There are ten steps you can take to improve your marriage. It does not matter how long you have been married if you follow these ten steps your marriage should be happy and  secure.

Step One: Comunication is the key to keeping a relationship interactive and spontaneous. You should not be trying to figure out what the other person is thinking. You should talk about any issues that come up in the marriage and you should talk about those issues immediately. Do not blog your relationship concern or tell the office workers about your marital situation. They do not know your husband well enough to answer any question you may have about your relationship. Go to the source with any issues or concerns because that is where you will find your answers.

Step Two: As finances are the major cause of separations and divorces, early on in your marriage make sure that there is a mutual consensus about spending and saving money. You should not have to sneak money to buy a piece of furniture from the family budget. Talk about what matters most to you when it comes to family finances. Make sure that saving and investment is the forefront instead of shopping or entertainment. Sensible usage of money with logical applications agreed by both parties should stifle any disagreement in the area of finances.

Step Three: If you are newly wed, discuss how many children you plan on having and what to do in the event that you are not blessed immedately with a child. Feelings of sexual inadequacy can cause a man or a woman to lose their self esteem and purport unhappiness in a relationship. Birth control should also be discussed so that the arrival of another member of the familly do not cause a financial problem that is not easily remedied.

Step Four: Decide how major decisions will be made regarding any unplanned event. The optimal situation is to partner with each other and compromise until a mutual agreement is made on the issue. No one person should dominate the potential outcome of a problem by not listening to the input of the other. If a compromise can not be agreed upon right away, then set a meeting to discuss the event once the urgency is not as paramount. Some situations that can cause discord can be dissipated with the all important time factor.

Step Five: As your marriage progresses and the years come and go, do not forget what brought the two of you together. Plan to keep some of the romantic traditions in your marriage and you are sure to keep each other happy as in the beginning of your relationship. Husbands are known to be a little forgetful with details, so this task should be taken upon by the wife. If you do not like to be the one to remind your husband of important relationship events, try hinting days before the actual event. If all else fail, on the day of the special occasion, write a note and place it in a place where he is sure to find it.

Step Six: Vacation, Vacation, Vacation,. Vacations are know to relieve stress and to promote good health. Plan to vacation at least once a year even if it is a stay at home vacation because of the economy. Check into a local hotel and act as though you are out of towners re-educating yourself about the historical and interesting facts about your city. If you have kids, plan a family vacation later but you should always plan a vacation for just the two of you. Room service and being treated nicely by the hotel staff will be refreshing.

Step Seven: Back to finances again, do not go over your family budget and buy extravangant items that can be put on hold and is not urgent. Get a system of deciding what criterion to use if you would like to purchase.  Make a decision on what purchases  can wait until the finances are better. Find a suitable substitute of the item at a much more inexpensive price. Again, negotiation and compromise is the key to getting over those purchases that may not be necessary but could easily put your family in debt.

Step Eight: Do not expect to be with you husband all the time and this message is especially for newly weds. Men like to hang out with each other and although you may be deeply in love, a man needs his space. Women needs their space too, but all too often the woman take it on herself to keep the relationship going by thinking of things to do together. Sometime, your husband may rather be with his friends or tending to another independent interest of his. You will find that when you give your husband space, you find more interesting things to do that is of important to you.  Absense does indeed make the heart grow fonder.Men also appreciate women who are not clinging on to them and find satisfaction in being apart from their mate sometimes.

Step Nine: If you get into an argument and you will because it is human nature to disagree sometimes, do not always try to win. Listen intently to what is being said and respond to the issue and not to the personal characteristics of the person. You married your husband becaue you were in love with him. Just because he would rather watch a game instead of helping you with gardening is no reason to start an argument about his character. Come to a reasonable compromise and be the better person and listen.

Step Ten: Say "I Love You" to your husband and wife other than during a sexual encounter. Be sincere when you say these three very important words. Some wives like to hear their husbands tell them those words every day and sometimes at the end of every phone call. Such a practice is much too mechanical and loses its warmth. Your husband can learn from you when to tell you that he loves you. Tell him when you are feeling sincere about his tenderness to you and he will learn to say "I Love You"  in the same situation.