Looking at my cell phone's screen, I tried to give a theoretical answer over a friend's question. But I couldn't think. I couldn't type. Because the question triggered a spark of worry in my heart.

"What do you think a destined-partner (soulmate) is?" the message read. "Is it a destiny or is it a choice?"

Me: "Well, I think that it means a mate for your soul. Someone out there who happens to be able to be your partner because you have the same goal, purpose and hopes planted in your soul and matched, thus the name soul-mate. It could be a destiny because if God knows and plans everything that happens in your life, then the person that you spend the rest of your life with is your destiny, I guess?"

(I think that it is a mixture of both. Some people get divorced because they think that they made the wrong choice and they might stay forever with their next partner, or go through a divorce again, or just live alone for the rest of their lives.)

"You know, some people are hassled by the society for making the choice that the third party think is not right. Because of their background differences, because of their religions, past, families etc...At least they've tried," he said, speaking from his own personal painful experience

"And don't you get scared that as age is climbing up that you may never find the one?" he asked, probably knowing that he cannot find someone quite like his ex. A person who matches his soul yet had to be torn apart due to their differences.

"Yeah I do, but I'm also afraid of making the wrong choice and have to deal with it for the rest of my life," I answered, afraid that I will face yet another break up with my next future boyfriend, whoever it will be (it's a mystery, isn't it?)

"I know, it's scary isn't it? That you may never find the person..."

"Yes..."

At the end, we both came to the conclusion that it is still a mystery for both of us.

And I guess that it is too for most of us and I hate it when I ask people, how did you know that he/she is right for you and they answer: "You just know.."

But sometimes the feeling of knowing that this person is right for you is wrong.

Which makes me come to conclusion that I still need to learn a lot about knowing.

Second conclusion:

Soulmate is still a mystery.