These basic steps are going to turn you into a more attractive person. But if you are not willing take the time to change what you need to change in your life, then you should stop reading right now because this is not for you. But if you are ready to take that step into manhood and the world of attracting women then read on my friends. What I am about to tell you is priceless information. It’s a fact that I should have charged you way more for than you paid.

Before we even start looking around at some online dating sites for potential candidates, we have to take a long look at ourselves. If there is anyone thing you learn from reading this it should be that WOMEN LOVE CONFIDENT MEN. What Im telling you right here is something that your father should have told you at some point and if you are like me you have had to learn these lessons on your own. We turn to crazy seductions games and weird tricks to make it heppen and yes they do work. But why do they work? Interestingly enough, at the root of every one of those techniques is confidence. If you practice any of those techniques enough, what happens? You are confident in using them because you believe in them. See how this works. I’m telling you right here and right now you don’t need some silly technique with get women. I challenge you to believe in yourself instead. You are your own best technique! Your personality with a little bit of work can seduce any woman. Trust me. You need to come of like a man that is very sure of who he is at all times. This is key! Let me say this again. You need to come of like a man that is very sure of who he is at all times. There are no exceptions to this rule. You are not going to get any woman to sleep with you, let alone go out with you if she thinks you are a wuss. This does not mean that you have to be arrogant asshole, that’s not what I’m talking about here. Just be sure of yourself and who you are. There is nothing more attractive than this.
One exercise that I like to do with myself is to write a list of everything that I think is great about me and my life. Write your own list. Then fold it up in your wallet and refer to every once in a while. The more you remind yourself about how great you are, the more confident you will become. It is so easy and it does work! In life we tend to focus way to much on the negative. This will only make you doubt yourself and bring you down. Don’t do it.! You learn to be confidant by recognizing the good areas of your life and building upon them. Lets say for example you are getting praises from your boss on the great job you did on a project. That feeling of pride and accomplishment you are feeling at that moment, let that naturally carry over into other aspects of your life. Every once in a awhile pull out that list and add to it to show your progress. If you do this, not only will you be successful in the dating world but in so many other areas of your life because your attitude will change. Wear your confidence at all times, be sure of your decisions and woman will fall at your feet.

Now take a moment and go browse around one or more of the following dating sites.

Match.com

FriendFinder.com

FastCupid.com

Don't sign just yet just check them out get yourself motivated. Do a couple of free searches and see whats out there.

So you are feeling really good about yourself and you think what’s next. Well my friends you need to spruce what you look like. Lets do, dare I say, the quick male makeover. It is not unmanly to take care of yourself. So stop whining and get it done.
Start with the basics. Brush your teeth, trim your facial hair, make sure your take a shower, and cut your fingernails. I know it sounds silly for me to say these things but you would be surprised on how many of the women I have dated over the years have told me horror stories of men who did not take care of themselves. Its so basic but yet so important, so do it everyday.

Get a new haircut. Go to a salon and spend a little money getting a haircut that is in currently in style. Women love when you do this! If you want a cheaper alternative get the classic clipper look. Tell your hairstylist or barber to go with a 3 or 4 setting on the clippers. This never goes out of style and it always looks good. If you are balding, shave it all off and rock ta bald head. There are tons women that love a clean-shaven bald man.

Get some new clothes. Now I know this will be tough for a lot of you but it does not have to be. If you have a good friend that is a woman take her shopping with you. Women love to do this. If you don’t have a friend like this let me give you a few tips.
Here are some tips form me. Designer Jeans are the basic foundation to any good casual date outfit. Go to a high end department store get a couple of pairs of designer jeans. If you are on a tight on cash try discount stores like Nordstrom Rack, TJ Max or other outlet type stores. Dark blue is always best color to choose since it goes with anything. I know allot of you are looking for an online solution for cloathes one website that I personally use all of the time is zappos.com. Zappos.com has evrything you are looking for.

Shoes are easy. Get some plain black dress shoes for classy events. I love Cole Han shoes (they are made by Nike) because they feel like you are wearing sneakers. If you are a guy who wears sneakers a lot as I do, you need to make sure they look clean and almost brand new. And don’t and I mean don’t wear those lame white athletic cross training shoes. Please trust me on that one. If you are looking for a good option consider getting a pair of black Adidas Sambas. They are classic simple sneakers that still considered cool to this day in so many circles. You can get them everywhere, they are cheap and they look great with jeans. i would also recomend to going to zappos for these as well.

Make sure that whatever you buy that your personality in someway shape or form shows through. Feel free to try your own thing and be creative. Take cues from musician’s, artists and men’s fashion magazines. You will find what you are looking for with a little bit of effort. Remember this step is so important because If you look good you will feel good and that creates Confidence.

So many guys make the mistake of thinking that they are dull. It’s probably true because if you think you are dull than will be dull. But if you think you are great and your life is great then you are great. Remember all those great things you wrote down about your life? Be proud of those things because they are the foundation of the new interesting you. Let me let you in on a little secret how about a little word called passion. Passion can change the way you communicate. Passion = Interesting. If you are passionate about something, lets say video games for instance. Learn talk about it vide games passionately. Remember you are not talking to your geeky buddy about this, you are talking to a woman. Here is a simple way to approach this---Don’t give all the details, Be vague, Relate it to something big and then dial it up with facial expressions and hand gestures.
For example-
Don’t say “I just bought the new Xbox 360 and I’m really into the new Halo 3. Yep I can play that game for days without sleeping. It is so cool”
Instead say “I really enjoy the world of video games. It’s so much fun challenging people from all over the world to play. In fact yesterday I was playing a woman Africa It was crazy. I kicked her ass.” Then smile
You see you are not changing who you are, but you are changing the perspective in which you look at things and the way you talk about them. But remember you also need to listen. I don’t suggest you stay on that topic…lol. But it is an example of how you can make anything that you truly are interested in to something magical for them to listen to. Its like talking in code or mentally sparring with them. Don’t be afraid just go for it. Practice this in the mirror. Act like you are having a conversation with yourself. By doing this you will be able to see how interesting you look just by watching yourself talk. Dial it up and practice some more. This sounds crazy but it works!! You can learn how to be animated with out being cheesy by practicing in this way.
Its more important how you talk than what you are talking about. If you learn how to talk and be interesting about what you love, it’s going to help you and guide you on how to talk to woman about other things.
Here are some other Ideas that can help you out with being interesting. Read the news everyday. Go to yahoo news and be the guy who knows what’s happening. Pay attention to the entertainment, medical and tech Odd news section. Look for those little interesting articles that are cool or unusual and talk about them. If you are a music fan, talk about the new artist that you just discovered on I-tunes. Find things that interest you to and then learn how to communicate then passionately to others. If you know how to be funny tell a few jokes. Don’t be afraid to use your hands and be expressive when you speak. And be sure to flash a confidant smile every once in while.

The last part of being interesting is knowing when to listen. You are going to do a lot of it. Listening to what she is saying is key The more you know about her the more you can push her buttons. Be a great talker and an even better listener.

Ok so now your attitude is good, you look good and you find that you have plenty of good interesting shit about yourself. It is now time to take the step of setting up some accounts on a few online dating sites, this by far the easiest way to ask somebody out. The sign up cost for a couple dating sites is minimal and but the woman are plenty;) That puts the odds in your favor my friend. I have also tried dating and payed sites. The difference is simple. People who are paying for a membership are more serious asbout dating. I have had way more success with a paying memebership than with any free dating site. Your options are unlimtted so now Its the time and sign up for one or more of the following sites. The price range is from aourn 20-30 bucks a month. This is not a big price to pay to dial you in a endless supply of woman looking to go out and have a good time.

Ok time to sign up check out any of the sites I have listed below.

Match.com

FriendFinder.com

FastCupid.com

Setting up your profile on any of these sites is very simple. What is important here is what you say about yourself and what you don’t say. My favorite exercise’s is to list of a bunch of qualities that are great about yourself.For example start it this way. Passionate, adventurous, caring, exciting, and funny are a few ways to describe the type of person I am. That line is such a great opener to a profile. It has taken some of the most sought after quality’s women are looking for in a man and in one sentence has made her immediately associate them with you. I can tell you from personal experience that this works like a charm. Rework in anyway you like and whatever suits you.
After a good opener talk about yourself a little bit. You don’t want to tell her your life story in your profile, make it short sweet and leave her wondering. That’s the beauty of women they like a mystery that they can solve. If you put it all out there you have left them with nothing to discover and that makes you boring. In some way tell them that you are a little picky about what you are looking for and hoping she can in some way meet your standards. Women like the Idea of a challenge. Pictures are important. Get a professional or even a semi professional picture taken of you. Try some smiling and some semi serious. If you are worried about cash, you can get a good looking picture taken of yourself at any Walmart for under 8 bucks. This should be your main photo. Other photos should be of you with family or friends having fun. Find a picture of you and another woman having a good time, use it even if it’s your cousin. If it looks like women enjoy being around you, she will think hat you are fun to be around. Its crazy but true.!

Find some dates. Do a search and pick out the ones you like. Send them a message. Pick out something in they wrote in their profile and mention it in someway. Be witty with your title of your message to get her attention. Women like to be approached first, so don’t be afraid. Do not tell her she is beautiful, ever. That is lame and they here it all the time. The fact you are you are contacting her in the first place shows her that you are interested and attracted. Compliment her passions and interests not her looks. Question her on something she wrote in her profile. Intrigue and tease her a little. The goal is to get her to come check out what else you have to say on your profile and to continue the conversation. You want to write no longer than 6 sentences and no shorter than 3 sentences. Give a little time between responses. Then get her out. Say “I think we should grab drinks.” Be direct. Don’t ask her tell her. Follow these rules and you will find plenty of potential dates.

All right!! So its time to hit the town with your new found friend. Follow my lead here and your in. What to do? My recommendation would be to take her out for a drink. Its much easier to get to know somebody after a couple of cocktails and nothing gets you into her pants faster;) I am in no way encouraging you to get her drunk, please don’t misinterpret me here, that is not the goal. The goal is to get the both of you to relax.
When If you can get away with it, go out with her during the week around 7-8 this gives you a couple of hours at the bar and an opening to take her back to your place. I prefer weeknights as opposed to weekends because there are less people out so its more intimate. The Place. Make it a cool restaurant, lunge upscale pub. You should know the place well and it helps if to run into people you know. You are building a your character.
OK you’re at the place and walk in to meet her. Disarm her. Do this by touching her shoulder or giving her a hug when you first meet her. Pick a place where you can be close and have your room at the same time. I prefer sitting at the bar at a place that has a entertaining bar tender or some type of music act going on. Get the conversation going and order a couple of drinks. Use your skills that we learned before. This is where it all comes together, now is your time to be interesting while acting confident and looking good. That is your game, so use it.
Start a conversation and let her take it from there. While she is talking look into her eyes one at a time and then let your eyes go down to her chest every once in while. Make sure that she sees you do this. Its ok to check out your date. And she wants you too. In a clever way Insert the subject of sex into the conversation. This will make her start thinking about sex
Touch her thigh everyone in awhile to emphasize what you are saying. Then lean back in your chair and act cool and aloof. You are playing with her senses and this simple cool way of getting her fired up.
One of my favorite things to do during a date is to change venues a couple of times to keep it exciting and adventurous. You are building up tension with her as well as making her comfortable with you.
After you have been out for a few hours you will get a pretty good feeling of where you stand. Its now time to get her back to your place. During the coarse of your evening challenge her to a game of some sort that you keep at your home. Tell her you can her at it no problem Bring this up early on. When you are ready to bring her home bring it up again and say you have it back at your place.

If drinking is not your thing and you are looking for other Ideas check out this fantastic guide with 300 creative date Ideas. YOu can still use your board game in your plan just spin into the conversation at some point during the date. Challenge of over the course of the evening and bring it back up towards the end of the date.

Ok here is the end game. If you got her to your place you are in great shape. Have a couple things good music, the game you were talking about and a bottle of your favorite wine. Crack a bottle of wine as soon as you walk in and pour her a glass. Turn on the music and set up the game. Do this all very smoothly as if you have done this millions of times before. She will like this.
Make your move on her. Play a couple of rounds of the game and move in at some point and kiss her and go back to playing the game. This will really heat up at this point and start a big make-out session and then move it to the bedroom.

If she does not respond the first time you do this, she will eventually. The rule is 3 dates. A lot of women do not like to sleep with someone on the first date because they are worried that you may think they are cheap. However some will and will tell you they have never done this before. If you play your cards right and are a little aggressive you csn and will score on the first night.
Once you have her in the bedroom the rest is up to you. At this point I don’t think you need any more instruction from me.

Go back and check out those dating websites listed above, put up a little cash and have allot of fun! The world is in the palm of your hands all you have to do is take acction. So get to it and go get LAID!!