Just before I go into some ways to fix the relationship breakup I'd like to point out a few things. Firstly, there are very few adults that have not gone through a breakup at some point in their lives, it's one of the most common things about relationships that we all share. Secondly, some relationships just never hit the mark for one, or sometimes both, partners. The relationship never really builds into something significant. Thirdly, there are some relationships that should never happen in the first place, particularly those ones that involve any sort of abuse.

The reason I'm pointing this out to you is that if you recognise yourself in one of those relationships above then my advice would be to move on. Your relationship has broken up, let it stay that way.

Okay, with that out of the way, I'm sure you're wanting to discover some ways to get your ex back and repair your relationship. It doesn't really matter which of you did the breaking up, there are ways to bring you both back together again. Relationships can be fragile things at times, that makes them easily broken,but the good news is that it can also make them relatively easy to fix, it all depends on the reasons that caused the breakup. Sometimes it's just a lot of fairly trivial things and sometimes it is much bigger, like an affair, and will therefore be a bit more complicated to repair.

In any case, there are proven techniques that will work to your advantage. Some of these techniques are things you can do that will have positive effect on your ex and your relationship, and some of them are things NOT to do, these will have a negative effect and should be avoided. If you can stick to the positive methods and stay clear of all the negative methods you should be able to increase the chances of you getting your ex back and fixing the breakup.

So, lets get down to some ways of repairing the breakup. I'm going to start off with something you should avoid doing, the reason being that if you haven't yet split up, it will eventually cause the breakup and if you are already split up, it will most certainly prevent you from getting back together again. You must never appear needy. This has to be the number one reason that prevents relationships from being rescued.

No-one wants to live with just one focus in their lives and that is exactly what a needy person is trying to be, the sole focus in their partners life. The loss of love and attention from your ex is not fatal, it is painful, you may feel that your heart is breaking, but you will not die because of it. So don't push your ex away by making out that you can't manage without them. Don't make contact with them at every possible opportunity or bump into them 'by accident' by turning up at places you know they will be, your ex will just find this kind of behaviour suffocating and it will push your ex further away. In other words, don't go out of your way to contact them or be in their company, but conversely, don't go out of your way to avoid them either.

Next, you want to appear strong, confident and happy. This may not be easy, but at least in the presence of your ex you must try and appear this way. Attraction is what brings couples together and attractions is needed to keep them together. So, if you are serious about fixing the breakup and getting your ex back, then you will have to attract your ex back. Remember how you attracted them to you in the first place, you want to do that all over again. You won't achieve it by being weepy, insecure or weak.

Socialising is the next move. You don't have to date someone else in order to get out and be sociable, that's one of the good things about friends and family, and by not dating, it takes all the pressure and anxiety out of these situations. This alone should help you relax and be more confident, and if your ex should 'by chance' bump into you on one of these occasions, just think how well you're going to appear to them. So look after your appearance as well, especially when out socialising.

Staying polite is your next step in rescuing your relationship. Avoid any conflict when you are in the company of your ex. always steer the conversation away from any arguments and keep things light and happy. The more fun you can bring to these times, the better. If you reminisce with your ex, make sure it is about the better times in your relationship.

Start a new relationship with your ex. This is the best way of looking at your relationship rescue, let the past stay where it belongs and start over from the beginning. Let your natural attraction for each other work in your favour, after all, you must have been attracted to each other in the beginning, so try and start again.

There was a reason that you and your ex were initially attracted to each other, and this was partly because of your uniqueness. Think of what made these first weeks or months so special, and try to identify the ways in which you've changed. Reverse these changes and get back to being you. The real you is what is important, and it's the real you that attracted your ex in the first place, so be yourself again.

It is not always easy to win back the love of your life, but it can be done. Determination and consistency are the most essential qualities needed to be successful. The basic strategies above will get you started on your quest, but it is important to continue to adapt to the situation. If you truly love your ex, then you need to do everything in your power to prove yourself. Now that you have, at least the start of, a plan, you should feel a lot more confident in getting your ex back and this confidence should make it a lot easier for you to put these ways to fix the relationship breakup into practice.