My friend, you have asked a question that has baffled guys for years, nay centuries, perhaps even eons!

Stay tuned, men, as I reveal a secret that will help you in years to come if only you heed my words of hard won wisdom! This information is gathered from research and experience gained the hard way. 

No, really. Listen folks what people do not often consider is this: Men and women really do think differently. Our thought processes, in general, take different forms.

It is in this difference that the root of many problems lies. An event occurs, a woman ends up furious, and the man in her life, the man she only moments ago considered the shining knight of her very own fairy tale is now regarded as a thoughtless baboon, a hopeless buffoon, and she is considering how much she is willing to put up with before it is time to change up.

The man, on the other hand, is frequently clueless on what he did that caused such a nuclear reaction on the part of his beloved. Some men will, intelligently, try to minimize the damage as best they can. Other times the same men may lose their tempers and argue. Don't go there guys. I will tell you why in a minute.

The problem lies in this:

Most men think in a linear fashion. On the other hand, most women are more holistic thinkers. Let me demonstrate.

Men, you have made a date with your loved one for Friday night. You tell her that you will pick her up at 7:00pm, dinner at T.G.I. Fridays, followed by a delightful romantic comedy whe has been wanting to see. Got it?

Now Friday rolls around. Unexpected happenstances at work have delayed you, and you pick her up at 7:30pm. With the crowd at Fridays, you decide at the last minute to go to Tuesday's. The movie she wanted to see is sold out, so you end up at another, what you thought was an equally delightful romantic comedy, that she had also wanted to see.

No!

Gentlemen, for many women, the first item, any item that you changed ruined the whole evening. She may have a good time, but it will be overshadowed by the stigma of disappointment. Why?

Recall that women are holistic thinkers. Each and every event was intimately connected. Messing with one item messes the entire experience up. You, on the other hand are clueless.

Ladies, recall the scenario I proposed. Your man, the cad, seems clueless that he has done something wrong. How can he not see what he did, the dud?

Men are primarily linear thinkers. You have this wonderful evening planned, every event building on the other....to you. To him the fact that you are going out at a certain time, going to a certain place to eat, and going to a specific movie are events that are linear- they have nothing to do with one another! They are occuring on the same evening, but otherwise, to him, there is no relationship between the events.

You could suddenly withdraw one event from the others, or completely change it and it has no impact on him, because to him the events are not connected to one another. They each stand alone on their own.

Ladies, your man does something thoughtless, probably unintentionally, but it still hurt your feelings, in the morning. All day you have been thinking on this event. When the evening rolls around you are determined not to let him see how much his stupidity has upset you. Later the moron wants some lovin' and that is it!

You light into him with a vengeance! Bringing up past wrongs he has done to you, pointing out how he has consistently put you down and hurt you, making him own up to being the malicious fiend that he is! To top it off he acts as though he has no idea he has done anything wrong! And do you know what, ladies?

He doesn't. No, really. He is not kidding. He has no idea what he has done wrong. If you hit him with the famous "you know what you did wrong," he could not be more lost in the Sahara Desert without a map. Remember, he is a linear thinker. For him events are sequential in nature, they are not connected. When he hangs that pathetic look on his face to mask his obvious guilt....he is not faking. He does not know what he did wrong, and he probably really is sorry he did it, or would be if he knew what the hell you were talking about. Spell it out. He will never figure it out on his own, and you will just end up angrier.

No, he is not dumb. He just does not think that way.

Guys, you thought everything was going great. You irritated her this morning, but she is over that right? Then you get home, she shows no signs of anything but love, and KABOOM! You make a move, and then it is like you stuck your unsuspecting hand in a pool of angry pirhana. No, she is not crazy. See the above explanations. Everything you do is connected to her.

You remember when I said earlier that the intelligent man will not lose his temper? This is why. Give her the provocation and she will get historical. Not hysterical, historical. She will bring up stuff you did wrong years ago! 

Both men and women need to understand that we love each other, and no matter how it seems, your partner is not crazy. They just don't think the same way you do. Try to understand that.