What Is Your Weakest Link?

If youve ever watched the exciting game show The Weakest Link you'll know its based upon answering a set of questions correctly within a set period of time and at the end contestants can ‘vote' for whoever they decide is the weakest link of the group..the one that they think should be eliminated because they either passed or didnt answer correctly.

Just like the game show..can we identify the weakest links that hold us back from developing our full potential?

I know personally I had several..I felt an overwhelming plethorial of fear..rejection..self-pity..resentment..lacking acceptance and feeling guilty..keeping me in a constant state of depression and desperation..guilt always looks for punishment and punishment creates pain..my days would be filled of feeling sorry for one thing or another and the more I thought of how sad my life was the more depressed I became..it was a vicious cycle I yearned to break free from..leading me to find solace in heroin just to numb my pain..as attractive as this was in the beginning..this just eventually added to my desperation and created a whole new set of problems that went with it

As my dependancy grew so did my despondency..I created a whole dark secret world that I felt safe in and thought noone could penetrate..so alone..hating myself everyday more and more..becoming withdrawn and not realising how I managed to slip into this dark hellhole in the first place

I was focusing on my weakest links and not the positive and great things in my life..my family..my friends..my brilliant life..and i hadnt learnt to be forgiving and accepting..I had everything I could ever wish for right there for me but I couldnt see..I didnt know it then but I was actively manifesting more of what I was absorbed in..my self-pity..the more I thought of how bad I ‘thought' I had it..the more ‘imaginary negativity' became apparent

It came to a point of it was either gonna be hit rock bottom and die or try climbing out of the bottomless pit I had dug for myself with all my strength and resolve..that day came about sure enough..hitting rock bottom is what usually turns peoples lives around..and mine was losing the respect of everyone..afraid to look in the mirror and hating what I saw when I did..wanting to end the suffering so critically..I wanted to desperately feel the love again..to love and respect myself again and feel appreciation for every God given thing I possessed

I registered for the ‘done program (slang for methadone) and they accepted me straight away because of my serious almost 10 year addiction..next I took time out to re-evaluate my life and place my priorities in order..I poured myself out into countless diaries..counsellors..read many self-help books and got in touch again with people that mattered..the most important thing was I stopped my drug use..it was damn hard..God only knows of the suffering I endured..on many days with doubts if I was doing the right thing resurfacing in my mind..playing me..tormenting me..but I stayed strong..I took my done everyday and stopped seeing all my drug friends..everyone that had a connection to me during my dark moments I erased from my life and deleted their numbers from my phone

I was now faced with a new future..a future I could reshape into what I wanted..I had discovered I had a overwhelming desire to ‘give back' and help others that are going through what I was..so I found a great small group that was run by an extrordinary inspiring man who's own son died from a heroin overdose and who started up the Trimingham Foundation to support those families who have a loved one going through the pain of drug addiction..I attended training and got placed with a drug help phone-based group and started with 1 night of counselling and referrals..mainly providing a listening ear and referring them to the appropriate treatment facilities and offering them further info to be mailed out..I fell in love with talking to my callers that I slowly progressed..increasing it to 2 nights per week

I felt my life had direction now..my life at home was improving..my family started trusting and believing in me again..and I won back the respect of my beautiful kids..my self image shot to the top..and I began learning the slow process of accepting myself instead of berating and hating all my faults and weakest links..the mere act of acceptance and forgiveness opened up new doors for me to enter..I learnt that to be forgiving I needed to give in and let go of me and everyone in my past..it had nothing to do with condoning behaviour..no..its just letting the whole thing go..we dont need to know HOW to forgive..all we need to do is be WILLING to forgive

Afterwards..I began seeing lil miracles everywhere..the more my focus was diverted away..the more my inner lighthouse shone..I began to see I was attracting the good back into my life..I eventually found new friends from attending college and starting yoga..started in a great job and was praised consistently for my skills and love of people..began eating properly and attended colonics..flooding my insides with super green foods and my inner spark soon returned..my skin and health and vitality suddenly perked up..I had a new spring in my step and everything around me now seemed so appealing..the more assertive I became the more the walls of my weakest links would dissolve and my ‘imaginary' dark world came crashing down

I now look back at how far I've come and feel so much satisfaction and accomplishment..I still have much to learn from as we all know the journey of life is always testing us but my foundations are firm..today I feel the love and accept myself and take care of myself..and this reflects on everything around me..my goals..my aspirations..my life..I have more compassion and absolution..hatred is no longer part of my vocabulary..I've virtually lost the ability to hate or hold grudges..resentment use to eat away at me and was so draining..now I've learnt to let it go

MY BELIEFS NOW ARE:

- life is really very simple-what we put out we get back

- what we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us

- the Universe totally supports us in every thought and what we believe is true

- the only thing we deal with are thoughts and thoughts can be changed

- the Universal power never judges or critises us

- the present is the most powerful moment

- to release the past we must be willing to forgive to be able to move forward

Some of the books/DVD's/CD's I recommend to help you take the tender steps to a better you are:

- Higher and Higher by Jost Sauer

- The Secret by Rhonda Byrne

- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise L Hay

- The Four Agreements & Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

- What The Bleep Do We Know? (How Far Down The Rabbit Hole Do You Wanna Go?) - DVD

- The Secret - DVD

- Personal Power 2 & Get The Edge by Tony Robbins - CD box set

all excellent reading/viewing/listening and all follow similar philosophical principles

I now enjoy having fun and living life and learning new things..ohh sure..I do have my doubts resurfacing every now and then..I'd be lying if I said I didnt have them..we are all only human after all..the distance and time passed ensures my focus always returns to the present..and how great everything is and those niggly doubts disappear..on the most trying tested days I take time out for me..a wonderful massage..relaxing with a good book or listening to my favourite music..a day out at the beach..or being around family..it all helps to keep the positive momentum going..yes i feel truly blessed..you too can learn to dissolve your limiting weakest links by staying true to youself and learning to love yourself and be accepting and forgiving to all that you are..the good bits and the not so good bits..they all make up a part of you..I truly believe this is the key to developing the best in us and living your life to the fullest

***I now have been opiate free for 7 years and done free for over a year and am so grateful to be able to been given the opportunity to help and be understanding of others in the same situation as I was in not that long ago..the warm fuzzies are just so delightful to experience arent they?..GET YOURS TODAY!!