A compatible relationship is what most people strive 

for, and it's always nice to hear about a happy couple 

in a fulfilling relationship.

People wanting to get married would be smart to seriously

consider the following questions: What do you seek through

marriage? A ceremony to declare your love and a chance to

get together with family and loved ones? Romantic

partnership permanence? Do you hope it will add something

to your connection that you feel is absent at this time?

Marriage was originally intended for practical and economic

reasons. People could not survive unless they pooled their

skills and resources. Due in part by romantic fantasy

perpetrated by movies and fairy tales, marriage today

includes unrealistic expectations such as being someone's

"everything" for life. Surprisingly, even with the high

divorce rates, this tradition is still a popular choice.

Some say it's because you need marriage for kids, or that

marriage is about commitment. But you can be responsible

parents or commit to each other without a marriage license.

Those who oppose marriage contend that legally binding

agreements, in an attempt to cement relationships, primarily

reflect fear and a lack of trust and are more about money

than love.

There is no level of compatibility "good enough" for marriage,

because two individuals who are very compatible now may not be

in ten years. Furthermore, marriage is just a legal construct

that has nothing to do with unconditional love, which is what

many claim to marry for. By unconditional love, we're referring

to a lack of conditions such as "If you do this for me, I'll do

that for you."

Ideally, marriage would be completely about unconditional

love. It wouldn't be like modern marriage is today.

There would be no unhappiness about a partner not doing what

they are expected to do financially, there would be no disputes

about having to spend time with the partner's friends and family,

and there would be a lack of expectations in the bedroom, just

to name a few.

As we have constantly found in our work, most relationships have

time limits, as do friendships and business associations. Sound

unromantic? Truth isn't always romantic, but embracing it will

save you a lot of heartache. You don't have to physically leave

a relationship for it to be over, as many married couples will

tell you if they are brutally honest. Additionally, children

know when their parents are unhappy and all too often the

parents end up setting a bad example relating to complacency

and deceit.

How can you tell if a romantic connection has seen better days?

A few examples include the following: all attempts at spicing

up the bond fall flat; one or both partners become increasingly

interested dating other people; sex becomes routine and boring

or nonexistent; the sexual attraction fades significantly or

disappears; one or both feel as if they have learned as much

as they were supposed to learn; and it simply doesn't feel

right to stay together.

Life-long, satisfying monogamy is desired by many, but is it

natural or realistic? Some couples completely lose interest

in sex with each other and settle for companionship or are

willing to make great sacrifices and be unhappy in order

to avoid ending their relationship, but more and more

couples are accepting that most relationships are not

meant to last forever. In our view, love relationships

serve primarily as grounds for shared spiritual lessons

and goals, rather than the currently accepted, outdated,

fear-based sociological standard as outlined above. Many

norms in society will be seen as absurd by future

generations, and we expect that traditional marriage will

be one of them.

An aside, for those who desire to deepen their

understanding of their partner (especially before

getting married), compatibility analyses involving

psychic insight, comprehensive astrology, numerology,

and graphology outlining key challenges and rewards is

a great way to open the door to more love.

We recommend to those considering marriage to 

communicate with their partner about commitment, 

and discuss feelings about money, children, relatives, 

friends, etc. But don't expect or even hope that the 

love would be permanent if you got married, since no 

couple is compatible enough to meet and exceed the 

present day expectations of marriage.

"Getting married to make a relationship permanent is 

like buying a summer home to make summer last forever."

Scott Petullo

http://www.mystictwins.com/

http://www.holisticmakeover.com/

Stephen Petullo

http://www.holisticmakeover.com

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