Most women will not feel "in the mood" if they don't feel relaxed.

Why is this? Well, unlike a lot of men, women tend to struggle with dozens of things in their heads at once. They are constantly thinking and worrying about something. Men are thinking about a lot of things as well, but they are much better at shutting it off when it comes to sex. The majority of women are not good at this. For her to get in the mood for sexual activity, this internal monologue needs to be shut down, and when men do the right things to help shut this down, women feel that they are going the extra mile to get them in the mood.

How do men do this? Well, that depends on each individual couple. Maybe a neck or back massage can do the trick. Others might like a foot massage. Maybe drawing a bath or relaxing with her in a hot tub can shut down that babble in the brain. It could be as simple as sitting next to her and stroking her hair as she listens to her favorite CD. You need to figure this out with your partner. Every relationship is different.

Engaging any of women's five senses (touch, smell, sight, taste, and hearing) will ultimately do the trick. A woman's body will not get excited unless her mind is at ease. If her mind is at ease, her body will be at ease, and her body will be in a wonderful position for excitement.

SOMETIMES JUST LETTING A WOMAN VENT TO A MAN'S LISTENING EAR WILL RELAX HER MIND!

Here is an example of what a man can do throughout the course of a day to get his significant other in the mood. Now, I would not suggest that men do this every single day. That would ruin the spotaneity. Men should, however, use these techniques frequently and realize that these things are necessary to keep a woman wild over him.

Lets say Mike and Mary (M&M to their friends) are a couple. For Mike, the whole process begins at the start of the day. He might have breakfeast waiting for Mary when she wakes up or he might bring it to her in bed. He sometimes wakes her up to her favorite song and gives her a morning back massage. If he doesn't do this, he will sometimes quickly grab her before he leaves for work and gives her a nice long kiss, complementing her on how beautiful she looks or how wonderful she tastes. These are the little things that can be done throughout a day that are not so little to a woman.

GIVE A WOMAN POSITIVE COMMENTS ABOUT HER PHYSICAL APPEARANCE. BE SPECIFIC ABOUT CERTAIN AREAS OF HER BODY THAT TURN YOU ON. THE MORE DETAILED THE BETTER.

Mike often times sends her text messages or emails about what he is going to do to her that night. He is very specific. Women love it when men are specific and confident. He talks about how he's going to touch her. Mike talks about how much he loves kissing her neck. He tells her about her smell and how sexy her lower back is. He is simply engaging some of her senses and relaxing her mind, which is going to transition into relaxing her body.

When Mary gets home Mike has food or a glass of wine waiting for her. After that, he gives her a foot massage while they listen to some soothing music, or maybe watch a little TV. From there, Mike takes her to the bathroom where he has a bath drawn for her. He washes her hair or helps her wash her body. WOMEN LOVE THIS! He is doing all the things that he knows will relax Mary's mind and begin to relax her body. At this point, he can lead her into the bedroom for more relaxation.

Whether this whole process takes 25 minutes or 1 hour doesn't matter. What matters is that the couple has communicated with each other on what relaxes her, and then the man takes the time to implement it.

I mentioned above about engaging her senses. I want to briefly touch upon this in more detail.

SIGHT

When it comes to sight men, take some stock in your surroundings and in yourselves. We rely most heavily on this sense. Wherever you plan on hooking up, whether it's your bedroom, family room, kitchen, whatever, keep the area tidy. Cleanliness is next to godliness as we all know. Women will appreciate this. Clean your sheets, pick up the underwear that's been sitting on the floor the last 6 days. Clean the dishes that are beginning to collect flies and mold. Make her feel like you have some respect for yourself. When it starts to get hot and heavy, make sure the room isn't as bright as a star. Have low lighting. It will calm her down.

HEARING

Women are easily seduced through their ears. Speaking softly to her about her strong points, whether physical or mental in a soft seductive voice is a sure turn on for her. But words are not always necessary. Having instrumental music in the background can be very effective for getting her in the mood. You can pick this out together, or put on her favorite CD. Music without lyrics can really get the both of you lost in the moment. If you don't know what music to put on, put the radio or cable box to the jazz station. Jazz is always a safe bet in passionate moments.

TASTE

What tastes people enjoy varies greatly. Everyone is turned on by different foods and drinks. Feeding each other in bed can always be erotic and fun. A few foods to try are olives, strawberries, grapes, chocolate or cheese. Wine is a nice alcohol that goes well with cheese and chocolate. A clean mouth is always a must, which all of you know.

SMELL

To me this is a no brainer. Everyone wants to smell nice things. Scent memory recall is very powerful. To this day, when I smell certain perfume, cologne, or soap, I immediately recall a certain person, place, or event. Chances are that you have experienced this as well. Women are turned on strongly to a man's cologne, or even natural scent. Now guys, natural scent isn't your unwashed armpits and crotch after playing a game of football. Taking showers and using soap is a must. I am hoping that your mother already taught you this. We do however, all have a very unique odor. Keep a flavored candle burning or plug in an air freshener as well to give the area a nice smell. Again, most of this should be done without even questioning.

TOUCH

We finally get to the important part. You have done your best to relax her other 4 senses, now it is time to relax her body with your touch. Women respond most greatly to touch, and will turn into mush right in your arms if done correctly. You will notice her breathing getting faster and deeper. Now that you have learned how to relax her mind, it is time for you to learn how to relax her body.