So, you have an unhappy marriage and you don't know what to do about it? Lots of people feel unsatisfied with their marriage, at least from time to time. What do you do with an unhappy marriage? There can be a lot of different answers to that question. Most of the time, people want to re-ignite the spark they used to feel for their partner and they want more than anything for the marriage to work. The best thing is, you have the power to change things in your relationship, starting today.

In a lot of cases, people who are in an unhappy marriage have lost two things:

• Communication with their spouse

• Time alone with their spouse

Our lives are increasingly hectic and if you don't take time to communicate and reconnect, you are asking for trouble. I know you are wondering how you are supposed to fit this in an already jammed schedule. By the time you get the kids off to school or daycare, work all day, take the kids to sports practices and games, cook dinner, and cope with household chores...you are dead on your feet. Yes, it is going to take effort and maybe some creativity, but you can find time to work on your unhappy marriage.

Make time alone a priority. Drop an activity or two, give up a television program, whatever you need to do. At least once a week the two of you should get away from the stress and pressures and just be together. Spend some time catching up with each other, laugh and joke with each other, and just be a couple. Your marriage is more important than anything, so carve out some time to nurture it.

There are many ways to work through an unhappy marriage and get back the relationship you once had. You and your partner owe it to yourselves to do all you can to resolve the issues contributing to the unhappy marriage, so here are a few tips for you to consider:

Be Committed To Working Things Out - A decision to work on the problems or issues contributing to your unhappy marriage needs to be made by both parties. Right at first, only one partner may be trying, but as things improve, I think the other partner will notice and ‘jump on the bandwagon'.

Become A Better Mate - The best place to start looking at the reasons for an unhappy marriage is in the mirror. My mom used to tell me that, and boy did it make me mad at the time! Then I realized it was true. Yes, sometimes what the other person is doing is wrong, too and it sucks! The plain and simple truth is that if you concentrate on making yourself better, your mate will notice and want to be better for you. This probably won't happen overnight, but stick with it, it works. You will begin to see happiness returning to your unhappy marriage relationship.

Be Willing To Compromise - If you can see the ‘big picture' and learn to compromise, it can work wonders in your marriage. Too many times we let pride get in the way of compromising with others. Don't let this happen to you. A little compromising now and again is worth it if it helps you get rid of the reasons for your unhappy marriage.

Develop Good Communicating and Listening Skills - For people in an unhappy marriage, you must develop good communication and listening skills. Be as honest and truthful as you can with your spouse. Learning to really open up to your spouse, express yourself clearly, and communicating often will help your unhappy marriage regain the ground it lost.

Most of the skills needed to save an unhappy marriage are not that difficult to do. Hey, if it was rocket science a lot of us with an unhappy marriage would be in serious trouble! What it takes is time, effort and patience. You can turn around your unhappy marriage and get back to what it used to be, starting today if you want to.