Fantasizing about your dream wedding? Although you have crystal clear ideas of every little detail that you want for your wedding, which is important, it’s also important to realize that planning a wedding can be stressful and overwhelming. It is a major responsibility and task for you to attend to every detail yourself. I know you may have a difficult time giving up any responsibilities involved with planning your wedding, for fear of losing control but if you give it up, it’s really in your best interests to involve friends and family you can trust and delegate responsibilities to them. Your maid of honor, your parents, parents of the groom and even the groom himself are all eager and willing to help out with the wedding plans and it is important to let them do so. The key to delegating responsibilities is to entrust others to take control of areas that you may not be especially particular fond about or just don't have the time for tedious task, because you are dealing with the more significant details for your wedding, like venues, caterers and major things that only you can decide, like style and flavor of your wedding cake. For example the wedding favors are a very important part of the wedding and you as bride most likely want to shop for and choose the wedding favors yourself. Your maid of honor or soon to be husband may accompany you for support and to offer their opinion but this is not likely a task that you as bride will want to give up. You may not be too particular about how the place cards are written out so this might be an example of a responsibility that can easily be delegated. The stresses of planning a wedding can be extremely overwhelming for a bride who has not learned to delegate responsibilities to friends and family members who are likely standing by eager to help in any way possible. While it is understandable that you may wish for everything to happen according to your vision, it is also important to realize that although you may want to control every aspect of your wedding and planning of your wedding, sometimes it is necessary to delegate responsibilities. Sharing certain responsibilities not only give you more time and energy to handle larger task and focus on the critical aspects of your wedding.

Your Maid of Honor: The role that your maid of honor plays in the wedding depends largely on how much responsibility she is willing to take on and also how much responsibility you are willing to delegate. In general the maid of honor was chosen because she is one of the bride’s closest friend and her duties as a maid of honor do not differ that much from her duties as a friend. The role of the maid of honor is not to simply walk down the aisle ahead of the bride and stand beside her during the wedding ceremony; she also is one of the most supportive assistants to the bride during the wedding preparations. Although there are some responsibilities that she takes on such as hosting the bridal shower and bachelorette party and helping to choose the bridesmaid’s dresses, she is also just there to be supportive of the bride and to be a friend and confidant and to help her in any way possible.

Hosting the bridal shower and the bachelorette party are two of the main responsibilities of the maid of honor. Since the maid of honor is probably your sister or one of your closest friends it stands to reason that the maid of honor is the ideal candidate to host these two gatherings. It is the maid of honor who will know best what type of party you are looking forward to, what you will enjoy and what types of gifts are most appropriate for your taste. The bridal shower and bachelorette party are also typically parts of the wedding preparations that the bride does not have any direct control over but she usually does not stress about these activities because she has faith that her maid of honor will hold her best interests in mind when planning these special events.

The maid of honor also plays a large role in choosing dresses for the wedding. The maid of honor typically chooses her own dress for the wedding from a selection provided by the bride. Once the color and style of the maid of honor’s dress has been established, the maid of honor works closely with the bride to choose a style and color of dress for the bridesmaids that will look good on each of the bridesmaids and also complement the maid of honor’s dress. The maid of honor also plays a role in assisting the bride in choosing her own wedding dress. While there may be many other friends and relatives who shop with the bride for her dress, it is the opinion of the maid of honor that is generally most valued by the bride.

The wedding day is a very busy day for a maid of honor. Although she has supported the bride throughout the wedding planning process, her most important responsibilities take place on the actual wedding day. Besides simply walking down the aisle and standing on the altar beside her friend the most important roles that the maid of honor plays is to keep the bride calm and to handle any problems that may arise. Very few weddings actually go exactly as planned and it is the maid of honor’s job to make sure that small setbacks do not unnerve the bride. The maid of honor should also have a stash of emergency supplies and wedding accessories on hand such as extra stockings, lipstick in the shade the bride is wearing, tissues, safety pins and hair pins. All of these items can come in handy if the bride has any trouble with her attire, hair or makeup. The maid of honor plays the important role of ensuring that the bride is looking her best even after hours of dancing and talking to friends and family members. Most of all having great memories of her wedding day.

Perhaps the most significant role that the maid of honor plays is to be a friend to the bride. The planning and preparations and the actual wedding itself can be very stressful and emotional for the bride. The one thing that the bride needs more than anything else at this time is someone to talk to who will understand her concerns and give her practical advice and this is the most important job of the maid of honor.

The maid of honor plays a much more important role than just walking down the aisle before the bride and holding her wedding bouquet during the ceremony. Throughout the planning the maid of honor is involved every step of the way from choosing a wedding dress and location to helping to wrap wedding favors, decorating and set up for the wedding reception. As the bride’s best friend the most important role the maid of honor can play is to be supportive and understanding of the bride

Most men are clueless and cringe when it comes to the wedding planning process, but you can make him the middle man between you as bride and the groomsmen. He will stay on the boys not to have to deal with your nagging and whining, which in turn will benefit you by having an orderly and show stopping wedding. Best Man: The best man plays a very important role in your wedding. While he may not be as involved in the wedding plans and preparations as the maid of honor is but he does participate in his own way. The groom is less likely than the bride to feel that it is very important to have his best friend in on every decision so the majority of the responsibilities of the best man take place either at the wedding or in the few days prior to the wedding. Planning the bachelor party, organizing tuxedo rental and returns, organizing the groomsmen, holding the ring during the ceremony and offering the first toast at the reception are just a few of the responsibilities that the best man bears in a wedding.
Organizing the bachelor party is one of the biggest roles that the best man plays in a wedding. This party is typically a night for the groom and his friends to share one more night of bonding before starting his new life with wife and ditching some old habits. While bachelor parties used to take place exclusively on the night before the wedding and involve large quantities of alcohol and dancers, the modern best man tends to venture away from tradition in planning the bachelor party. As one of the closest friends of the groom, the best man is able to choose a time, location and activities for the bachelor party that the groom will enjoy. Another role that the best man plays is to supervise and coordinate the groomsmen. The best man takes on the responsibility of ensuring that all of the groomsmen are aware of when they need to be somewhere and what they need to be doing. Taking on the role of coordinator for the men in the wedding party unburdens the groom of this task, buy most times it falls on the groom because of the bride staying on top of things. If the best man does step up to handle responsibilities, EVEN BETTER, the groom will no longer have to worry about making multiple phone calls every time there is a slight change of plans. He can simply call his best man and then rely on the best man to make everyone aware of the situation and expectations. In general the best man is there to be the groom’s friend and help to alleviate his fears and to make things easy for him. Knowing that the best man will take care of organizing and coordinating the groomsmen and will always be there to listen allows the groom to relax and trust that none of the details will be overlooked. One of the most important responsibilities of the best man is to offer the first toast to the bride and the groom at the reception. In this role the best man is not only offering his sentiment to the new couple but he is also expressing the feelings of all of those in attendance. While everyone at the reception may wish to convey their feelings of good will, it is the best man who is able to do so publicly.

In general the role of the best man is to support the groom and to act in the best interest of the groom. Although there are certain responsibilities such as planning the bachelor party, safeguarding the wedding rings, coordinating the groomsmen and offering the first toast at the reception, the biggest role of the best man is to be a friend to the groom.