We are constantly being bombarded with people who tell us that negative thinking is wrong and bad for us. But have you ever looked at the things that a negative person gets from their habit.

Before I begin I am not talking about effective thinking and planning. That is a different ball game. When you decide to undertake any project from starting a new business to choosing a new lover we all go through he pros and cons and attempt to look at what could go wrong and all the down sides involved. Finding ways to minimize the potential problems and getting insurance in place to minimize any loss is a very good thing.

However this kind of intelligent planning is done with out gut wrenching emotional upset and is part of any effective persons strategy. It is part of a strategy that we have consciously chosen. All successful people in life have this ability ether naturally or they have trained to develop it.

The first thing to realise is that any habit no matter what it may look like to us is the result of the person indulging in patterns of behaviour that at some level of mind and it is usually their subconscious mind considers to have a positive intent.

This is why it is so difficult for the average person to get them to be different the problem with being around people like this is they can pull you down unless you have learnt how to deflect them.

It gives them power over you. Have you noticed that at work or in your family it is the person who is the most negative who has the most power. Who do you talk about the most. Who can switch you emotions over as fast as this person. Look at the power they have over you. They get the most attention and believe it or not often they mistake attention for caring.

They are being honest.

Something we all clam to want people to be towards us.

It takes far less energy it’s easer.

To control and use your emotions as an adult requires time, practice and personal power to understand and develop the maturity needed. these people decided was not worth the effort and developed effective ways of controlling others.

They avoid failure (what ever that might be) You see if they never attempt to do things that may require them to grow and change they can stay as they are.

They have certainty in life.

They know it will screw up so they can always be right Are you as certain about your outcomes and achieving your goals? These people are.

They can be left alone.

Some want this it is a great way to avoid having to learn how to be sociable, funny, witty or compromise with others. People just don’t ask you to come along.

Avoid all responsibility for their lives and the outcomes that happen to them. Always some one else's fault never theirs.

They can manipulate victims to give them positive attention when they desire it.

There are so many benefits to being negative especially if you do not have the intelligence maturity or skills to find better ways to get what you want. I suppose the biggest benefit is that you can stay as you are.

So the next time you come in to contact with someone like this just ask your self. What are they playing and what are the benefits?