How to talk dirty

Most men or women, to be honest, want to learn how to talk sexy/dirty to their partner, for one of the following reasons.

You want to make them see you in a sexy way they never dreamed of.
You want to keep them interested in you.
You want to spice up your sex life to an exotic level either of you have ever experienced! He/she asked you to talk dirty, and you want to show him a side of you that will blow their socks off!

Tips for Talking Dirty

The hard thing for most people who want to learn to talk dirty is being comfortable enough to say the words out loud.

Dirty talk involves a bit of raunchy-ness. But there are certain things you must keep in mind when it comes to dirty talk in order to maintain a happy relationship.

Examples of Talking Dirty

Leave it in the bedroom

What happens in the bedroom stay in the bedroom, it never gets repeated out in public.

Don't disrespect

Even when you do talk dirty, remember that you're living out a fantasy. Separate fantasy from reality.

Start out slow

Don’t feel you have to rush right into elaborate verbal gymnastics. A great way to start with dirty talk is to describe out loud what is happening during sex. Describe what’s happening and how it feels in your body. You can also experiment by telling your partner something you’re going to do to them, or something you want them to do to you.

Turn the tables

The best way to encourage dirty talk is by assuming a different role in the bedroom. You submit and let your partner be more dominant. This way you'll get more of a clue as to what they mean when they mention "dirty talk."

Be authentic in your dirty talk

Dirty talk can feel silly if you expect it to be what you’ve seen in the movies. You might have this idea that dirty talk is something specific. But good dirty talk is completely what you make it, and to do it well, you have to be yourself. While you may take on a role in your dirty talk (e.g. the ravished submissive) you need to find something of yourself in the role.

Find your dirty talk voice

You need to find your own way of talking dirty. Your dirty talk might be low rhythmic grunts, high pitched squeals, or precise whispers. It might reflect the way you talk in your daily life, or it might express a different aspect of your personality. You don’t need to pick only one voice, the element of surprise can add an extra sense of anticipation, when your partner doesn’t know what they’re going to get an earful of next!

Establish ground rules with your partner

One of the reasons many of us don’t talk dirty is fear of sounding ridiculous, or being put down or rejected by a partner. It’s important to set some rules when you’re willing to take risks like this. Rules like no laughing at one another, and no judgment are important. In the heat of the moment anything can come out of your mouth, and you need to know that your partner is respectful of the ways that can be exposing.

Make dirty talking a two way conversation

Once you’ve taken the risk and initiated talking dirty with your partner, ask them to do the same. It isn’t for everyone, and you might find that you like doing it more than hearing it (or vice versa). But being on the receiving and the giving end of dirty talk can give you a different perspective on it, plus you may learn a few things from your partner you didn’t already know.

Video guide for talking dirty

What to Say When Talking Dirty

There’re some great soft-core and hard core dirty examples on provided by Ask Men

Costumes

Sexy costumes, exotic footwear, sexy high heel shoes, knee & thigh high boots…. Couldn’t hurt to dress up a bit while talking dirty – this would fully blow your partners mind! Then if your dirty talk isn’t up to speed yet, then your partner will not even know if your wearing a sexy school girls outfit or bad boy gangster suit. You can purchase these online if your to shy to go into a store with many sites dedicated to helping you work your magic. Kinky boots is a classy online store for women with bigger chains like The Adult Costume Shop catering for both men and women.

Enjoying Sex

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Experience better sex and more sex for you and your partner
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Improve your relationships

For Women this program can help:

Create passion and freedom
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