Imagine that you are a father and you have been paying child support for a child you love and care for. There is an accident and the child needs blood. You find out that your blood isn't a match and the child is not yours at all. This sounds like something you hear on a soap opera but this is becoming a horrible reality to some men. Not only are you feeling the loss and emotional devastation, you have been robbed of your hard earned money. What if you have you been paying child support for years and you are hit with this reality. Would you sue the mother for the emotional trauma she has cause you and the child? Should you be reimbursed? Should the real father receive some type of restitution for the mother denying him his child. Or is it the man's responsibility to make sure that the child is his? The question is who is at fault for the fraud. The answer begins the mother.

Unfortunately, some women are very ignorant, stupid,cruel, and irresponsible. Many women blame children on men when they already know that there is a strong possibility they are wrong. How many times do women go on The Maury Show and say with confidence and attitude that this man is the father knowing they aren't sure who the father is. Only to find out she is a complete and utter buffoon. DNA made her look like a whore who sleeps around. Later she is in tears and ready to apologize. A woman knows if there is a possibiltiy that someone else could have fathered her child because she knows who she is sleeping with. When some mothers have an affair, instead of her checking to make sure of paternity or just telling the truth, she doesn't say anything in hopes that her indiscretion is never exposed. Unfortunately for men, most of the time the lie is never exposed. The real father, and the person that thought he was the father, and child are left in the dark. Some mothers don't realize the game they play with it comes to naming the wrong man as daddy. Because when it does come out, the mother has a lot of questions to answer about how she could do what she did.

Do these women think about the child's family? Grandmothers, sisters, and cousins they are denying their offspring. Does the mother think that maybe in the near future her child can run into his or her brother or sister and possibly fall in love? Do they think about the fact that they are just plainly denying the child to know who they are? Unfortunately, they do not. They only thinking about themselvers. They don't think about the consequences of the actions.

I have done some research on some of DNA cases. Some women have been sued for making these false allegations and have to pay back all the child support they have received. Some women are losing custody of their children because of this fraud as well.This type of fraud makes one wonder if the mother is fit to raise children. And some courts have taken children from these irresponsible mothers. What does a child say to his or her mother when they find out about this lie. Think of the devistation and betrayal the child will feel that has been inflicted by his or her mother. Ultimately, the responsibiltiy is going to be left up to the unsuspected father to take action.There are a lot of unscrupolus women that do this kind of thing. It is going to be up to you as the man to do your own DNA checks on your kids to make sure that there is no mistakes that these are your children. If you are unsure about paternity do the DNA check. Better safe that sorry later. DNA testing is private and if your wrong no one has to know. The best time to do a DNA check is at birth. That way you don't get attached and no time or money is lost. Because it is never the child's fault when adults do things like this. If you find out years later the child isn't yours, just know you are the only father that child knows. It really makes no sense in not claiming the child as your own now. Don't shut the child out. He or she will already be feeling the betrayal and hurt because their mother has lied to them about who you are. The child does have the right to know who their real parent is. You want them to know where they come from. The other father has a right to know this information also. We always want happy healthy kids. Should you still support the child if its not yours? I would say make your own judgement. But if you wait to late you do a DNA check you may be forced to. . Don't make the child suffer for the mother's stupidity. You can still go to games and be a part of the child's life. I don't think you should have to pay child support for a child that is not yours unless you choose to. Don't let a piece of paper make you a stranger to your child. The key message is not to become a vicitm of the DNA dilema. Because in the end the child suffers the most.