Do you know someone who just can't seem to tell the truth about anything? This could be a family member or a close friend or even someone you work with. This person tells lies about anything and everything. You listen to them speak and you wonder which part of the story they are telling you is actually true or if any part of it is true.

The constant liar can't seem to get or keep their facts straight. They don't really seem to care whether the lies they tell hurt you or anyone you know. What makes it worse is when they get caught. There are more lies to cover the one they got busted on.

When the constant liar is a friend or coworker, it may easier to seperate yourself from the everlasting torment of lies. It is easier, in some respects to walk away. This doesn't mean that you weren't hurt by them, it means that you can walk away and not look back.

The Constant Liar in the Family

When the constant liar is a family member, it is much harder. The lies they tell don't just have the power to affect you, but they also have the power to affect everyone in the family.

Parents of constant liars are put through a storm. The lies can vary in greatness and the types of lies can leave scars that burn and ache with each new one told. Parents don't want to to just walk away, that is their family. With each new day that passes, they have hopes that something will happen to make that child of theirs change. Generally though, with each new day that passes, new lies are told and more hurts are heaped upon a growing mountain that reaches far into the sky.

For parents, the lies come so fast and furious that they can't be kept up with anymore. The parents start to wonder what they might have done wrong. They start trying to go back and critique their own parenting skills. The hurts cut to the bone and the more they try to forgive, the more the lies continue to flow. The more they get angry, the more lies continue to flow. It can become a pointless and arduous task of trying to sort through the emotions and feelings that are being destroyed.

What makes a constant liar ?

Constant liars come in all shapes and sizes. They come from good homes and from bad ones. There is no specific background or history that makes them who they are. They aren't born as liars, they learn to become them. It may be that they told quite a few and got away with it. It may be that they did something bad and they lied about it and discovered their own freedom about not having to face truths.

They can lie as easily as they can breathe. They are convincing and they become professionals at it. The tiniest thing can be become the biggest lie. Most of them think that there is no way to get caught and if they do, they already have another lie ready to try and make it better for them.

They don't feel remorseful and though they may apologize until they are blue in the face, most of the time it doesn't stop them. Another twist of truths will eventually escape their lips.

When a constant liar gets caught, sometimes they find a way to twist and stretch things and turn it back on you. Sometimes, they create their own venegful smoke screen. At these times, they don't admit the truth, but they throw something else back at you to take the anger off the intital siutation.

They are trully uncaring and hurtful creatures.

Two facts about lies

When discussing the truths about lies, there is one saying that most of us know.

"What goes around comes around."

Many of us know this including the liars. They aren't so ignorant that they don't know that they won't eventually get caught. Perhaps they just think that by the time they get caught, a lot of time will have passed and the anger and hurt won't exist anymore.

Lies always have a way of coming around to a truth. It may take a long time before they do, but they will.

" Lies have no leg to stand on, but they can sit forever."

The constant liar can twist and turn truths into anything they want them to be. They don't take the time to think that whatever the lie was, no matter how great or small, the memory of it will always be there. For most people, once the trust is gone it is gone. No matter how much we want to believe in the liar, the memory their lie remains.

The constant liar might like to try and make you belive they have changed their lives, turned over a new leaf, but the fact is because of their history of dishonesty, the remnants of their past will always be in the forefront.

The Constant Liar's Garden

There are lots of ways to look at the constant liar. One way is their garden.

The constant liar tends a garden. Each row is full of lies in different stages of growth. One row could be the newest lies and another,lies that they have kept going. Those lies get special care because they are contiuous. They are fertilized by more lies and they grow bigger every day.

The constant liars know that to perfect their garden and the lies in it takes care. Some of their lies need to be kept from growing into the flower of truth. It takes work to tend a garden and for a constant liar that is true too. It takes work to keep a lie from becoming a truth.

As with growing a garden, there are mistakes made that prevent a plant from growing becomes of how it was watered and fertilized. Gardners learn from those mistakes and so the next year, they change what they did to get the plant to grow to its fullest. For a constant liar, they don't want their lies to grow into truths, so over time they have learned how to keep the lie from being known. Trial and error and live and learn.

When is enough, enough ?

The thing about people who lie is that they cause so much hurt, pain, and anger. Those of us who get lied to all the time come to a point when we aren't going to take it anymore. There has to be a point when enough is enough and we aren't going to continue to allow this liar to step on us. Lies can get very personal and can become greater than perhaps they were ever intended to be.

So when is the point where we can say enough is enough?

When the constant liar is throwing lies at you and you can't catch them anymore. When you don't have the will or care to allow them to keep your thoughts and feelings in turmoil. When the lies have caused you constant pain, constant hurt, and constant anger.

When the lies have you constantly looking at this person and questioning every word that come out of their mouth. When the lies go deeper and you find yourself doubting yourself and what you believe.

When you get to the point where you don't want to be a constant warrior fighting a constant liar. Those liars aren't worth you having to be on defense around them all the time.

How to let the constant liar know their reign of lies is over in your life

Constant liars get more chances to become better people. We are constantly trying to overlook this lie and that. Perhaps it is because at times we see the potential for a good person. Perhaps it is because they are a member of our family and we feel like we have to be tolerant, we have to be forgiving.

There are times when we have to let them go. We have to let them try to dig their selves out of the huge hole they find themselves in. One truth is that all lies will come to a truth and that being said, they are going to have to deal with it on their own. It all will catch up to them. The key is that we don't let them drag us into that pitiful hole.

When the time comes, you have to put your foot down. You have let them know that you aren't going to let them keep gettiing a way with it. No matter how many times you call them out , it isn't going to stop them. Sometimes it is better to walk away, cut the ties and let them deal with things on their own. Let the fish flounder outside of the water. You have put them back in the water too many times.

Legacy of the Constant Liar

Constant liars have perfected their lies and they do it so much that at times they believe so much in the lie they have told that they can't break away from it. They have created a life time pattern of lying. Lies have a way of making people back off and walk away. The constant liar has alienated everyone around them. This leaves them lonely. When the time comes and all the lies come to truths and are crashing around them, they will have no one to turn to and no one who will listen. This is the legacy they have created for themselves.