An unconscious defense mechanism characterized by refusal to acknowledge painful realities, thoughts, or feelings.

A powerful negative forces that give human beings trouble is denial which is the inability to face difficult situations that causes problem fueled by something the person associates with either pleasure joy or fun or pain or unhealthy emotions. What makes denial so troublesome?

The answer to this question can be as complex as the subject itself because it’s about facing something that most people would rather not face for one reason or another. Life is full of setbacks cause by the unwillingness to face a fault cause by not accepting responsible for one reason or another they cannot see denial is what’s holding them back.

For instance some people have to live on minimum wage and they will blame the system, their parents, God, or their employer they want face the fact that they drop out of school or refuse to learn. When they were in school and like the necessary skills to make a better livening as long as they refuse to look at the part they played and their situation the situation never changes. The same person starts to go to night school or receives some kind of training and soon learns that once he faced his on part his and became willing to take the necessary action to change that his life straighten out.

There are hundreds of situations like this that keep people and the grips of negative situations with no way out. They question everything and everyone but themselves there should be a course on personal responsibility to help people who find themselves stuck. Sometimes the stuck person was a victim but the unwillingness to face the situation will make you a victim for ever because once the damaged is done it has to be faced and dealt with and order for the healing process to begin. Denial is like refusing to go to the doctor when you know your leg is broke the bone cannot mend unstill the leg is set.Emotions, and feelings cannot heal until they are faced and comfort is bought to the scared one by those who care and the hand of a loving God.

One of the ways to bring one to the awareness of denial is to help one take and honest look at what’s happening and their life and to honestly place blame for each situation at its beginning if honestly done most people quickly realize that everything and their life starts and ends with them. Some will say this is a hard cold, heartless statement but the denial starts with the victim and is usually motivated by fear one of mans coldest enemies because fear cripples the mind.

There are forms of denial that are more complex like those who have blocked out abuse inflicted on them by another and for some reason another they have blocked out the abuse as a way to cope, but they suffer later on in life because the suppress act haunts them and they still have to face what happen to go on with life.

This is a hard thing for a person to do but it can be done Alcoholics for example have been doing this for seventy-five years with considerable results when these Alcoholics have been challenge to faced their denial it’s been reported that fifty-percent overcome their denial and beat Alcohol. Twenty-five percent return back to drinking and twenty-five percent hang around AA and live better than they did.

So how might one deal with denial and stay out of the pitfalls that make denial dangerous it’s been suggested and demonstrated that not lying to oneself might help but since we have describe denial as not knowing I am lying. So just how we get honest with ourselves some form of surrender is necessary along with a belief and a power greater than ourselves some prefer God as does the writer and some prefer to say a higher power. I also suggest a 12-step group there hundreds of them nowadays dealing with all kinds of problems that affect mankind.

In conclusion the writer is not a doctor or some great scientist so some might wonder about his qualifications to write about such a complex illness, we will simply say he was a victim of his mind that no longer suffers and believe that his victory might help others overcome this illness.