The Kids Are Watching You!

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By marisuewrites


Kiss Me, Froggy

Well. Maybe Not...

I Learned From You, Dad!

Warning, This Video is Vividly Descriptive


Do You Have A Smoker's Face?

Stop! If you're my friend, I love your face anyway. I'm just saying, if you want to quit, and need some extra motivation, maybe we could come up with a few reasons. Actually, I've come up with over 1000. I'm working on 1440, one for every minute of everyday.

No lecture, here. I don't have the smoking addiction, but I'm addicted to stress, over achieving, chocolate, and procrastinating exercise. It's hard for me to quit anything. I'm very disciplined in many areas and a complete wreck in others. Isn't that life?

If you have a habit you want to quit, remember to find something good to replace it. Otherwise, you have a big hole in your routine, and you could "fall" right back into the habits of old.

If you're a parent, you already know that the kids are watching you. As soon as you let a cuss word rip, they are repeating it. The minute you throw a fit, they've got all the steps down. If you're sad, mad or depressed, they will soon be following in your footsteps. What are we saying? What are we teaching them, or those who love us?

While doing a bit of research, I've come across some characteristics of the smoker's face. No raving beauty, I'm still vain about my face. I slather on moisturizer, and clean routinely, but I keep it simple.

There are many reasons to quit smoking, but I thought if any of you have even half my vanity, this might get your attention:

"Smoker's Face" is defined as one or more of the following:

  • lines or wrinkles on the face, typically radiating at right angles from the upper and lower lips or corners of the eyes,
  • deeplines on the cheeks,
  • numerous shallow lines on the cheeks and lower jaw.

If that doesn't bother you, maybe this will:

1)There is a subtle gauntness of facial features with distinctive underlying bony contours.

2)Redness of the face, with noticeable blood vessels, even orange or purple in appearance.

3)Lesser changes show as slight sinking of the cheeks. In some cases these changes are associated with a leathery, worn or rugged appearance.

4)The skin can become gray.

5)Some people have a bloated look that is also associated with alcoholism.

There is so much research about the effects of smoking on the skin, I had trouble narrowing it down to this statement: "...The changes in the colour and quality of the skin suggest a toxic process... In my experience, many people notice the ravages of smoking for the first time when it is pointed out to them that they can be identified as smokers by their faces alone." - Dr Douglas Model, British Medical Journal (1985);

Research had my attention pretty quickly.

Did you know that cigarette smoke contains more than 4000 toxins? And, many of these toxins are absorbed directly into the bloodstream and are taken by the blood right into the structure of your skin.

This happens immediately. We're only looking at how the skin is effected, I am not even going to discuss what it does to your lungs. I'm just focusing on our vanity.

Smoking cigarettes reduces the efficiency with which the skin can renew itself - smoking causes the narrowing of the blood vessels at the top layers of the skin, which in turn reduces blood supply to the skin.

It is the reduced blood supply which causes a reduction in the availability of oxygen (which is necessary for all living cells) and the removal of waste products, dead cell fragments etc... which provide the necessary environment for skin cell renewal.

Cigarette smoking causes the blood vessels at the top layers of the skin to constrict, reducing the oxygen level in the blood there. This thickens the blood and reduces the levels of collagen in the skin (it is actually because of this that smoking is also associated with slow or incomplete healing of wounds).

In fact, smoking a single cigarette can produce cutaneous (pertaining to the skin) vasoconstriction (decrease in the calibre of blood vessels) for up to 90 minutes. (Smith and Fenske, Journal of the American Academy of Dermatol)

Now, I don't know how many cigarettes you smoke a day, but if it's 20 or more, that's 1800 minutes with little blood flow to the skin. That's 1 day and 360 more minutes. That gives birth to a few wrinkles, I would think.

Recently, a British study took "...25 pairs of identical twins where one twin was a lifelong smoker and the other had never smoked. The doctors used an ultrasound technique to gauge inner arm skin thickness. The smoker's skin was a quarter thinner than that of the non-smokers and in a few cases there were differences of up to 40 per cent." (Twins study, St Thomas's Hospital)

Are you looking in the mirror yet?

SUMMARY OF SMOKING FACTS

  • Reduces blood flow to the skin
  • Causes the skin to look dry and sallow
  • Encourages wrinkles to develop around the mouth and "crow's feet" around the eye
  • Stains the skin and teeth
  • Causes the stale tobacco smell
  • Causes the premature skin ageing and wrinkling
  • Delays wound healing
  • Puckered mouth from smoking action
  • Wrinkles around the eyes due to squinting to avoid the smoke
  • Pale complexion due to nicotine constricting blood vessels
  • Thinned, sagging wrinkled skin due to loss of collagen from free radical damage

I hope you will take a new look at your smoking habit. I will not join those who nag you because when I nagged my children, they only increased their smoking. The little snots. They quit on their own,

I will say, click here, for a beginning of the 1001 Reasons to Quit Smoking

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jeromeo  says:
3 months ago

You know MSW, I saw my X wife after we were seperatee for about ten years. She continued to smoke where as I had quit. She was passing by iin her car. from a little over 150 feet I could see her face. Her skin looked like parchment paper.

Later I found out she also had throat cancer. Smoking will destroy your life.

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Yes! and smokers feel it everyday. I'm so glad you quit, but I bet you are more so. Now, if I could just quit procrastinating exercising....

thanks for reading...=))

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talented_ink  says:
3 months ago

You know smoking, addictions, and exercise are three of my favorite topics to talk about. You keep procrastinating about exercise? How about a walk around the block for starters?

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Pam Pounds  says:
3 months ago

Marisue - how right you are. I've never been a smoker, but my mother was. She died of lung cancer at age 60 - 5 years after she quit. It was too little too late. It's nasty stuff.

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

hi Talented Ink, I walk some, but I used to walk 30 - 45 min a day...now, 10 min tops. sigh. I love walking; everything seems to get in the way!! =))

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Pam, my husbands father died of lung cancer too...Lynn smoked before that, but quit when I met him, my dad smoked most of his life, died when he was 81, but had a heart attack when he was 62 -- smoking contributed. We all have bad habits, I know it's not easy to quit them. and think about 2nd hand smoke....yikes.

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talented_ink  says:
3 months ago

From experience I can say that if you want to do something, you can find a way to sneak in some time for it. Just look for the hidden 20 minutes in your day.

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

thats true, I used to find the time, I could...if I just DID it. =) I will, I will.

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NJoG  says:
3 months ago

Marisue, what a great article. All of our little pictures have big ears and eyes. Our little darlings learn by what they see. So many parents do not realize they are role models for their young ones. Thank you for putting this hub out here. You are a wonderful gem of knowledge and you just know how to say it so well.

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Hi there! We are so busy, as parents, living our own life and parenting, we forget how we might look and sound to the kids. I know i've sure not been a great example at times. Other times when I'm doing really good -- they're looking the other way!!! isn't that the way it is? then, when we know what we're doing...they're grown and we're out of a job !!

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CJStone  says:
3 months ago

Hi marisue, the problem with this argument is that smokers already know all of this. They know it's going to kill them.They know it makes them grey and ugly. They know they get wrinkles. They know it's bad for the kids, and, despite all of that, they are still compelled to smoke. It's an addiction. There are ways to cure it (I know, cos I'm an ex-smoker myself) but applying logic or truth has never been one of them.

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

sigh....so true. I have other addictions; and no one single moment of logic or truth has stopped my stress, insomnia, writing, or craving that piece of pie. LOL

good to see you!!

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PenmanZee  says:
3 months ago

Great hub Marisue. I've been told many times that the f-word and the s-word are all part of the culture and I should get used to it. I am not, and I'm always amazed when I see parents use those very words in front of their kids or even to their kids. So why are we surprised when they speak the same language? We have certainly lowered the bar in terms of generally acceptable language and conduct.

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Hi Penmanzee, glad you stopped by!! I'm always surprised how quickly kids pick up our bad habits and how slow they are to imitate the good. Studies show that it takes 11 postiive to out weigh one negative (experience, criticism, ratio to praise and positive) Maybe we are all just prone to "go" negative quickly.

Every smoker knows the price of it, my motivation is only to speak about what it does to our outward appearance....much science discusses the lungs and heart. I was hoping to appeal to our vanity, and the fact that our habits are imitated by the young. I am still going to write the 1001 Reasons to Stop Smoking, just as a refresher bit of info. I think the story, behind the smoking hub, is that as the title says...."The Kids Are Watching" which is my main point...and you picked that up -- I think I over played the smoking part. LOL oops. My fingers do wander with my thoughts as I type and sometimes, there's no telling where the story goes.

a writer's challenge. hahaha =)) Comoe back soon and visit http://anamericanday.com too if you have a moment.

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PenmanZee  says:
3 months ago

Looking forward to it. Always interesting. 

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

great comment there as well!! be glad to have you!!

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desert blondie  says:
3 months ago

As an exsmoker myself(more than 10 years now)... I agree with CJStone's comment. But my own 'strength' at becoming a non-smoker tends to make me very impatient with those who 'blame' the continuation of their nicotine drug habit on the addictive nature of their drug of choice. My father died at 54 of lungcancer, my maternal grandmother also died young after having quit for more than 5 years. Hypnosis worked instantly for her...just too late. And now, since I have lung cancer on both sides of family...my insurance pays for a yearly chest Xray for me...much like a mammogram or colonoscopy since I'm so 'at risk.' An annual reminder of how stupid I was and how vulnerable my body is. I take much better care of it these days!

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Hi desertblondie!! I had to lose the attitude when dealing with my own kids smoking. I was so scared for them, and disappointed. However, I realize it's an addiction, and we treated it as such; helping them - when they were in the mood - to look up information about how to deal with it. They quit on their own after a few years. I always say, keep the kid/loved one, toss the cigarette attitude. =) Still - we all know the costs of it, not only in $$ but health Sheeeesh I wish there was something addictive that wasn't harmful.

Love maybe? no, sometimes that hurts too, can't think of anything. even the air we breathe is polluted; sigh, guess we just have to take the bad with the good. did you get my email?

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desert blondie  says:
3 months ago

Some folks say they've gotten addicted to bicycling, yoga, running ... so maybe there are healthy' addictions.' Luckily for me, my daughters never picked up a cigarette ... the kids, I think, were watching how bad their mom was being and wanted no part of it!!! Yeah! And then they were old enough to be happy and proud when I quit. Got an email today.

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Hi desert - I also emailed you again, so you should have two...I don't trust yahoo anymore...sheeesh! I was addicted to walking at one time; now its spasmodic...don't want to let my rear grow. ahah I sit so much writing and then am running two storage sites. sooo we don't hurt for something to do. addicted to work maybe? ha

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Just_Rodney  says:
3 months ago

Speaking from vast attempts and trying all sorts of thearopy and regimes of exercise and consuning vast quantitities of water.

I said one saturday morning, six years ago, that the cigerattee i had put was my last cigarette. I have not smoked since then. The power of that discission was the power to stop.

And I did.

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Hi Just_Rodney, I'm proud of you! Before I married my husband, that's the way he quit. Just decided he was done. Most people who smoke have told me the same; it's in the head first; even tho the body craves it. All cravings perhaps could be said, to be solved by the head. Altho there are some who say pills help, therapy helps, still, I think that nothing is for sure, until we decide. The strength is pulled from the guy and torturous days and moments. I've been fortunate to not be addicted to drugs, smoking or alcohol. But here's why. I never started. I know that I would be sucked right in. I feared that and left them alone.

I'm weak....and I know it. Now don't get me started talking about chocolate pie, however. My hips couldn't stand it today. hahaha No time to walk.

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desert blondie  says:
3 months ago

Sooooo, KUDOS and CONGRATS to you for never starting, your husband for quitting, Rodney for quitting, to jeromeo, and CJ !! ...oh, and me! for quitting....and to all those who have found the will to STOP SMOKING !!!!! Hurrah!

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Your lungs, heart, skin, hair, breath, face SALUTE YOU!!! I LOVE it....

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nytsmasher76  says:
3 months ago

I have weaned myself off booze (12 oz. of beer now makes me really woozy) and now on my way with cigs...hehehe...thanks for helping me making up my mind about quitting cigs...I found this site really helpful too http://www.becomeanex.org...I'm down to a pack a day from 2 1/2 pack/day habit so I am getting there...

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Hi nytsmasher76!! GOOD FOR YOU!!! I know you're proud of yourself and you should be!! we start so many habits before we realize they hurt us...then it's such a struggle! Just like all the info about nutrition now, all very different than the fats and sugars we used to consume with no thought about heart disease, etc.

Keep on going, you're going to make it!! =))

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ripplemaker  says:
3 months ago

I have a dear friend who smokes. I've tried everything from threats to entreaties to lending support and on and on...until I just realized that I can't make her quit. The desire to quit has to stem from inside of her. I just stay away when she feels the need to smoke. My sinuses can't take it and I go into fits of coughing. Anyhow instead of getting mad, I also have decided to visualize her free and healthy and breathing in good air. :)

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marisuewrites  says:
3 months ago

Hi ripplemaker; very good approach. Sending good Karma is a nice behind the scenes wya to help... Here's hoping. I feel empathy for anyone trying to quit a bad habit!! =))

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