Calibration and Internalization

After the first week or two in the field, approaches start to become a blur. Patterns emerge over time. Formerly puzzling social behavior comes clearly into focus. Situations and reactions can be easily predicted before they occur. This powerful social intuition, derived from time in the field, is known as calibration.

A skilled venusian artist will anticipate, and have a prepared response for, nearly any common social challenge. He has already encountered this particular challenge before. He has experimented with a variety of different responses, and he has compared notes with all of his friends on the subject as well. He has found an effective answer, and he has already field-tested it and practiced it to mastery.

So when the challenge arises, the answer comes forth — automatically delivered into action by his unconscious mind. In the same way that all practiced behaviors become automatic, so does the skill set of the Mystery Method. This process is known as internalization.

Women are more socially savvy because they tend to be involved in more approaches

For a man to be in the Game, he must actively approach women. If he stops doing this, he has taken himself out of the Game. But women cannot so easily make this choice. If she is attractive, men will approach her anyway. She needn't do anything but simply be there — she can't help it. For this reason, women usually have more calibration and social skill than men do. They've had more practice.

Women select for survival and replication value

So what are some characteristics that convey S and R Value?

• Looks and height. All other factors being the same, women will generally be more attracted to taller or better-looking men. However, if you are short or ugly, that is absolutely no excuse to feel sorry for yourself. There are plenty of successful venusian arists who aren't very tall or classically attractive. Looks and height are real factors, and should be taken into account — but they aren't dealbreakers.

• Being healthy and in shape. Although it's possible to eat wrong, avoid the gym, and still pick up girls, men who stay fit are simply more attractive to women. This really has a big effect on results; people who work out not only look better, but they also give off a better energy in social interactions.

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• Hygiene and Grooming These are essential. Stay clean and well-groomed, and keep your breath smelling fresh. Don't be a scrub.

• Fashion sense. People who don't know how to dress are completely oblivious to how bad their clothes look in the eyes of people who do know how to dress (most of whom are women.) Dressing poorly also conveys a lack of social intelligence, which is a demonstration of lower value. Anyone who isn't being regularly complimented on his clothes should get a fashion consultant to help fix this problem.

• Being comfortable. It's often stressed that one should be confident. But the truth is that the most important state of mind in pickup is one of comfort. Your body language should reflect this. Relax, and take up space in a comfortable way. Lean back and make yourself at home.

• Smiling and having a sense of humor. Men who don't get laid usually don't smile. There are a lot of guys walking around who don't look happy. Be the guy who is having a good time and who makes other people feel good. Don't take yourself too seriously.

• Not being needy. A typical man with high survival and replication value is probably doing fine with his finances. He probably has access to sex. He is probably comfortable in terms of his health and physical needs. Thus, he is not a needy person. It's important to convey this sense of abundance and to really feel it. When you lust after an outcome, women will pick up on this and perceive you as a low value guy — and women are not programmed to have sex with desperate, low value guys.

• Being unaffected. In keeping with the above line of thought, don't be reactive or try to impress people. The person trying to impress is perceived to be the one with lower status. Similarly, don't make excuses for yourself, and don't come across as someone seeking a reaction, or seeking attention, validation or understanding.

• Having a life. Be ambitious and stay in shape. Have a strong identity and purpose in your life. Have friends and tend to your social circle.

• There are many other ways to convey value — through your game, your body language, your pre-suppositions, your social interactions, and so on. The rest of this book will describe all of these tilings.

Persistence

Persistence is another way to alleviate her of any responsibility for what is happening. Of course, don't confuse persistence with begging, arguing, or being pushy, needy, or creepy. All it means is, don't give up too easily. Girls will test you to find out how easily you give up — they want to see how confident you are in yourself. Just assume that she is giving a little token resistance, and continue.

Token resistance

Women will give token resistance — expect it. If she didn't resist at least a little bit, she would feel like a slut — and that's not going to happen.

This can be tricky — an overly aggressive man might misinterpret all resistance as being merely token resistance, and could eventually find himself facing a rape charge. Whereas a man who isn't persistent enough will acquiesce every time she resists, when in many cases she was secretly hoping that he would be a little more forceful

Can she ever truly be happy? It doesn't matter. In the grand scheme of tilings, her emotions don't have to keep her happy. All they have to do is keep her alive. (And get her pair bonded and pregnant with the right man.)

It's true that sometimes it can be frustrating that her behavior is governed by her emotions. But there is power to be had because of this. Through experimentation, we can discover the mechanisms behind her behavior and through practice we can consistently control them.

Practicing the game is not unlike the movie Groundhog Day, where Bill Murray re-lives the same day over and over again for what seems like years. Each day he tries to pick up the same girl, and her responses are different as he tries new tactics from day to day. Over time his skills improve and he gets closer and closer to his goal.

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The word 'Slut' is a weapon that women use against other women

Women have a powerful interruption mechanism known as anti-slut defense,

or ASD. Not only does she prefer to avoid having others perceive her as a slut, which would pose dire consequences to her social status, but also she wants to avoid the discomfort of feeling like a slut. Thus she has the ASD interrupt mechanism to help her avoid this fate.

ASD is what makes a girl blurt out 'I have a boyfriend' (whether she actually does or not) — because you escalated faster than she was comfortable with.

Time in the field will eventually improve your calibration to the point where you can escalate without activating her ASD. Chapter 6 describes how to escalate smoothly through the use of false disqualifiers.

Fashion Sense: People who don't know how to dress are completely oblivious to how bad their clothes look in the eyes of people who do know how to dress (most of whom are women.) Dressing poorly also conveys a lack of social intelligence, which is a demonstration of lower value. Anyone who isn't being regularly complimented on his clothes should get a fashion consultant to help fix this problem.

• Being comfortable. It's often stressed that one should be confident. But the truth is that the most important state of mind in pickup is one of comfort. Your body language should reflect this. Relax, and take up space in a comfortable way. Lean back and make yourself at home.

What are some forms of investment?

• Emotional Investment. Women are reluctant to allow themselves to become emotionally vulnerable around men of dubious intent or low S and R value. A woman knows that once she gets emotional, it becomes much more difficult to extract herself from the situation.

• Physical investment. Kissing is a bigger investment than walking arm-in-arm. Sex is the biggest investment of all.

• Time. The more time you spend together, the more invested she becomes. It takes an average of four to ten hours before sex.

• Effort. Is she chasing? People don't value that which comes too easily.

The more effort she puts in, the more invested she has become.

• Money. Did you buy her a drink, or did she buy one for your

Women are Dangerous Creatures

Women are not angels of purity and morality, tit for placing on a pedestal. They are human just like the rest of us.

Often in the field you may notice women lying or using other manipulation. They may act jealous, try to make you jealous, use their sexuality to gain power, stir up trouble, and often will not hesitate to ditch you for something shinier — someone with more status, more testosterone, more cocaine.

And as empathetic as women are deemed to be, she will not later wallow in pathos with a solitary tear on her cheek, full of regret for ditching you. Don't take it personally; it's just part of the game. Incidentally, now would be a good time to admit that the same is true of yourself. We are all human.

Have a positive open attitude. Don't be judgmental or jealous.

• Don't act as if tilings are a big deal. They aren't.

• Don't complain or be emotionally punishing. If you call her on her shit while talking on the phone, she will just avoid talking to you on the phone. Instead of being the whiny or emotionally abusive boyfriend whenever she pulls a fast one, be the guy who has plenty of options.

• If she flakes on you, don't confront her about it next time you see her. Are you the guy who sat around and got upset? Or are you the guy who called over another girl and then forgot all about it?

Stimulate her emotions

The venusian artist uses emotional stimulation instead of rational discourse. As long as it feels right, your romantic interest will invent her own reasons for what is happening. In other words, when you can give her the right feelings, her rationalization process starts to work in your favor instead of against it.

A woman knows how susceptible she can be when she is in an emotional state. Often her solution to this is to avoid becoming emotionally engaged in an interaction where she doesn't feel trust or safety, or where the man gaming her doesn't seem to have enough S and R value. When this happens she will seem non-responsive. Thus, if you can engage a woman on an emotional level, even if it's a "bad"' emotion such as frustration or jealousy, this is much preferable to her remaining non-responsive.

Also, instead of only trying to give her "good" emotions or avoid "bad" emotions, stimulate her with a range of emotions such as curiosity, fascination, fear of loss, connection, indignation, validation and devalidation, humor, embarrassment, happiness, sadness, and so on. The more she is stimulated, the more compelling the experience will be for her. Chapter 5 describes various techniques for this.

What are some other examples of gaining compliance?

• Getting her to invest. (She goes to retrieve a drink for you, she spends some money on you, etc.)

• Getting her to move with you or bounce to another location.

• Locking her in. The longer a girl wears an item of yours, the more compliance you have. If the girl removes your item, she is defying.

• Social pressure. Get one of her peer group to tell her to be nice to you, or to give you an accomplishment introduction, and you will immediately gain much more compliance from her.

• People generally comply if it results in more fun, or gaining some benefit. We are inherently selfish.

• People will also comply if there is a threat A man with a gun gets more compliance than one with a hose.

Of course the venusian artist will never actually pull out a gun. But there are ways to make her feel slightly threatened if she fails to comply.

Forward and Backward Merging

As time passes in the field, practice merging sets. Be that social guy who introduces people around. There are two principal types of merging: forward and backward.

To merge forward means, to open a new set and merge your existing set into the new set. Pawning is often an example of forward merging.

To merge backward means to re-open a previous set and merge your existing set back into the previous set.

This can be useful. For example, if you target is in a two-set, you will have trouble isolating her because her friend would be stuck alone. But by merging them into another set, creating a larger set, you can now7 isolate your target. ("We re going to sit right over there and read her palm.. .")

Remember, you aren't just gaming the set, but the entire room. Is anyone else merging sets in this room? No? Then you must be the most sociable guy in here.

Process over Outcome

A venusian artist goes into the field night after night primarily to improve his calibration and to internalize his skill-set. He's not trying to 'get this one girl,' or to 'get laid tonight.' Rather, he's practicing with the long-term goal of having a powerful social skill-set

You cannot allow the outcome of any given approach to carry much significance. It's like playing a video game: if your man dies, just hit the button and play again. If the outcome of any specific approach becomes important to you, it'll have subtle, insidious effects on your game and cause you to lose the set. You really do have to not care. Just like fishing or golfing, the process of playing the Game itself has to be its own reward.

Everything comes full circle. After some months of practice, when your game becomes tight, your skills will enable you to enjoy women in whatever way that you please. And then you really won't care about approach anxiety, rejection, or outcome - you'll just enjoy the ride. Ironically it is this very attitude that gets results.

There is a certain Zen to pickup...the one who releases all attachment to a desired outcome is ironically the one most likely to realize that outcome.

Alternate wording for the 'Jealous Girlfriend Opener:

Style: Hey guys, let me get your opinion on something. I'm trying to give my friend over there advice, but we're just a bunch of guys and not qualified to comment on these matters.

Girls: What?

Style: Okay, I've only got a sec. See Wing over there? Well, he has been dating a girl for three months. And she just moved in with him. Now, this is a two part question. So, imagine you've been dating someone for three months. And he is still friends with his old girlfriend from college. How do you feel about that?

Girls: blah blah blah are they just friends blah blah blah

Style: Yes, they're just friends. There's nothing else going on. They talk like once a week at most.

Girls: I think its fine /I don't think they should be talking /whatever

(At this point, Style has been body rocking out of the set. Now he rocks back in to continue the opener.)

Style: Okay, now let's say that he has a drawer in his apartment. And in that drawer he keeps all of his old photographs and letters. Now, some of those letters happen to be from ex's and some of the photographs happen to be with ex's.

Girls: blah blah blah concerned comment blah blah question

Style: It's not like he ever looks at them. They are just there, like old souvenirs and memories of his past.

Girls: I think its fine / I think he should put them away in a closet / He should destroy them / whatever

Style: Okay, the reason I'm asking is because Wing's girlfriend says she doesn't want him to talk to his ex from college at all. She wants him to cut it off completely. And she wants him to destroy all of his old photos and letters from ex's. She says it's just holding onto the past, and he should let go of it now. Personally, I thought it was extreme and a bit insecure. But what do I know. I'm a guy. And, as we all know, guys think differently from girls...

Windows of Escalation

As you game a girl — as you demonstrate value and lack of neediness, stimulate emotions, take control of the frame, make a connection, and so on —periodically a window of opportunity will open for you to escalate. If you miss the hint, and that window closes, you have just demonstrated lower value — and her patience will wear thin. Enough missed opportunities and she'll decide that you're either too chicken to make a move, or you're incompetent in carrying it out, or you are lacking in social intelligence and thus incapable of leading the dance. Any of those are DLVs.

So, if she is standing there, talking to you, just continue escalating. Assume that it's on, always. Even if your assumption is wrong, it will still result in the highest possible number of lavs. It's also the best way to improve your calibration. And once your calibration is tight, all of your escalations will happen smoothly, and that is the long term goal anyway.

Some forms of kino are:

• Arm in arm

• Hands touching

• Embracing

• Embracing "from behind" • Kissing lips

• Kissing or nibbling on neck

• Hand on knee

• Sitting on lap

• Arm around waist

• Touching face

• Smelling or pulling hair

• Hand on ass

One step forward, two steps back

While escalating, take one step forward (metaphorically). At any sign of hesitation or defiance, take two steps back. Then step forward once again. For example, if you take her hand, and you sense any hesitation, throw her hand away. Later when you take it again, she will comply more readily. The principle is that the "two steps back" creates more discomfort than the "one step forward." Thus, the target becomes more likely to comply with future forward steps.

You be the one to create the tension, and you be the one to push it away

"Baby, we've got to slow this down.."

Some people think that it's the man's job to escalate, and the woman's job is to resist. Instead, think of it as if it is the man's job to do both. If you are constantly thing to get more kino, like getting yards on a football field, it telegraphs far too much interest and deprives her of the hot/cold, push/pull energy that she finds so compelling.

When you pull in close to a girl, there's this tension in the air. At some point, if she feels too much discomfort, she will pull away. This isn't what you want — you don't want to condition her into a behavior of constantly pulling away from you. Rather, you want her conditioned to chase after you.

So, once that tension has been created, it's now time to push her away. This might be physically ("get off me, geez") or emotionally, such as using a backturn, false disqualifier or some other IOD. You might frame it as though you are the prize and you're not going to let her get anywhere with you tonight 'cause you have work tomorrow.

One effect of this is that it spikes attraction when you push her away. She will respond more playfully to you now. Another effect is that comfort is created. She doesn't feel like you're trying to get something if you're constantly pushing her away. This allows her to feel safe while having fun with you. She can allow the emotional stimulation to escalate instead of having to shut it off in self-defense. And the push makes it that much more stimulating for her when you do pull her back in.

For this reason, toss her hand away after thumb-wrestling or palm-reading. Devise a kino routine where you embrace her for a few seconds of role-playing, and then push her away. Mix signals.. .draw near to her saying that it would never work out between you, but stroke your finger down her cheek at the same time. Then turn away. Use body rocking m conjunction with IOIs, IODs, false-disqualifiers, role-playing, stones, and so on.

Someone could easily spend weeks or months playing with these ideas in the field. There is so much to explore.

The Freeze-Out

When YOU are in the attract phase, YOU can bust her balls when she busts yours. But once you reach comfort, if she busts on you, you can only freeze-out by withdrawing attention. She will say, what's wrong?" You say, "Nothing." (Not sulking! The delivery must be sincere, like it's really no big deal)

Then, after she is punished by your silence for an awkward moment, return to comfort by finding something to IOI her for.

She learns quickly not to bust on you because, (1) you've already proven that you can bust back (in attract phase) and (2) she feels discomfort whenever she busts on YOU. This is your opportunity to show her YOU aren't always an asshole like you were in attract phase.

So freeze-outs are a way to train her. You can use discomfort sparingly to teach her that being nice to you means comfort and fun. When the time has come to

build comfort, it's counterproductive to continue being cocky and ball busting. The punish/reward dynamic must be used instead.

This phase is also your opportunity to demonstrate that you are capable of making uncomfortable situations comfortable again. The use of sniper negs is great here, like saying, "you have something on your nose" and handing her a tissue.

She feels uncomfortable but it's not your fault, it's God's. Right after this, she will feel so small After she notices that you are freezing her out a bit (not as if you're being cruel, but rather as if you aren't interested in her), give her a compliance rest and then reward her compliance with an IOI In this way you are can continue rewarding her, but only for compliance and not misbehavior.

Really - Be Talkative

It's vitally important to be talkative. It's easy to say it but actually try it for a few months of practice. If you have so much to talk about, and you bombard her (or her set) with lots of fun and interesting conversation, showing humor, opinion, and passion, then you get to convey your personality.

The talkative person just gets laid way more often. The secret is to put yourself in a talkative mood. Have you ever been in oner Close your eyes for a moment and remember what it was like at the time. Looking back on all the girls Mystery has been with, he just talked their ears off. Then after he saw positive body language and other IOIs he would come out of the blue and say, "Would you like to kiss me?"

That's it — he would just talk passionately about something.. .talk and talk. He wouldn't talk about her. He wouldn't ask questions. He wouldn't really expect her to say anything. If she wants to join in, great, but otherwise, who cares? He does it all.'