The Difficulties of Motherhood
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This stuff is hard...
I had no idea, when I decided to be a stay at home mom, the hardships that would soon follow.
Pregnancy is definitely no walk in the park, but after the child is born, a whole new bunch of thoughts entered my mind. Will I be a good mother? Can I be a good wife, and mother?
The work that is actually involved to be a good mother is hard. It is long. It is thankless. Mother's Day, schmother's day! I am exhausted. The really sad thing is that my daughter is a good baby. She never cries. She whines occasionally, but other than that, she just lives her life.
Switching gears, I left work, so there is that cut in income. There are hospital bills. My husband is working overtime. This is not even the problem. The problem is my own personal neurosis.
HOW WILL I SCREW UP THIS PERFECTLY FORMED CREATURE?
What language is appropriate? Can I still swear in front of an 8 month old? Can I have a beer? Can I still be myself?
I have found that, lately, she would rather just be left alone. She has a bunch of toys in her playpen... but I don't think it's called a "playpen" anymore. It's called a what? Oh... a "play yard"... and she would rather just hang out and chill in her "play yard" and watch developmental programming. I am doing what I swore I would never do... I am letting the TV babysit my child.
Her choice of music is much more advanced than mine. She would much rather listen to Bach than Michael Jackson. She still digs a good musical number, though.
I hope she is smarter than me. I hope she has more confidence than me. And, I hope she dances.
I guess all a mother can do is hold her nose and jump in. It seems to be working so far. She seems to be smarter than me, already. She also knows how to look at me and laugh. She lets me see how anal, and weird, I am.
She is well fed, and is perfectly healthy. I guess that is the extent of my job, until she starts to tell me otherwise. Then we can argue it out. Thank God for her. I love her so much. Thank God for her Daddy. I haven't even begun to mention how he helps with the baby. Thank God for my mother.
I guess I want her to be well rounded and to love me. I want her to like me. That's not too much to ask.
Despite my mother's mistakes, I couldn't have asked for a better mom. I like my Mama. I think I will just let her see my flaws and explain my humanity along the way.
Motherhood is definately the hardest endevour I have ever embarked upon.
It's been worth every second.
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Yes, motherhood is hard, working or staying at home, small children and old children - we grow with the challenge, and yes, it is worthwhile!
Your love for your daughter pours out of this write-up ceaselessly. I'm glad you find complete joy in motherhood, despite its worries and stress. As for your Bach loving daughter, all I can say is - WATCH OUT WORLD!
I became a stay at home in March. I've worked all of my children's lives- one is about to be 8 and the other is 3. It's a tough job, I don't care what anyone says. I'm ready to be back at work, but trying to hold out until the school year starts. It seems that a "real job" (term used VERY loosely) is more my speed.
As your daughter gets older, you will find the need for more interaction. Wait til she starts walking.... As far as can you swear, can you drink a beer? YES. Be yourself. My kids point out when I say a swear word. And I apologize. I still have an adult beverage, in front of my kids. It doesn't make you a bad person. Just don't set out to get drunk in front of them. Your concerns are natural and a sign that you are going to be a wonderful parent because you want to be a good example. Keep up the good work!
Wow simple and yet so striking, Isnt motherhood the best thing ever compared to all the riches in the world. I have been a stay at home mom for 2 and half years now. While delivering her the only thing that was on my mind was you better be worth the pain lol. Have a daugther and she just brings life in my world. Wow your daughter is lucky to have you and your partner as parents.
Motherhood IS hard work. I went from being a top executive to stay at home mom and realized motherhood presents many more challenges and learning opportunities. One day it will hit you though, that you are a hero. You might want to check out my post on "How Much Are Mom's Worth". Thanks for the great post.
Reena Daruwalla says:
6 months ago
The very rigours of childbirth makes every woman who ever gave birth, a hero IMHO. But oh yes it is ALL worthwhile, every moment is amazing for one or another reason.