Today I came across a media driven message about a pastor who challenged his congregation to seven days of sex. Emphasized, he encouraged all his married couples to participate in the challenge. I will be taking this challenge and writing about it. I will talk about my feelings and how it has affected my marriage. If you will I will be journaling in blog format.

More about the challenge the church and how this blogger feels as though the media is missing the message.

First off good Morning America allowed Pastor Ed Young to talk about his message and painted an image of a man who runs a church that talks about sex and how to "do it." Pastor Ed Young's fellowship church does more than what was portrayed on the morning show. Pastor Young is talking about the marriage relationship and how that relationship reflects Gods word. Pastor Young talks about a how, when you marry, that you become one flesh. He discusses, in a prior sermon, about "toilet water" and how when you lust you basically drink from the toilet. He disputes that we are all animals on this earth and that we have animalistic behaviors that make us "naturally" crave for infidelity. Pastor Young’s sermon on "toilet water" takes you to an understanding that sex isn't a bad thing. It isn't something that should be taboo to talk about, and without it you begin to lust and lust turns into infidelity. This could be just looking at porn sites, to really wanting and acting on the feelings of wanting another woman or man. Pastor Young declares that it is this lust that becomes the water we drink, like toilet water, we drink it consume ourselves with it and become sick. Sure we can heal; we can turn ourselves to God and our partner and ask for forgiveness. We can then, like antibiotics begin to replenish the good cells and get healthy. However, if we do nothing about that stubborn cold it turns into bronchitis, pneumonia, or some other concern warranting medical attention. If we ignore it further we are consumed with it and we take years from our lives in hospitals, taking meds and eventually die. We take, what could have been a long life and shorten it severally. But we don't have to let lust consume us. We don't have to drink "toilet water." We have the controls to make our water as fresh as the purest bottled water.

What we can do:

Pastor Ed Young’s wife was sitting in a doctor’s office one day reading a magazine. She stumbles upon an article that talks about today’s men and their sex lives after becoming a father. This article published by Cookie magazine, paired with AOL and did a survey of fathers and their sex lives. It was an alarming reality as the article hit close to home. This article, entitled "danger: Low Voltage" by Lori Leibovich, describes several men who have seen a drop in their sex life since their children were born. It cited that 79% of men would like more sex than they receive and 54% of married men have thought about an affair after there sex life declined, 32% have had affairs, and a staggering 62% of married men view online porn to satisfy them. So you are asking what can we do. Women and men are different, we require different things. Not so. As pastor Young puts it men and women think defiantly yes but we all want the same thing. Happiness.

So it is here that Pastor Young has challenged his married members. He has asked them to have sex for one week (seven days) and see what happens. He states that you have to take the road blocks away from the path to the bed. These blocks include: children (no he isn't asking you to call up Grandma and Grandpa and say hey Pastor Young says that we need to have sex more and I thought I'd take vacation and do it with the wife all day. He is simply saying that children should not be the guide to when you have sex but the gift from doing what God has deemed as a vital part of marriage) Work-you should take out the stress of work by remembering that work stays in the office. If you work at home designate a room for work, close the doors at the end of the day and be at home with your family. The reasons for why you shouldn't have sex needs to leave your vocabulary. Things like "I am tired" and "I have a headache" should never enter the bed.

Pastor Young believes that your sex life reflects your marriage. It also shows your children positives of relationships or becomes a "legacy" that your kids can carry to their relationships, in which their kids carry to theirs. Pastor Young says that sexual intercourse reveals the true self and even the prettiest woman can start to be dull after years of marriage and an unfulfilled sex life. Of course there are the reasons that God wants you to have sex. Pastor Young says that God created love that he gave humans the capacity to love, unlike other animals who show loyalty which can be confused for love. Pastor Young states that if you wait until your man or woman has the same amped up libido as you, you will never have sex.

Answering the challenge: I will be answering Pastor Young's challenge. Now you may think "So." I will also be sharing my experience here on this website. I will first declare that my marriage is at a rough spot right now. I am like all those wives who are trying to balance motherhood and wifehood. I am a student, and right now looking for the right job. I have a heart condition that doctors are trying to fix. Currently I am on a 24 hour heart monitor and when my heart rhythm acts up I am unable to find energy for sex. My husband and I fight constantly he complains that I thwart off his efforts and I complain that it feels as though we are roommates instead of husband and wife. My first entry will include more background and all entries will be personal and somewhat detailed.