The Eye Candy Phenomena
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It's A Man's Candy Store
We're human and we (men and women) love anything visually appealing, like eye candy.
At the mall today, I gave my husband the friendy nudge that implies 'yes, I noticed you checking out (way too long) the girl walking in front of us'. Some other male spectators saw this and chimed in that they couldn't help it either. I took one look at all these men and noticed that not one would be eye candy for me. In fact, I couldn't remember the last time I saw a man worth labeling eye candy, other than in a magazine or movie. Yep, it's a man's world- and he owns the damn candy store too.
Who can blame a man for ogling other attractive women, even if he's standing right next to his significant other? It's true, I'd like to blame them because it irritates me, but there is an abundance of attractive women out there comparatively to how many attractive men strolling down the street. That's the problem I have; the playing field is not evenly matched. I wouldn't notice my man staring at other women if I was too busy staring at another attractive man. Women do so much more with enhancing their looks than men, and there isn't much eye candy readily available for women.
I'm overjoyed my husband gets a 100% chance of seeing at least ten beautiful women in an average day, but I will see that many living, breathing, attractive men maybe in one year. No, the male cologne and clothing models in women's magazines don't count. All I'm asking is to see more of those hotties just casually going about their day and crossing my path, like while I'm at the mall, or the bank, or getting a latte.
For any man reading this, it's a plea to do more with your looks. Women need eye candy too. It will also help the uneven sex drives between men and women. Ever wonder why men think about sex more often than women; they have more eye candy to trigger those thoughts. I'd probably be the same if I had attractive prompts thrown at me nearly ever public place I visited.
When I get the rare chance of witnessing an attractive man, it takes all I have to not turn into a typical cartoon image with my tongue rolling out of my mouth onto the ground, steam coming out of my ears, and frantic bouncing up and down with my eyes popping out. It just happens so rarely that I feel like when it does happen, I should get extreme salivating and staring priveliges, much more than what my husband is respectfully allowed. Also, I would like a few minutes to conjure a quick fantasy with the man too.
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thinking out loud~ Agreed on your point, although I think it's normal for a man (or woman) to look. I just wish I had more to look at.
Men may be pigs, but women are smarter than pigs and there is no way a woman will not notice a guy looking at another woman- it's like a sixth sense for us. Actually, we notice beautiful women too, and then we check to see if our man notices her too. He can notice her but no prolonged staring or turning his head. My husband tries to not get caught by wearing sunglasses- never works.
I hated my husband looking when I was pregnant because I really couldn't do anything about my shape and I couldn't see how any man would find pregnant woman attractive.
I think these candy looks are harmless (if not followed by actions) bcz as you said there are lots of attractive women out there! Sometiems, a woman invites men to look at her by the way she dresses...
shamelabboush~ Each couple is different. If you're with a woman who feels uncomfortable with you looking, then you should curb your wandering eye in her company. Since there are many opportunities to view beautiful women on a daily basis, you can still get plenty of looks in when you're not with your woman.
Thank you for this delicious Hub. You certainly have a valid position. I think we have three issues here. One, I think women are simply more beautiful creatures than men. (Isn't it interesting though that with animals it is usually the opposite?) Two, I think men are far more visually oriented in their brain wiring in general. Men play video games ten times more and watch sports five times more than women—and we won't even get into Playboy or porno. Lastly, it seems men are discouraged from primping. It is considered somehow, a bit unmanly, isn't it?
Thanks for making me think.
James A. watkins~ Very vaild points. I definitely don't like boys who primp- no waxing, coloring, or spending hours on hair. But I think a man would check out a woman with a great body even if she didn't do her hair and make-up that day. So primping plays a lesser role for both sexes really.
Men can certainly work out and do what is acceptable aside from primping. Most women would agree we enjoy men with a good body, and the gruff and shaggy look is in for guys anyway.
I have to argue about men being more visual. I think women appreciate visual stimuli maybe more- we are the primpers right? We like a beautiful boquet of flowers, and our house decorated just right.
izettl - hey :) I saw your comment on stevemark's hub about living your dreams and I loved it. Just keep on writing no matter what! I'm a recent addage to hp working on my first hub, so I haven't had much time to read others, but I enjoyed your hub pretty much. :)
I had no clue that women want more eye candy. :)
The baggy, droopy pants for men that are the rage now should be banned. Used to be if a guy wasn't drop dead gorgeous, we could at least drool over a nice tight butt. Now that's hidden too.
You're right about the lack of eye candy. Whenever I see one, I have the same reaction as you. Least I vaguely remember that's how I react...it happens so rarely these days.
There was a drop-dead-gorgeous hunk living next door...one *delicious* piece even in grodies out walking the dog. Met him on the stairs once when he was wearing a perfectly cut suit and the most delicious cologne. O. M. G. Alas, he moved after only a couple of months, and now there's a guy over there who favors baggy and droopy. Yuck!
I'm with you, let's see more eye candy for women! It is very natural for all humans to notice attractiveness, but it is lopsided.
Note to guys: You could have the lion's share of women ogling you if you'd step forward and be the first to make this movement!
This is a very interesting post, and the comments are just as compelling. I agree that there is no harm in eye candy for either gender. And while much of it has been removed from us women, there is still plenty left. Thanks to summer jogging habits, I see some pretty nice looking young bodies. Then I have to come back to my senses and say "darn he is young enough to be your kid, or worse yet grandkid (ouch)". Life is not fair, let's face it after a certain age all this eye candy becomes incestuous! Darn!
bela mongyi~ Thanks for your encouragement. Glad to have you on hubpages- it's a great place to write freely. I love to write on hubapages about random thoughts that pop in my head. I write mostly children's and young adult fiction, except on hubpages where I write mostly adult and non-ficiton pieces. It's actually helped my other writing. Everybody's comments are great too, even the non-supportive ones.
jamagenee~ baggy jeans- oh! I just wish that style would end. How would guys feel if there was a new popularity of baggy clothing styles for women. You added one more aspect of women's lack of eye cabndy. BTW- Very sorry about your luck with the neighbor guy moving out.
kcc bigcountry~You are right! I'm waiting for hte first guy to being tight butt jeans back in.
mireille G~ You are too funny, but that reminds me- all the regular joggers in my neighborhood are gay. They seem to care about their body more so even gay men have mroe eye candy than women. Ughh! You are never too old to look and more nowadays- older women are going for younger guys.
Men are scum. I'm so glad I'm not one--I'm just a guy.
The key is to not be obvious. Shame on your husband for getting caught! Seriously, I've come to think it's really part of our DNA. I don't think we can help it. Now, this in no way excuses it or makes it right, but a little understanding can go a long way.
Oh I'm understanding- I'm still married.
thinking out loud says:
7 months ago
First thing a man needs to learn when he gets married is how to look without getting caught. Sorry, we're pigs, we can't help it.