Time to Become Assertive
54Stand Up!
Stand up for yourself. In reading a great article by Marisa Wright on being assertive, I must speak up for myself.
For a few years I have become a lot less assertive than some years ago, when I did not allow things or time or other people to dominate how I behave.
Not even aware of this happening, I have allowed myself to become someone I don't even know.
Whatever happened to the courageous and capable teenager, or younger woman I used to know? The woman that could handle all situations, and not cower or cringe, or run when called?
What about you? Are you being strong in the relationships in your life? At home, at school, or even at work? Do you stand up for yourself, or are you letting yourself be pushed around, down, upside down, and inside-out?
Well, good morning, people, and guess what? It's a new day, and time to be what you want and need to be, more assertive.
Here's the beginning, watch for the sequel to see what will happen next. Good luck, and let's all write another article on how well we are doing with our new happenings!
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Me and everyone else out there. Man or woman.
Marisa reminded me of how my mother lived her life. Not assertive enough, sad to say.
Marisa wrote a much better article, I must say, but, hey, it's after four a.m. and I am a little sleepy. That's not very assertive, dear, I do have to work on it.
Here's to the world getting more assertive, well just us little cowards! bjp
This is perfect timing, Betty Jo!! I went to lunch yesterday with my boss and tried to be assertive about things at work. Boy, it was not easy and I was nearly fighting back tears by the end of it (she would not have noticed). Anyway... this hub lifts my spirits a bit and will hopefully get my rear in gear to make things better for myself! Steph
yes, we must be assertive but it's going to be tough for me. since i'm always thinking of how others will think. but i'm going to try my best too. thanks
Yes, I always put my family first too, but when you have lived your life and only have a few years left to be YOU, you will wonder what happened to the time.
Why live without being truly happy along the way? Why not try to get the others to help you as much as possible, and give you more free time for yourself. Shower, foot massage, manicure, makeup, maybe, hair fixed. Girl stuff! or Boy stuff, if that's the case.
People should be allowed to be human, and feel worthy of being a human being. Well, that's my opinion. bjp
bjp..You couldn't be more right. Wait for what?? I have now found that all the good I have done..all the people I put first before myself..have come through for me when I so desperatley needed them..This all has a way of working out. Just treat other's the way you would like to be treated..and God knows...Bless you G-Ma :o) hugs
Yes, G-Ma, some people can be nice and help out.
Some of them can be spoiled or whatever and not help, even if you are sick.
They seem to either not realize you might need help, or just not care.
Sometimes, they are just too busy with their own lives. Betty Jo
What happened to the courageous teenager? She met someone who was very good at undermining her confidence without her noticing. I saw it happen to someone I know - degree-qualified and smart, but after many years of subtle sabotage, too nervous to hold down a simple shop assistant job.
Many more articles need to be written to warn young people about the dangers out there.
The wolves in sheep's clothing.
Only it needs to be in simple language, so the young people can easily understand.
With not much help, watch out what you might step into, like a sink-hole!
Short, sweet, and with a great point!
Thanks, Sweetie Pie.
I wish I could say I've become assertive enough, but cannot.
If I could disappear from the situation I'm in, would help. It takes determination and work toward the future, which I am striving for, hope you all are.
Good luck, and I would love your comments on your own lives.
Eileen Hughes says:
2 years ago
This is a great incentive to lift your self upwards on onwards. Go for it Go Betty!!!!