Generally, men want someone to be an equal partner in the business of caring and daring for him and to help him take care of a family. Men are very practical and pragmatic meaning that you are not going to get a lot of emotions from a married man. A married man does not want to hear a lot of emotional conversation from his spouse except maybe in the bedroom.

Men marry for different reasons. Usually it is to conquer the one that he thinks he loves because for some reason he is not able to get and maintain her attention. The married man has grown accustomed to playing sports and the purpose of playing the game is to get the ball and make a goal or a touchdown. During the dating period, he puts on his best demure in the hopes of attracting the "one." The "one" is the person that he thinks that he can spend the rest of his life with in holy matrimony. More often than not the "one" is usually someone who is incomprehensible to him and he wants to know and learn more about her. Call it the pleasure in the chase. But a chase it must be becaue for the life of him he does not see anything that he has that is attractive. Men are visual and sees what is attractive in a woman but rarely looks at himself in the mirror except to groom.

Most men do not have any idea of what makes them attractive. A majority of men think that the woman is after his money or want to share his life because he has a high level position. Only the "golddigger" is out for his money and he can spot her a mile away. This particular woman, the one who is after his money, will not get the diamond ring. The diamond ring of a marriage commitment goes to the one who probably was a long time friend and shares his antics like one of the boys. The marriage material to him is not the woman who tries to seduce him because she would be defeating his purpose for being and that is to chase the docile deer. If she is there ready and willing, then he is off with his male pals watching a football game.

Therefore generally, men want out of marriage is first of all a woman who they can not get. So if you are married more than likely you were not the first choice. Men wants a woman who he can continue to chase and conquer with unique ideas of her own. So if you are married and is a stay at home Mom thinking that he can not wait to get home to hear about the kids making a mess, then you got it wrong.

In fact, most men like an independent woman even after marriage. The movies overdo it showing men wanting to be together with a woman every minute of every hour of every day of the year. Men want a marriage where they can continue to be themselves and not made into the man the womans want him to be. They want the woman to remain who she was before marriage with an independent attitude and not one that is going to cover him with your swoonings, flower petals or other romantic notions. Men can not take the drooling because as previously stated, they do not know what makes them attractive. Now you may get chocolate on Valentine's day but if you noticed only the superficial people in Hollywood gets married on Valentine's Day. The easily crumbling of the Hollywood marriages make you wonder if there was love in the relationship an any time during the relationship. By the way, after you get him to marry you, those three words that you want to hear was silenced when he said I Do. Men just do not talk that way except in those thin romantic fictional novels.

Men basically understand that marriage is necessary for the kids and someone have got to pay the bills and to keep the house maintained and in good order.

Remember, men do not want the same thing out of marriage that you do. They just do not think that way and they probably thought you were the one because you gave them the chase. Also you probably could have cared less and married because your biological clock was ticking and you know men are not clock regulated and do not see the urgency in marriage. For that matter, they do not see the urgency in a relationship. They may see the urgency in getting those tires for his truck or tickets to the game but flowers for you just because, not happening. The last scenario only plays out in movieland.

Men do not want a lot of emotion and drama. For the most part a married man generally want what you have been seeing on television. An easy chair, not being bothered, a favorite beverage, a plasma LCD 46" television with all the channels and a remote control. Sorry, but the the married woman does not have connections to the remote control unless she blocking the game.