I have interviewed multiple women on this topic while conducting research for this hub article. In turn multiple men were also interviewed. The answers I received from most women in past or present relationships or dating is that most men do not take the time to really get to know them. In fact the women's complaints were that most men actually tried to become sexual on the first date and they felt violated or over periods of time of being in a relationship men became complacent and acted as if they were not interested in them and stop giving them compliments or flowers. Men on the flip side during interviewing complained that a lot of women make to high of demands on them and no matter what they tried to do for their female partner it was never good enough or met their expectations. When the men were asked "why they tried to be sexual right away?". Fifty percent of the men being interviewed denied attempting to be sexual and said "it was more like the third of fourth date". The other 50 percent stated " Well she was flirting and was in a sense asking me to be sexual'. The real facts here are that most men just simply do not talk and ask their partners what makes them tick and a lot of men take the least path of resistance and try and see how far they can get on their first date with minimal effort. The real point here is that most research in relationship building and dating is that women tend to understand themselves better then men do. So, men need to communicate more with their partners, girlfriends, and dates and take the time to find out what really makes them feel good and what their individual expectations are of dating and romance. I would personally recommend in this day of fast pace life and technology for couples to utilize internet dating sites. There are a lot of great sites that actually break the ice between men and women. These internet dating sites ususually ask for each the man and the woman to enter their own individual profiles, interests, employment, hobbies, relationship status, religion, children and a series of other screening questions. This screening process gives each person the opportunity to examine the other and even see if they feel they have similiarities and are compatible. The absolute worst place a person can meet is on a blind date or in a bar. Usually, those that meet in bars and blindly do not work out. Internet dating has a very high success rate and is daily meeting up people that are compatible by matching profiles and expectations. This way now men can start understanding women better and women can start seeing the real men with substance and sincerity. I recommend to all new daters: (1) First ask for a picture before meeting anyone off the internet (2) Ask for a cell phone and personal email address off the dating site (3) first 2 to 3 dates meet for coffee or a meal in a public place and never go home with one another until you really have gotten to know them and each feels comfortable and lastly (4) If the person seems creepy or you feel uncomfortable terminate the date and do not see that person any more for your own safety. Lastly, both men and women need to learn to communicate their needs to one another and especially men need to learn how to talk with their heads with brains and learn how to romance their partners without just trying to have sex with them. Romance goes a long way and if you really care for your date or partner you will want to take the time to understand them intellectually as a whole person not just a sex object.