Ok so i was talking to my brother tonight about various philosophical topics, and the matter of relationships came up. I know it's such a cliched topic, but seriously i think i have to say something that everyone has already thought of but never actually said out loud.

I was talking to him about the guy im seeing at the moment. I HATE the beginning of a relationship...nearly as much as i love it. Its such a awesome feeling when you meet someone new and you click and there is that thing. That indescribable feeling that you've met someone you think could be "the one". But having said that there is an unwritten rule book of how you're supposed to behave, what you are and what you aren't allowed to do. And more importantly of what you're allowed to SAY.

In this new age of technological advances, dating isn't what it use to be. We have access to email, Facebook, Twitter, and various other online social networks. Not to mention the use of mobile phones. Because of this, we have so many options when it comes to keeping in contact. Back in the days (probably more of my grandparents, than my own parents), things were kept traditional. The guy asked the girl out, they would call on her house. Most likely meet her parents and date in a respectable manner. There was no late night lengthy phone calls or daily text messages or emails or Facebook/Twitter stalking. Things were simple. The Rules were few (if not a little restrictive for my taste), but that was how things were done.

Now day's, with technology as it is and feminism and female equality becoming more and more accepted, Its not so unusual for girls to be left feeling a little lost when it comes to their role. Now don't worry i'm not going to ramble on about my feminist views or political correctness.But the point is, that girls feel the need to seek direction on what is and isn't the right way to be. Guys as well (don't worry i haven't forgotten you guys) are also a little lost (although they probably wouldn't admit it.

My first and most important main issue with dating is the whole "Should i Call or Should i Wait for Him/Her to Call Me?"

Who an earth invented that stupid idea that you have to wait to call or message or whatever? Seriously? If you wanna call the dam guy, then call him! I have this theory that if we didn't all feel the need to be so restricted on when and how often we call/message our special someone, there would be very few (of course there have to be exceptions) people who would worry about how often they do or don't call. They would call when they felt like it. There would be less obsessive girls in the world that call or message all day every day and we would all be much happier. (sorry girls but we tend to do this more than guys)

I know that part of the fun in dating is the chase etc, especially for guys, but come on.

And that point is just the beginning of a range of rules that somehow snuck in.

Take for example the whole saga of saying "I Love You". Why do we feel the need to wait to say those three special words? Why are we always nervous about saying it? Afraid that they might not feel the same way. Why do we judge the other person for not returning the sentiment? Why can't we just say "I love you" when we actually feel it? Making it so much more genuine. Not expecting it in return, simply expressing how we feel about it. Do you want to know why? Because we're so fracking afraid that we'll freak the other person out and we might lose them. Well NEWS FLASH! IF it freaks them out to hear that someone loves them.....they have issues. There is nothing scary or weird about someone telling you they love you. You should feel privileged to hear those words. Especially from the person you're seeing. The fact that you're seeing them means that you think there is something there, something is possible. So who better to hear those words from, than from your special person.

You know there are so many other rules around dating, especially in the beginning when you're not sure about each other and things aren't so "definite". We feel the need to tiptoe around just in case we lose them. Are we so insecure that we have to do that? Having said that i know that i stress about these things myself. As much as i know about relationships in theory (and i'm the best advice giver when it comes to my friends relationship issues), when it comes to my own relationships, i feel completely lost. Like i'm i woke up in another country and i don't speak the language.

So to conclude, i feel like i should quote of great wisdom

“Women desire six things: They want their husbands to be brave, wise, rich, generous, obedient to wife, and lively in bed”

Chaucer

I know that has nothing to do with my blog, but i love quotes and besides,I think that about sums up 95% of the female populations greatest desires!

XOXO

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