To Bed or Not to Bed

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By Dame Scribe


Is bout Love, Baby
Is bout Love, Baby

What Makes you Stop for Love

 

"The Soul needs Friendship, the Heart needs Love. Seduce my Mind and you can have mybody. Find my Soul and I am yours Forever"– Anonymous

The populace in every society is full of single men and women in all sizes, ages, shapes and each fall within a man and women’s definition of handsome and beautiful.

The word *Love* is used to describe everything from a gentle touch to sexual intercourse and considered a socially acceptable word for polite conversation. But what makes us stop and turn to stare at that particular person? What is it that takes our breath away?

Romantic love is considered by psychologists to consist of two clusters of feelings that are exhibited in behavior;

Passion Cluster

Fascination, preoccupation with each other

Sexual Desire, for each other

Exclusiveness, a special relationship with each other

Caring Cluster

Champion and advocate the interests of the other

Giving the utmost for each other, even sacrifice one’s own interests

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Romantic lovers idealize one another. They magnify each other’s positive features and forgive or ignore the flaws if change is acceptable.

Lust is not to be mistaken for love. It is considered by some as nothing more than a immature attempt to satisfy sexual desire and ego especially in the absence of a committed relationship therefore primitive and unworthy of attention.


 

Add resistance to the date and sparks will fly. One will see the other eventually tire and leave seeking easier game or stay and pursue with the challenge to win the heart.

Love has been found to be considered as a *passionate* love where a state of intense absorption in another takes place and *companionate* love where there exists a strong affectionate attachment between a couple. One is short lived or temporary whereas the other is enduring (especially when both have equal equity). Which do you prefer?

I, myself fall into the category of the romantic. I am one to watch the behavior of my prospective date and let his actions speak to me plus let time reveal his true intentions. Love has been a fascinating subject for thousands of years around the world and difficult to put into words. We all get to live our love life and that is the magic that can make us breathless or wish we could move on. Read more --> here.

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LondonGirl profile image

LondonGirl  says:
12 months ago

While I agree lust and love aren't the same thing, they can certainly go together!

Dame Scribe profile image

Dame Scribe  says:
12 months ago

In a committed relationship...yes, they go quite well together, I agree on that. Thanks LondonGirl. :)

britneydavidson profile image

britneydavidson  says:
12 months ago

the best way to define love is the relationship between a child and mom...love is undefined word.it has many defination.i will say to tak care of some one, always keep them in mind sorry its too much about it in my mind but cant explain.anywaynice hub..thanx

Dame Scribe profile image

Dame Scribe  says:
12 months ago

Thank you britneydavidson. :) all comments are welcome and always good to be open to all types of definitions. I agree.

ljrc1961 profile image

ljrc1961  says:
6 months ago

HI hon,

I think we begin with lust, end up with love and then keep the lust going because we love!

Dame Scribe profile image

Dame Scribe  says:
6 months ago

Hi ljrc1961, a very easy to follow set of instructions, lol. Thank you for sharing your comments and visiting. :)

HuckR profile image

HuckR  says:
6 months ago

Love is always an interesting subject, and I have definitely seen a very distinctive difference in love and lust. The main one being you usually don't regret love!

Dame Scribe profile image

Dame Scribe  says:
6 months ago

Hi HuckR, I agree on that since love will be the lasting emotion. Thanks for shariing your comments and your visit. :)

fierycj profile image

fierycj  says:
5 months ago

It's hard to see someone who truly loves. Love aint easy to come by these days. But lust - easy as pie. I like the way you write, Dame.

fortunerep profile image

fortunerep  says:
5 months ago

I think lust over rules love, and it is easy for the other partner not to realize it. Just because they tell you they love doesn't mean they do, for some it is just a word or either they don't understand the full meaning of it.

dori

Dame Scribe profile image

Dame Scribe  says:
5 months ago

Hi CJ, Lust is everywhere and yes, love is hard to come by, lol. Thanks for sharing your comments and your visit.

Hi Fortunerep, I agree that love is used to satisfying ones lust. Thanks for sharing your comments and your visit. :)

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