"Emptiness isn't loneliness, it's the missing of you." Source unknown

Sadness, depression, hurt, anger and even hate are just some of the painful emotions you will probably feel after a breakup, especially if you are the innocent party. You end up feeling the breakup is unjustified and asking yourself all sorts of questions on ‘what should I do to get my ex back?’ Should I do this – should I do that?

The answer to these questions can be found just about everywhere – books, websites, blogs, forums and even courses abound just to answer these questions. But rather than buying the book, watching the film and wearing the t-shirt a simpler common sense approach can often work wonders in supplying the answer to ‘What Should I Do to Get My Ex Back?’ Common sense mixed with plain old-fashioned courtesy can go a long way to repairing your relationship and bringing you back together with your ex.

If you are really serious about getting back together with your ex try following this simple advice to improve your chances of success.

First off, do not play mind games with your ex. A lot of people try this during breakups because of the feeling of power it gives them. They get turned on by manipulating their ex into believing that they either don’t care or care more than they really do, misleading their ex partner. Just be honest in your feelings and let your partner know this.

Like all lies, playing mind games eventually comes home to roost and if you trick your partner in to getting back together through them then the odds are you are just postponing a further breakup.

Dating games are another way people try to manipulate each other by pretending to be dating or in love with, someone else. The idea being of course to make the ex jealous. While this can occasionally be successful, making your ex so jealous that they want you back, most of the time it backfires and results in a permanent split.

It’s only human nature for them to assume that since you have moved on so fast that you are not missing them and have put the relationship behind you. Using this trick is a two-edged sword that can cut both ways – so as a tactic for getting your ex back it is unreliable.

Control your anger and hurt. The feelings of anger and hurt that occur during a breakup can be all to easily passed on during any conversation you may have with your ex, making you act and sound vicious and vindictive. Since you are here, wanting to know ‘what should I do to get my ex back?’ you are obviously ready to forgive and forget.

So how have you been controlling your anger and hurt? Putting yourself into your ex’s shoes are you the life and soul of the party or have you been acting like a bear with a sore head? Would you enjoy spending time with you? Or would you dread it and go out of your way to avoid it? Make a point of avoiding any bitter arguments with your ex and don’t shout or nag at them.

That’s enough of things not to do to get your ex back. What you should be doing is to be on your best behaviour, showing yourself in a favourable light. Think of the old saying 'Do unto others' and you won't go far wrong. Think back to what attracted your ex to you in the first place and try to act that way again. You need to show him or her your good points to remind him or her of what they are missing. This will improve your chances to ‘get my ex back’ - make them realise what they are throwing away.

Of course these are only the first steps to winning your ex back. By the time you’ve finished putting all the necessary steps together you’ll have a courtship dance that will give you every opportunity to win back your ex.

If you want to know more about how to get your ex back check out my other articles or visit the man who helped me when I was struggling to cope with my breakup – T ‘Dub’ Jackson.

T ‘Dub’ has put together a guide called the Magic of Making Up that avoids all the expert double talk and lays out what to do in simple, easy to understand steps that really work – just check out the many testimonials.