.  Somehow girls know how much leeway to give the guy and if you are not worrying about someone getting his attention, you have probable found the one.

Step Three:  He is the one if he does not forget your birthday or the color top you had on with the jeans when you all first met.  Okay, the color thing may be stretching it a bit but for the most part he remembers the important dates that is of interest to you.  You are also memorable of his important dates and have already registered his important dates on your cell phone and memorized his astrological sign.  You may not be into astrology, but you get the idea of what is being said here.  You know that you have found the one when what is important to you is of the same importance to him.

Step Four:  You know that he is the one when you know that you have put on a few pounds but when you ask him how you look it them; his answer is that you look beautiful.  He may know that you have been struggling to lose the pounds and what better motivator than to have someone share in the struggle with encouragement and compliments.  You on the other hand encourage him when he seeks to move up the ladder of success on his job.  You do not make him feel incompetent if he misses the promotion, you tell him that there will be other times to prove to his boss that he is a good worker.  A couple that encourages each other have met their partner and assured the right choices have been made.

Step Five:  You know that you have found the one when you are now aware of other people around you if he wants a pubic show of affection.  You are more interested in him than in what people think and that is huge also.  Most people are embarrassed to show affection in public but if shown tastefully and not disruptive, there is no need to feel out of place.  The most important thing is that you have the undivided attention of your boyfriend who you know is the one because it is all about the two of you and not the people who may be gawking.

Step Six:  Girls, step six should have been number one so make the correction if it applies.  He should not be afraid to tell you that he loves you.  He should not say something to the effect that he loves you because the two of you had sex together.  Why would he go around the block when he can take one step and tell you to your face that he loves you.  If he is not able to do that simple gesture of telling you that he loves you, then he probably is not the one for you.  Also if he tells you that he love you too soon in the relationship, he may be using those most important words to make a home run with you.  Relationships do not just happen and with time spent together, you should be to tell if he is using "I love you" as a strategic term to win the battle or whether or not he really means it.

Step Seven:  You have met the one is he talks and listens to you in honest communication instead of just an "I see" periodically while you are sharing your most cherished goals and secret ambitions.  Also he would be conversing with you about things in his life of which he would not share with anyone else.  Listen to him instead of talking nonstop because what he says can let you know how he really feels about you.  Communication is important in a relationship and you must know that conversing is a two way street.  The more he share with you about his personal self the more likely that he thinks that you are the one for him.

Step Eight:  His behavior and mannerisms are such that you do not feel threatened to be yourself and thus have a more natural way about you.  He is not trying to dominate the conversation or is he trying to win on a disagreement but sincerely listens to what you have to say.  When you can be yourself without putting on all kinds of fronts of the girl you think that he may like than more than likely you have met the one.  Acting should be left to the people in Hollywood.  You should be able to be yourself in a relationship with a person who you think may be the one.

Step Nine:  When there is a major change or modification in your life, you know you have met the one if his name is the first thing you think of to go for guidance that is in your best interest.  You think of this person before you think of anybody else because you know that this person is there for you and has your best interest at heart.  You are not afraid to let you emotions go because he may think that you are being too "girlish" and you should put on a tougher front.  Your reaction to whatever the situation is acceptable to him and he is your go to person when things are not going as you expected.

Step Ten:  You know he is the one if you have met his family and they welcomed you into their home as if you belonged there.  The camaraderie that you feel with his family substantiate and make the relationship with your boyfriend all the more fluent and compatible.  You are at ease around his folks as if ;you were meant to be a part of the family and the two of you have not even discussed marriage.  He treats you highly and with the respect that he treats his mother and that is enough assurance from you that you have found the one.