How To Find True Love

The concept of the ego wanting more is stronger than the ego having things is enlightening in itself. That one sentence answers so many questions for me. Why am I always wanting more when I have so much. When is enough enough?

Years ago I thought that if I only had $200 in my bank account I’d be safe; I’d have a good cushion. (Okay, that was 25 years ago, but real in the moment.) When I got the $200, I thought I would not only be safe be happy if I had $2,000. Well, I got $2,000 and I thought I could be happier. I wanted more, so I set my goal at $20,000. By the way, I wrote these numbers on a piece of paper in big letters and posted them on my bathroom mirror.

Of course, you know what happened – I got $20,000 and wanted more so up went the $200,000 “I want” icon. Yes, I got it, but you know what I then realized that all that money did not make me happy. When it came to my next goal, I couldn’t put up $2,000,000 – for a long time.

It took me several years to move to accepting the $2,000,000 goal for myself. But about 4 years ago I put up a very big banner type sign with $2,000,000 on it. Things happened, I purchased a piece of real estate, I’d wanted for years. But then, my bank and stock accounts started to dive. Disappointed and disillusioned I taped the $2,000,000 banner on the inside of a cabinet door – out of sight but still there. I was ashamed that I couldn’t make the leap to this new dollar amount.

Ah, I get it now. I get why I didn’t get the two million. Why, because I was confused and “a confused mind always says no.” I was in conflict I wanted more but knew that having more just for the sake of having more wasn’t fulfilling. My goal at that time was all about having more and in this case the object of my ego-want-more desire was money.

Two Million didn’t give me that inner feeling of aliveness

It is just money. And, yes it can buy lots of things that I want and think I need, but the thought of it doesn’t bring me happiness. Now the thought of traveling in Africa with the elephants and antelopes and wart hogs – that makes me smile.

For the last six years, I have drifted emotionally because I didn’t have anything that I wanted to do in this next part of my life that excited the molecules of my body.

I had created several different information products that I desperately wanted to share with the world, but was repelled by the thought of marketing on the internet until now. I have found something that does excite the molecules of my body and my mind – writing on social media sites just like this Hubpage.com article.

I love it. I get to tell my story in my way. I feel alive. I’m smiling as I right this. (Smiling for me is a sure key that I’m on the right track.) It is my way of bridging the gap between form and formlessness, bridging the gap between you and me. Isn’t it a coincidence that the tag line for my parent company has been since it’s inception in 1996 - bridging the communication gap.

Thank you for listening. I hope my words spark molecules of aliveness, and that that spark grows and strengths as you become your true self, the essence that is you and only you.

Tolle directs us to try an experiment (Feeling the Inner Body, page 52 in my paperback). He asks us to become aware of the aliveness in our inner body by feeling your hands, feet, and the rest of your body. It’s a great exercise.

You can discover your irresistible definition of true love by getting out of your ego-mind by finding a visual image metaphor that feels like true love to you. Then hold your attention on that image and let the sense of aliveness intensify. Keep experiencing this image awareness of true love and as you move from the form of the image to the formless meaning of that image you will experience your irresistible definition of true love.

Tolle says suggests that you can “feel the inner body” when you listen to someone. I say absolutely, and it is in this listening and inner body feeling that you will know when you have found your life-partner soul mate.