The Terrible Things People Say About Your Weight!
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skinny photo taken long ago.
I know there are lots of people with this kind of problem. Nasty fat remarks people make to you. Your not alone I have received many.
I'm short so even 5 lbs. on me shows up very fast. I may be only 10 lbs. over my weight goal but I guess even that looks fat on me. I go up and down and I stay in Weight Watchers so that I have to weigh in and face the leader each week keeps me from gaining more.
I'm a stressful eater. My husband the minute he gets stressed he loses weight. When he's happy he gains.
Here are some of the nasty remarks I have heard through the years.
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Once I was walking in a hallway in the Mall when a couple teen boys walked passed me and went "oink, oink."
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Mother introduced me as her fat daughter.
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Once while visiting in RI downtown Newport a truck passed with 3 or 4 men in it construction workers....they yelled....2 BY 4 at me.
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A so called friend once said you gained at least 4 sizes since I have known you. This was said by a heavy man. He knew me when I was only 95 lbs.
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My mother and I were standing at the window doing dishes when the lady down the road came outside she was about 300 lbs. my mother said "That looks like you" at the time I had just had a baby and weighed 115 lbs. I have pictures of myself on that vacation " Oh how I wish I looked like that now." No matter how much I weigh my mother will always think I'm fat. She thinks that of just about everyone she sees.
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My mother and my Aunts telling me I look like my great grandmother who was a very big woman but a very lovely person. Their saying this because of my weight.
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Trying to join a swim class at the Y for health reasons then knowing a person there is saying how fat I am. I stop going to the class because I found out what was being said. No one will ever see me in a swimsuit again.
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Once had a neighborhood lady say to me when I was about 7-8 months pregnant that she had heard I went way over board with my weight gain." Through the whole pregnancy I gained 25 lbs. Just the amount the doctor allowed me to gain. I wasn't over weight when I started out.
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I had a heart attack when I was 38. People would say to me "Well, now maybe you'll take better care of yourself." As if they did everything perfect but I didn't. At that time my weight was 115. I had a houseful of kids, animals, and husband that I took care of everyday. I gardened, bowled, walked and helped my husband get wood. I was very active and didn't over eat never ate fast food. Made meals at home with fresh food.
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I had a friend stop by my house that I had not seen since I was 17 and the first thing she said to me " She couldn't believe that I would gain weight." When I was 17....I weighed about 95 lbs. it's hard for anyone to stay that way forever.
I have more to add to this list once I remember them all. The list goes on and on. I have no idea why people think it's ok to say anything they want. I would never be so rude as to say anything nasty to anyone. I keep trying to lose my weight. Struggle with it each day. Sometimes you just want to say "Oh, forget it eat what you want."
Look at what celebrities go through with their weight and what the tabloids say about them. It always surprises me at what people consider fat.
Just go on the internet and see what terrible things their saying about Jessica Simpson just because she has put on some weight.
There is nothing you can do about ignorant people . You just have to go on and be happy with yourself. I saw a young pretty woman yesterday that I had not seen in a long time. I know she has three little girls, pretty little things with bouncy curly hair. I was shocked by the weight she had put on I could tell she was breathing hard as she tried to do her work. I don't know if she has health problems that caused this weight gain because I don't know her well. She very well is completely happy with herself just the way she is.
I felt bad for her because I know she very likely goes through much each day from people she meets. Many people have that attitude if they say something about your weight it will help you lose it. WRONG! It just causes more sadness and in some more eating.
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I'm really not unhappy with myself but it seems many people are unhappy with me.
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Thanks for comments, goldentoad.
I have no words. What terrible, hurtful things! I have struggled with my weight all my life as well. Up, down, up, down. The minute stress hits, I turn right to food. I know how hard it is, and sayilng, "Just put down the fork" isn't that easy. Some people smoke, drink, over-exercise, bite their nails....I happen to overeat to deal with stress. The only thing is, other can throw out their ciggies, not allow booze in their home, etc. WE can't avoid food!
Are you watching Ruby on TLC? I love her and really relate to her. I just wondered if you are watching the series.
And not to be disrespectful, but methinks your grandmother imparted some very very screwed up thoughts on body image to your mother and her sisters. I'm so sorry that YOU are the one paying the price for that.
I see Ruby is on TLC but have not watched it.
Actually I don't think my grandmother caused the problem my mother has with weight. I don't ever remember my grandmother saying anything about anyones weight. My mother seems to have this problem all by herself. She was always skinny now that she is 87 she has gained weight but says nothing about herself. Her sisters are all heavier. My mother has a warped sense of what is fat.
I also eat when I'm stressed. My husband stops eating when he is stressed he smokes more and more. Our son was in the hospital for two months and I gained 10 lbs. during that time. We were spending everyday all day long at the hospital eating hospital food. Once he was home and ok I lost that 10 lbs. right away.
Thanks for comments. I guess many things people say have to be over looked and but you know they are never forgotten.
I am very sorry to hear that you had to deal with such harsh comments. But I have to also say that it is very helpful to hear that I am not alone. Sometimes we just have to be happy with ourselves and not worry about what others think which can be easier said than done at times. I also think that those that make comments have issues within themselves that they need to work on. I always say clean up your own backyard before you tell me about mine. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for signing my hub and becoming my fan. Your right we have to be happy with ourselves..
I've discovered that the only way to stop people from saying mean things about your weight is to pre-empt them by laughing at yourself. It completely foxes them! Try it Moonlake. :)
Oh I have. I don't want to make it sound like I walk around crying over things people say to me I don't . In fact most of the stuff listed here I have not even told my husband or friends about. He knows about my Mom's remarks but with her I'm not the only one she picks on.
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It is terrible that people will judge someone because of the way that they look. I know that cannot be easy. I too struggle with my weight after I had my daughter and it is taking me over a year to work it off. I'm very happy I don't have to hear people say things - at least not to my face.
It can be just as bad though saying them to ourselves and I know that I can be negative with myself at time. It is a good reminder to not be negative and let these things get to us. Even though it is very tough to do that.
Don't let these people get to you. Know that many people who do this are insecure themselves and have to make themselves feel good by cutting others down.
p.s. I love that first picture. I wish I could do that with my scale! lol!
Thanks for comments. We all wish we could that to our scale.
I have to get on mine everyday mainly because my heart doctor wants me to so I can check and make sure I'm not building up fluid. Wish is another all together different weight problem. On bad heart days my weight will go up 3-4 lbs.
People can be so rude! I have the opposite problem; I need to gain weight. Every time I actually do gain some, my parents and grandparents, friends, even workmates make a huge deal about it: telling me how I look so much better with a few pounds more on me, etc.
Either end of the spectrum, I don't know why people feel they need to comment. It's really none of their business.
I agree. When my granddaughter was in high school the kids were always saying to her that she was anorexic. Hurt her feelings and she wasn't now that she is an adult she still small but has trouble keeping her weight down just like we all do in our family.
Being nasty is like a job, some people get to do it but I assure you that they are probably more miserable about life than the people they take jibes at. Feel sorry for them if you must but don't let it get to you!
If you're not happy with your shape, I suggest that you consider measuring body fat percentage rather than weight.
If you have been on yo-yo diets for any length of time you may find that your body fat is too high; most people who yo-yo diet, lose fat and muscle when they diet but when they gain put the weight back on they gain fat not muscle. Since fat is lighter than muscle they look bigger at the same weight. Get your body fat percentage down and you could well find yourself looking and feeling a whole lot better about yourself. Check out Bill Phillips' Body for Life, a brilliant book that you can adapt if you find it too tough.
Thanks for comments and checking out my hub.
Some of those comments were just awful. People can be cruel.
I started losing weight the beginning of this year, I didn't do it because of what my familys and friends thought, I did it for myself.
If you're content with yourself, then forget what others say, they'll talk regardless. Just brush it off, and move on.
Thanks for comments ...I agree.
Things can change.
Hang in there Moonlake. I have several friends who have begun a very successful fat loss program in the last 6 months. They are all delighted with the results.
They are getting a different kind of comment now, "What are you doing? You look so great."
Thanks Jack for your post.
Very truthful Hub! I know where you're coming from! I, also have a weight problem. I have always been slightly overweight, yet when I had the twins I had health problems that caused me to lose weight(overactive thyroid),then I gained it all back within the next year.I'm still trying to lose weight and I guess I always will be.
My Mother has always been understanding about my weight, but my Father and Grandfather are very inconsiderate of other peoples feelings. They are always reminding people of their weight. All my life I've been self conscious about my weight because of them. My Mother is 4'11", and has never been overweight in her life.In fact,when my siblings and I were small she weighed 89 lbs! She was sick the first part of 2008 and gained an extra 5-10 lbs. My Father and Grandfather reminded her of it constantly, until she finally lost down to her normal weight.
I think people should be more considerate of other peoples feelings,especially since they really don't know you and, therefore, shouldn't judge you. And famillies should support each other not criticize! Maybe we COULD lose this extra weight if they would support our efforts instead of finding fault!
southerngirl I agree with you people need to stop and thank what their doing when they say nasty things. When those same people gain weight they act like it has never happened.
Thanks so much for your comments.
I've never actually been called fat to my face (although I have called myself a fat chick many a time!) but when I got rid of a toxic friend she said I was jealous because now I was the fat friend and she wasn't (she had recently had the lapband installed on her stomach). How can someone who tipped the scales (more than once) at over 400 pounds say that about someone else?
I don't know but it's a terrible thing to say. I guess it's like a person who stops smoking then becomes the awful person to people who do smoke. They act like they never smoked a day in their lives.
Thanks for comments
Fasting regularly maybe helpChill out. If not, new problems can appear.
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Thanks!
... i too have suffered with weight problems for many years. when i was 16 hypErthyroidism hit me like a ton of bricks, i lost 50 lbs in one month. i had a few kids found out possible cancer in thyroid, did radiation and here i am with hypOthyroidism. in the past 7 years it has been a struggle. i feel your pain!!
Thanks for stopping by. So sorry about your struggle. I know it's hard with hypothyroidism.
It sounds like the real problem lies with your mother. She evidently has some very serious weight issues, either she is overweight and unhappy with herself, or someone else was always critisizing her weight - whether or not she was at a healthy weight. You should try sitting down with you mother and asking why it is she is so pre-occupied with YOUR weight. People tend to critisize things they cannot be. Find out what her issues with weight are, who constantly hounded her about her weight. Be happy with who you are, what someone else thinks/says doesn't matter. The things people do and say to you says much more about them than it does about you.
She was always thin. I don't remember anyone ever getting onto her about her weight unless it was the doctor telling her to gain. At 87 I don't think I'll talk with her now.
She is who she is.
Thanks for stopping by and for comments.
Hi there
Yes, people say terrible things about having the extra weight on us.
To heck with them
I am doing a weight loss/nutrition group starting in August. It is free to join. I beleive working in three month periods. If I can lose 5 pounds every three months (and keep it off), that is 20 pounds a year or several dress sizes.
Check me out and think about joing the group.
No terrible hurtful words allowed there.http://hubpages.com/profile/Claudiazinc
Cheers
Claudia
Thanks for stopping by my hub and good luck with your plans for weight loss in Aug.
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goldentoad says:
12 months ago
I've gained weight since I've been in a lock down relationship, as I'm sure everyone else that gets lock down does, I went and bought a bigger size waist in pants, now everyone says, I still look the same.