Pregnant Teenager
61Family Help for Pregnant Teens
We had this happen in our family. The hope of parents that this will never happen to them.
Finding our dear daughter, our only daughter, to be expecting a baby, was a total shock. Some people's reaction was to just get 'it' aborted. My daughter said no to this. She had been taught to respect life, from the time of conception.
The time of the pregnancy was hard for her. She was a junior in a school she loved. Unfortunately, we moved, and she had to drop school. She did go ahead and get her G.E.D. She missed out on so many school events.
She is a strong girl. After getting her G.E.D., she went to Beauty School. She loved doing this.
She had a family that helped her through a lot of hard times. Being a young teenage girl and being pregnant for her was not a real fun time. She missed so much fun with the other girls her age.
The father of this baby was not in the picture at all. He was only a biological father, and that was all. So, this is another aspect of teenage pregnancy.
A girl becomes pregnant, but that doesn't always mean the boy will be there. In this case, my daughter wanted absolutely nothing to do with this person.
In some cases, a boy and girl may feel like they are in love and want to be together forever. Sometimes, this just does not work out. Knowing what we went through with our daughter, and the things she went through, I know it's sometimes best for them not to be together.
That leaves a young pregnant girl with no partner, and a baby with a mother only. No in-home father and no 'daddy' for the baby. This is sad, and also, not only sad, but financially hard.
Boys and girls out there that think they are in love, should definitely talk about what might happen in the future. True love can wait. Grow up some more. Let each other grow up.
Remember, your parents love you and will help you. If you can prevent a pregnancy, that is what should be done. A young girl should not have to go through a pregnancy too soon. A baby should not have to be without a daddy.
Prevent pregnancy. Talk to your parents, a medical caregiver, or even go to the Health Department in your county. There is help to prevent Teen Pregnancy.
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Thanks Marisa.
I'm just about computer illiterate, and can use the help!. My kids say they are too busy. Youth, how I loved it!
Betty Jo
I do agree, that the rates of teenage pregnancy and the emotions that cause it, should definately be thought through before hand. If the acts are considered, a parent should be questioned by the teen.... I didn't, but I was safe about it, or as safe as one could be...
Whitney,
Thanks for your comment. With maturity, my daughter learned more. Girls should not be the only responsible ones. Boys should also be very careful out there. Not only pregnancies happen! Betty Jo
Welcome to Hubpages, Betty Jo!
It is so hard for teens to talk to their parents before the event! Much better for parents to be really open and try to talk to the teens without embarrassment so they know they can come to you (or to an appropriate health worker) for help and advice.
Your daughter and grandchild are fortunate to have your family support even if the father is not on the scene.
My daughter was not safe in places we thought she should be. Even the mother that led us to believe she would be totally safe, later proved to be wrong.
It's sometimes a bad world out there, and our children need to know this at a very early age. How to react, wake those parents up if they went to sleep, etc.
Any other ideas on this? bjp
Hi Betty, this is a father of a teen son.
Contrary to what people think, we, too dread this happening to our sons. If he did something lke that, I would feel responsible for the girl and for my grandchild. I would, of course, make sure the baby is part of the family and support them, but what a loss of childhood times for the young couple! They think they are adults, and might resent my saying these things, but when teh body does not listen to the brain, long term problems happen, which youth is not bothered about.
I hope your daughter gets a good understanding husband and the baby a good father one day.
I want young people to enjoy their youth a bit longer, but they ae in a hurry.
I must admit this happened in my family..but my daughter did marry..not that it was a good thing. sometimes it can be worse...which in this case it was. Soon there was a divorce. No matter how open as parents we are..no matter what they have been taught in school. in their religion when the hormones take over it only takes one time to become with child. hard lessons...It is very sad for all involved, but also can be a blessing with good people like you seem to be.
this is a fast world these days..too much t.v. in my opinion..to much computer and wild music. Although my parents thought the same thing about my music as a teen....
Keep up the good work and God will lead you in the right direction always..My prayers are always for the children,,,G-Ma :O)
This was not a good situation for my daughter. This was not a girlfriend/boyfriend thing. She has done a wonderful job since then. She is now in college and working hard to stay there. She has Faith in God, and spreads it. Too much television these days for sure. Especially with satelite, which we have, and computers. Bad language even in cartoons. People can write without using bad language. Thanks G-Ma Johnson. I feel strange calling you that, because you look at least twenty years younger than me. My grandchildren call me Nanny.
sorry to hear that my dear....good parenting on your part then and also God's help..Life seems so long when you are young and so short when you get older...It is difficult to realize how soon time leaves us behind.."Hanging on in quiet desperation" words from Pink Floyd not me. Oh don't feel strange there are no strangers here on the hubs....G-Ma :O)
Hi Betty Jo,
I was a teen mother back in the 70's, I was fourteen. Thank God for ignorance, mine, I mean ! People's opinions were more harmful to me than my circumstance! I believed I was in love, married the older man of 20 and it lasted through two children and 4 years. But then I grew up and matured in thought and realized what a loser he was and that I wanted a life of my own. I still to this day deal with the psychology of what happened, where were my parents brains and what an ignorant small town I lived in. thank goodness there are more helping organizations now than there were back then.
Welcome to the HubPages,
SparklingJewel
Times have changed in lots of ways.
Helping their sons or daughters is what I was striving to achieve. Parents sometimes are so mad or upset in some way, they may not make decisions they otherwise would, if they take the time to talk it out, and think it over.
Many babies may have been lost to abortion or adoption that people might later regret. My own daughter was almost forced into abortion, until she stood up for herself and her baby.
I was offered an abortion when pregnant with her, due to my age and complications. I said no, and she has been a beautiful and loving daughter, sister and mother. Otherwise, I would have never had a Daughter. Betty Jo
Marisa Wright says:
2 years ago
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Merry Christmas!