The basic problem underlying fatness is bad, cockeyed thinking followed by developing bad habits. It begins with a lack of pride in the way you look as well as lack of self-respect.

Bad thinking: away from good health drifting to disease and death. In order to change this fatness and self-pity is to put your foot down today and say to yourself you'll do your best to make an appointment with yourself and exercise. .

You could start with something simple like jumping rope. If you're in real bad shape, start with 100 or with whatever you can do without getting a heart attack. Work your way up each day till you're doing over a thousand.

Whatever the workout, your FOCUS is on THIS WORKOUT - TODAY. This is a journey not and end. Focus on the journey you are making part of your lifestyle today.

A lot of women look at your shoes and make judgements. If they are scruffed up, unpolished or worn out you may have perception problems.

Don't show up wearing athletic shoes for a social event or dinner date. Nothing is worse than someone in a sharp outfit but with trashed shoes. Shoes tell something about a person.

Everyone has a notion of their own personal space. When you first meet someone you need to respect their personal space. It's OK to go in and out of their personal space and can be quite flirtatious. But to remain in their personal space when you don't know someone that well is behaving like a leech; it is uncomfortable for them.

Bribes send the wrong message. People bribe you are looking for favors from someone in a higher position and power over them or when they are trying to entice someone to give them something they want or to avoid pain. Like the Beatles song goes, "Can't Buy Me Love."

Deviation in judgement that occurs in particular situations and be from a bias blind spot to even be biased over a trait that stand out like a sore thumb. The list of cognitive biases in Wikipedia for cognitive biases that affect a desired outcome because of biases in probability perception is worth looking into.