It has often been said, [I say it all the time], "IF you really want to know a person, look at his/her mate." As startling as that tidbit of information may be, the piercing truth stands while the rest of the ‘crock of bull’ falls away. You are NO different from the person(s) facing you at the moment. Any moment. You are, in fact, speaking out loud to yourself when in conversation.The other person is but a clear indicative mirror of yourself. Dialogue both inner and outer is a syllabic process.

As with day and night, hot and cold, glad and sad, you and your mate, (the two) are inseparably linked. Life’s ongoing intricate experiment is to see exactly who/what it is you are looking at and how to integrate the compositional substance offered. We are talking about gut-level sexual expression.

We all, pretty much,  want to better understand our involvements. They baffle us on some level.  Why? Because we baffle ourselves.  We are not known, nor are we vested (except that it becomes a problem) in delving into our deepest motivations and inclinations. We, kinda like, stumble along in current relationships until at some point a conflicting issue arises and then we declare, "Why did he/she do that to me?"  Nobody did anything. You are int he process of meeting your own face.

We have now ventured into the 7^th house of the MODE OF CosmicTherapy Esoteric Astrological Information where the horror of mirrors is located. You may want to refer to this particular house as the one where everywhere you look, you see yourself. Ouch! For this particular (LIFE) incarnation is filled with the single purpose of dissection and of your coming to terms with the ambiguous behavior of having ‘two faces apparently talking at the same time saying two opposing things’. Not true, but while vigorously engaged in the conversation, it appears that way!

One of the faces is determined to find out who he/she really is and how he/she fits into this vast universe, (it matters not whether the individual is conscious of this intent) no matter how much (labor) arguing belittling unpleasantness is involved in doing so. The other tries to please, placate, and pacify, afraid that IF he/ she doesn’t overcompensate for the feelings of the other, he/she will be abandoned, forsaken, rejected, abjectly discarded [left lonely and destitute]. The problem with this dichotomy is that the gulf that which separates the two faces is so deep and wide they both fall in head first without being able to swim. What happens next is sheer insanity. One grabs onto the other who apparently knows nothing about swimming; near drowning is the result.

Next, a fierce caustic frantic battle ensures in order to preserve oneself after exhaustion. This desperate action brings on a tremendous amount of confusion, misappropriated anger, resentment, competition, grief, strife and unrest. Relationship blaming sends a false smoke signal. What time you are not in a perpetual state of bewilderment, you are abrupt, short tempered and uneasy trying to ward off what you perceive as an intrusive invasion. You are on guard most of the time because you believe wholeheartedly you are under attack. The unnatural tension created makes for a slightly undesirable journey or worse yet, a phony superficial relating by trying to walk as if on egg shells so not to upset the other. Blah! Boring! Get a life.

Until the two faces are brought into some kind of mutual unity, (by bringing something of measurable sexual essence to the table) you will both be driving recklessly down the highway of life at break neck speeds running into and over everyone else in your path.

Let us just for a few minutes, pretend we’ve all lived before, thousands of times in every conceivable manner and at the same time let us imagine we are living multi-dimensionally too. How could this be? Easy, IF you think about it. But, of course, you have never been one who has been accused of thinking, have you?

If there is the remotest possibility that this multi-dimensional living is actually occurring, then, the relationship and its abstaining barriers brings on more talk. It might just be possible, then that the 7^th house offers for you a tremendously enterprising romper room full of creative artistic sexual opportunity to have fun, entertain yourself and others while at the same time enjoy the unsurpassed luxury of your existence. How dare you indulge in the wonderful pleasures you alone desire? Something so absurd as enjoying erotic pleasures, how could a relationship embrace that wild possibility?

Don’t think for one minute that this engaging prospect lets you off the hook where intimate involvements are formed, established, maintained and nurtured. Quite the contrary. Being alive on earth involves a certain amount of suffering associated while developing the needed tools for proper reflection and application. {And, then you throw Sex in the mix.} In other words, you are to experience, in this dispensation of time, the pertinent lessons needed to eliminate the negative attributes which in the past have prevented you from enjoying a full exceptionally free flowing fun loving sexually stimulating attractive magnetized energetic enthusiastic productive artistic sacredly productive life. In other words, youa re to get to the palce where you can speak boldly how you want your pleasure.

I bring this somewhat sorrow slanted shadowed fact right up front so that you may better understand the endless repetitive feelings of victim-hood you project, indulge, and experience pretty much on a daily basis. You can not possibly begin to appreciate, apply and receive the enormous beauty (liberating truth) of the sexually invigorating magnitude of sensation in real intimacy from lessons in this earth school throughout your journey unless you are consciously aware of what you are dealing with. [Yourself]

In other more sensuous words, you will continuously have to confront and slay the feelings of ‘Getting the short end of the stick’ until you come to terms with the insecurity you are feeling. When you feel ‘shut out’ it’s only because you are the one doing the shutting out! No one is doing it to you. You are acting in a double blind situation whereby you are double-minded in your requests. Come clean.

You inherently KNOW how to experience the other but oftentimes confuse the boundary lines. {To such a degree, that you merely have not formed your own inclusive way of swimming without imitating. Far too much insecurity bubbling in the soup.} The task of finding out who you truly are and what it is you truly want and how you are truly going to go about securing these things will be the greatest adventure of your entire life. Be still. Stop your frantic hurrying. Don’t confuse your intent. The other is speaking it loud and clear. After you get used to the realization of your incessant babbling and worrisome compulsion to battle yourself-all the time- you will be forced to let go and surrender some of the defense mechanisms you maintain in order to survive. Why do you try so hard to conceal what is obviously spilling out of your cells in every single confrontation?

There are so many layers of you waiting to be excavated, explored and exposed. But, unless you move your barometer of ‘allowing varied experiences to enter’ without first pre-judging, condemning or criticizing their worth, merit or added benefit, a little more to the right, you will continue feel stuck, angry, tired and wasted. To break the protective ‘mold of control’ will be one of the greatest challenges you will ever face. Ease up on the other and you will naturally ease up on you.Can you possibly empty out your 'room of self' long enough to experience uncluttered feelings?

Your genuine no kidding 7^th house sign , along with the planet which rules it shows you precisely the temperature of who your are in relationships. Locate its ruling planet in your chart. What area does he govern? Ring a bell? Your partner relates to that type of energy, nothing else but!!! You will inevitably play tricks until you Wake Up and seize the moment of treachery you so bewitchingly cast. When you start nagging, criticizing, repeating yourself, and butting your two cents worth on every comment made by the other, you have once again entered into a self-debilitating scenario. The other does not need your permission, validation, or approval.Check out the local prison to see if they need an wardens.

What role are you playing: warden, mommy/daddy, sister/brother, priest, confidant, or sparring partner? What happened to the insatiable sex goddess/male god?

It will take time to learn all the many wondrous skillful ways your other face uses in order to snare, confuse, and stop you dead in your tracks. Your other face, which does belong to you seeks to devour you if at all possible. Its ruthless determined plight is to build you up in a “know it all” position then drop you on your face in deep humiliation and echoing despair. Remember: it is alright to be wrong. There is no such thing as embarrassment unless you are interested in maintaining a phony front, which leads to either a sexless or sexually unrewarding relationship. Who needs that!