Top 3 ways to manage your anger

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By Wallpaper Queen



Lesson I: Chup! Timeout

When children argue, teachers call a timeout and separate the squabbling kids to prevent the fight from going further. Likewise, if you’re in a rapidly escalating situation, remove yourself before you go off the deep end. Kai*, a sales manager, remembers a staff meeting when the marketing manager insinuated that it was the sales team‘s refusal to cooperate that had resulted in plummeting sales. His blood boiling, Kai* excused himself from the room, citing nature’s call, and took a walk outside the office. "If l had stayed, it would‘ve erupted into a shouting match," he said.

What to do: Get a drink, take a walk, wash your face or talk to a friend. Reacting in anger only makes things worse. Taking time out will also enable you to handle the situation better.

Lesson 2: No temper tantrums

Kids who throw temper tantrums are ignored by their teachers, and for good reason: it drives home the message that it’s inappropriate. Losing control to your emotions at work is not a great idea, as it shows you cannot control your emotions. Yvonne*, a company director says people who flare up at work are rarely slated for promotion because it shows they are immature. "Imagine if a manager reacted to bad news by letting loose a stream of expletives, how would that reflect on the company and staff?"

What to do: Take deep, calm breaths, which will help slow down the adrenaline released into your body when you feel anger In addition, count down from 10 to give you time to think about your responses.

Lesson 3: No fighting

Hitting is a big no-no, and kids who kick and bite earn a nasty reputation early on. Likewise, violence at the workplace is no- no, no matter how great your desire to slam the door on your collegue. In her first job as a sales executive, Kimberly* lost two major clients to a colleague who she felt had stabbed her in the back. During their confrontation, Kimberly* lost her cool and threw a file, which hit her colleague in the head. As a result of Kimberly*'s inability to control her anger, her colleague required stitches and Kimberly* lost her job. "in retrospect," said Kimberly*,""it was a good thing she decided not to be charges."

What to do: When the urge to get physical arises, channel your energy into less destructive actions; head for the gym, take a walk or squeeze a stress ball.


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BeatsMe  says:
9 months ago

Good advice. They can help to stay out of trouble. I'd advice against going to the gym though, you might hurt yourself or hurt innocent people. :)

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