Now someone close to you has died, weather it be sudden or expected, natural or un-natural, what happens now?

Well a Funeral will be coming up, and depending on the religious belief of the individual and their family will depend on if there will be a wake or not.

What is a wake?

A wake is a ceremony for the individual who has passed, it can be either closed or open casket and can have multiple ceremonies depending on the family. In personal expierence my friends wake lasted a single day.

Dress clothes are more appropriate then casual wear, but does not have to be full suit/dress. A nice pair of pants and shirt/ spring dress may just as well work. When at the wake be sure to give condolences to the imediate family members and close friends of the individual, even if they are related to you, its always a nice gesture.

The Wake is Now Over...Time for The Bureal....

The Wake has now passed, as have a day or two and now its time to see that loved one blessed, and buried into the ground to make their way to heaven.

**VERY IMPORTANT** If you feel you will fall apart easily, and overwehlemed with emotion please for your saftey and others do not drive and have someone else bring you there and back.

Now the funeral i have heard is the hardest and easiest part of the first few weeks after the death, personally i feel is the easiest and i'll explain why. It gives you a peace at mind knowing they are now happy and in a better place, peacefully in mothers natures green earth, and you are able to share your goodbyes in a very close and personal way. The funeral will more or less last a couple of hours, there will be a ceremony either beside the burial ground or in a church/temple (again depending on religion) and will be mostly filled with prayers, and rememberance of the individual, along with a couple other things like for one funeral i recieted a poem i wrote about the person. keeping your head up, smiling, and not holding back any tears is always very important to remember, it will help you accept this whole time as reality and not a falsehood.

 Now its time for the hardest part for you, YOUR life after death.

You have probably already asked yourself how do I move on with them now gone?

Well firstly you need to remember that you wouldnt want to think that they had died in vaine, so live everyday in honor of that individual, which will also help you live your life in a straight and hopefully prosperous path. They say that the 2nd year is always the hardest year, the first is hard yes but the second is when the realization and full impact hits a person, thats when the 1 year anniversary happens, holdiays are without them, one less birthday to celebrate. the first year is when you should talk about them as often as possible, which helps both as a mental relief, and also a way to help yourself come to the conclusion that there is still a life availible. Deppression may also come into play which if you feel it has then you should go see a doctor A.S.A.P. Signs of deppression are suicidal thoughts, constent unexplained sarrow and saddness, not caring about things you usually have, change in personality, and many others. Here is a link which displays in more details about depression http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depression-symptoms-and-types

Ways of moving on are listening to music that fits your mood, drawing or painting, takeing up exercise or a martial art such as karate, boxing, kickboxing, ect. Basically anyway to express any anger, saddness, sarrow, regret, or any other feelings you may have. It is also a good idea to research maybe a group therapy or one on one terapy session, always comforting knowing others have expierenced the things you are now, they will know good ways of getting through the saddness you feel, but only YOU can act upon the suggestions. 

 Out of respect and for your own peace at mind it is alwyas a nice thing to visit the site as often as you can, leaveing behind flowers, cards, pieces of jewlery, or even as simple as a stone ontop of the tomb stone. It just shows you cared enough to take the time out to remember them and it also gives you a chance to speak out to them, let them know whats been going on with yourself, your family, anything you may be expecting, or maybe a chance to feel as though you are able to reminence with them.

I would really like to hear from people who may have read this article tell me about how this may have helped them, other ways they have gotten over a loss, or maybe just some good ideas as to how to look at them now or to think about them, please do not try and push your religion on anyone, as we do not want to offend anyone

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Person Expierences

well i guess its only natural if i start off with myself, i have known 16 people that are now burried currently, when i was 5 i buried my great grandmother and uncle in the same year and since i have known family, neighbors, and friends who have passed away and are in a better place now. I have always held my feelings in until Danny passed then everything came out and i learned that holding in everything isnt good cause one day (like i did) you will explode and everything will seem as though it is crashing down, this past year was hard for me but it is slowly getting better and i am happy to say he has a very beautifull tombstone at his grave plot, i miss him in such an amount i can't explain, he was only 17,R.I.P.