The raw truth about sexless marriages
80"The raw truth about sexless marriages"
Last week on Oprah, Dr. Meana talked about sexual relations and sexless marriages, these are sad facts but true ones.
There seem to be a lot of sexless marriages in our society today.
I think the lack of sex in marriages are caused by health problems that crop up later into the marriage because of the health problems that exist.
Many married couples are going without the pleasure of sexual relations, because of not being able to function in the bedroom.
The sexual desire can still be there, but if you have medical problems, not being able to function in that area of your life can be disappointing for you and your spouse.
Age is also a big factor in sexless marriages, as we get older the man lose their virility and some women lose their desire to perform in the bedroom.
The lack of sex in a marriages isn't because the couples don't desire it, but because of medical problems or medication side effects.
When we're in sexless marriages, the only thing going in the bedroom is restful and peaceful sleep.
There's no one out there that wants to admit to having a sexless marriage, because it's a big embarrassment.
Illnesses like diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease and use of medication can cause erectile dysfunction in a man.
There are gracious men out there that take a chance on Viagara, Cialis and other medication to help them perform in the bedroom.
We are finding out that all those medication to help the man perform has many terrible side effects that's not safe for the man.
Some of these harsh side effects are, blindness, hearing lost and an erection that last for hours at a time.
An erection lasting hours could be a plus for the wife, but it could be terribly uncomfortable for the husband with the problem.
In my opinion a penile implant would be better for the man and even safer than all than medication on the market today, with all the side effects.
So, don't be quick to judge married couples for not having sexual fun in the bedroom, because if the if they're on medication that keeps them from functioning in bed.
When we have these kinds of interruptions in our sexual lives, we have to find other things to try and keep the spice and intimacy in to the relationship.
You don't stop touching or holding each other, you can always find ways to pleasure each other.
Sex is not the most important thing in the relationship, it's important but you have got to have
something else; to hold the the marriage together when the glitter and expectancy wear off.
If you're only in a marriage just for sex, you're in for a rude awakening, because it's not all about sex; it's about loving and caring for the one you're with.
It's good to know that there are a lot of other couples going through the same lack of sex in their marriages because of medical and health problems.
Benny Faye Douglass
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You are correct sir, it's a mind thing, of course a lot of us don't it yet. thanks for your comment. creativeone59
I enjoyed this informative hub Creativeone
I agree about the brain being the largest sex organ also that a respectable,friendly, honest,fun-loving,caring,ambitious,thoughtful man is the sexiest and most important.
They attract faithful,loving,woman that
will enjoy being pleased by them without
all the equipment.
A real woman or man would not tear down a strong family for pettiness.
There are so many options to have fun with than to
hurt yourselves.
This man will always make it to the finish line.
Many times it's the women that don't want sex anymore.
God Bless
THank you for your wonderful comment and feedback. have a blessd day. creativeone59
Good article! although it is true that sexless marriages can be due to health problems and medication side effects, it is also because some workaholic couples don't take the necessary time out of their schedule to "get in the mood"; they are too busy with kids, work, etc.
Thank you, I definitely agree. Thanks again for your comments and feedback, Gospeed. creativeone59
Marriage is all about loving and caring for the one you're with. This is very true creativeone59. Man cannot live alone. That's why God made a partner taken from his bone (or rib) called Woman.
How about same sex marriages? It is now being permitted in the laws of humans not by God (if we base it from the Bible). If the bottomline is not about the term "sex" but companionship or so we say, love and caring, then we can tolerate it. As long as they're happy and not harming others.
Thanks again for this hub.
Thank you travel_man1971, for your comment and your honest feedback. I appreciate you. Godspeed. creativeone59
Very insightful. Folk also just lose the desire for each other. Someone else can come along and they get excited all over again. There should always be some kind of intimacy in a marraige, as you said, there are many things that can be done, ie holding, touching, caressing, and some other stuff i won't say on this forum, but you know what I mean. True love for one's spouce will overcome any temporary lack of enthusiasm. You have some very interesting topics. I like it.
Thank you Joque, I'm a variety person that believe in keep the people abreast of things as they happen. I write about life and the things that go on in life and I try to do it honestly. I'm glad you enjoy my hubs, that makes my day. I will be looking forward to more of your writings. Godspeed. creativeone59
A sexless marriage is a great loss to both. Part of the fun is trying new things and new ways to please your spouse. Don't dwell on the negatives look for inovative fun ways to keep the sparks igniting in the marriage.
You are totally correct and the spouses shouldn't give up on trying new things to keep each other appeased. Thank you NGRIA Bassett for your comment and your feedback. creativeone59
wow. I never even considered this viewpoint. I have to admit that I automatically assumed it was that those couples were falling out of love. Thank you for opening my eyes. It's amazing how ignorant we can find out we are once we are willing to open ourselves to information. Too bad most ignorant people aren't that open. ;)
Thank you Coffey dear for your comment and your feedback. have a blessed day. creativeone59
What a fine hub creativeone! It's very informative and surely helpful. A couple who truly love each other will, and should be able to deal with this problem, should it happen. Sex is an integral part of marriage, but it's not everything. Besides, there are, as they say, many creative ways to love on each other, physically and mentally.
Thank you so much IslandVoice, I appreciate your comment and feedback. you have a blessed day. creativeone59
Nice job!
Thank you dashinclaire,for you comment and feedback. creativeone59
Good article! Very informative, very true. Thanks.
Thank you M
You are right, but if the couple can work things out to attack head on,these problems that can be solved. Thanks for the hub.
KwameG says:
3 months ago
Nice Hub, I heard someone say that the biggest sex organ we have is our brain.