OK! This question that has been around since the beginning of time and the topic of many, many books, debates and the catalyst for many a lonely hearts website.
Now the beginning of time has lot to do with the issue. Adam and eve were the first lovers and the world was their oyster and then one day they screwed up and the rest of us have paid the price ever since...bummer right!

Now some of us had wonderful parents and great childhoods and lived in leave it to Beaver Neighborhood - and later we married and repeated the happy family love story cycle.
Sad to say that was not my story...I grew up in Ireland with a dad who loved to empty whiskey glass`s and go to frequent interviews of the many employment establishments of Ireland....So I had no great example of a wonderful loving relationship, RIGHT! But I knew how to pack a car and move to the next village.

So with this wonderful wealth of experience I embarked on a trail of broken relationships and a failed marriage. After this I went to counseling and paid some guy (who was on anti depressants) $120 an hour to basically talk about my childhood and all that...it helped a little bit, but not much...i realized i was paying to see a Dad I never had. So I found a good friend! Hey they have ears and are freeEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE.
The next thing I did was go on a voyage of self discovery and gave myself permission to take time out and smell the roses, I bought A BMW motorcycle and took off on adventures and never really knew where I was going. It was so much fun. During those years I discovered I loved to write, so I did. I began to discover what I liked in people and who I wanted to be around and how to put up healthy boundaries.

In short I went from a needy, lonely person to a healthy individual who knew who I was.
I had read book years ago by the guy that started E Harmony and the most important thing I took away from that was Get Healthy! Because if you do not take time out, time will catch up with you so fast in the form of a shovel of dirt being thrown on a lonely coffin. Life comes at you fast.

OK! Yes I did, I went on E harmony and yes the beautiful woman in the pic is my true soul-mate and lover. When I met Cynthia it was my heart that guided me, because I had a healthy one...she does not complete me, only God can do that, but we so complement each other and interestingly enough she is not my opposite. We are so very much alike.
Is E Harmony the answer....no, it’s Just a tool God used to bring us together. But God healed my heart so that I could freely give it to another and she to me the true essence of agape love!

So how do you fall in love with the right person??? The way we treat others, be it good relationships or complete strangers, is a mirror image of how we see ourselves. As the saying goes "You are who you hang out with - or what you eat!” No one can tell the other who the right person is or how to do it - the key is taking a look at yourself, are you the right person?
Bottom line Adam and Eve messed up and God sent a Healthy Jesus, not a religious church, to set our hearts free so that we can love deeply and freely explore the true adventure of life he wants us to have.