How frustrating is it when you are talking to a man — and I mean every man, your mate, a co-worker, your father, your brother — and you ask them a question and there is no response? Did they not hear you? Are they purposely trying to ignore you and annoy the crap out of you? Are they deaf? Helloooooooooooo! Is anybody in there?

And so I began my quest to find out what the problem was. You know what? Every time I asked a guy why there was a delay in responding to a question, they roared with laughter! They know it. They are not complete idiots. And they have an explanation for it too!

They’re simply focused on something else at the moment and they’re not good multi-taskers. In fact, one guy told me the extent of his multi-tasking is the fact that he can read on the toilet.

As women, I guess it is part of our genealogy that we can talk on the phone, write a shopping list, ooh and ahh over our child’s art project, and plan dinner all at the same time. Men, however, can apparently focus their attention on just one thing. Case in point: ever try having a conversation with a guy right after an orgasm? The brain simply doesn’t function.

I asked my boyfriend why I don’t get an immediate response to a question when he’s getting dressed in the morning. He tells me that he’s mentally going through his day, thinking about what he has to do, where he has to be, and while he heard me utter words, his concentration wasn’t on interactive conversation at that point in time.

Other guys tell me that if they are watching sports or reading the paper, they do hear us. But the inquiry is in the pipeline to their brains and like a slow PC, it takes them a few moments to process the question and formulate a response much to our annoyance.

So ladies, take heart. It’s not that our men are purposely ignoring us or that they just want to be difficult, it’s simply a fact of the way they are wired. They can pretty much concentrate on only one thing at a time and if our inquiry isn’t the first into their brain pipeline, we’re simply gonna have to wait. It’s a guy thing….