Are you having trouble getting dates? As a woman, I can help you understand what women want and how you can be the man that "gets the girls." However, please remember that no matter what you do, there are going to be some women who are simply not interested and never will be. Move on to someone else; there are enough women out there.

Any good dater knows the key to getting a date begins with himself (or herself). The next thing is to be at the right place at the right time. I'll explain what I mean.

What do you want from a woman? Do you want her to be beautiful and look like a model? Do you want someone who is intelligent and successful? Do you want a loyal woman who will love you? Make a list.

Now: Do you meet all of those qualifications yourself? You have to be honest and fair with yourself; otherwise, you are setting yourself up for failure and frustration. Beautiful women do date less-than-attractive men, but do you know what those men have? They may have something else as valuable as looks, such as intelligence or kindness or wealth, whatever the woman's highest priority is. What makes you "marketable"? No quality woman wants a man who does not take care of himself. The first step to getting a girl is to be a real man and take care of yourself, not only physically but intellectually as well. Be striving to make something of yourself, whatever it may be: a business man, a writer, an artist, a construction worker, a manager at a fast food franchise--the main thing is to be the best at whatever you do. You have to CARE or otherwise give the impression that you are undesirable.

TIP: Take stock of your attributes and what you have to offer a woman into consideration when you consider the type of woman you want to date. Your chances will improve.

Women want to be beautiful and respected. That's right, fellows, we want respect. This means that we do not want to be treated merely as objects to satisfy your lust. We need to be treated as the equals that we are. We are smart, capable, and able to handle the worst things in this world. That deserves your respect. 

What do I mean by respect; how can a man best respect a woman?

1. Do not make derogatory comments about women. Do not make perverted comments about women, especially in front of us.
2. If you and a woman are an agreed couple, that means that your sleeping around is considered cheating too. No double standards. If you want your girlfriend to be faithful, then you need to show her the same courtesy and be faithful as well. Do not kiss other women; do not sleep with other women. I cannot stress this enough. Make sure that you understand this before you go looking for a date.
3. Respect a woman's right to say no. 
4. When you do get the privilege--yes, it is a privilege--to spend the night with a woman, treat her as you would a goddess. Remember, if the sex is good for her, she'll make it better for you. Sex is not all about you and your needs. If you take the time to cherish a woman's body and treat her with respect during sex, her passionate side is bound to show itself. Magazines such as Cosmopolitan provide several tips on this matter.
5. Be nice to her. Women like to be treated well. If you treat a woman badly, her response will be to shut herself away from you--that means sexually as well. To get a woman in the mood, be a nice guy, one of the good guys, and not just when you want something. It all goes back to that respect I keep talking about. Giving a woman respect is the foreplay to actual foreplay.

Here is a list of places you can go in order to meet women. Of course, the places you choose will depend on what the women you want to attract frequent. Another thing to consider is to just go to wherever your interests lie; i.e., if you like golf, you might meet a female golfer or caddie. 

• Church
• Art museums
• Any type of museum
• Parks
• Amusement parks
• Book stores/ book clubs
• Sports events
• Bars 
• Festivals
• Marathons/ Walk-a-thons
• At your college
• At the mall
• Through friends

Just be yourself. If you like mountain-biking or hiking, join a local group. If you like art, take an art class or visit the art museum. 

Happy dating!