Ladies, what is the problem with so many, not all but so many of these men that claim to want to date. Not the ones who are honest enough to admit they don't but these that claim to be such good men and worthy of good woman. Now let's jump, you are dating and actually enjoying one another but you see things that are putting up flags on you.

For get it, nothing major and you really do have a good time together with a lot and I mean a lot in common. Start planning outings for the summer. Surprise of surprise it is him not you. Wow!! This is cool but you still are getting this little something is not quite right here. No I am not leading up to him being some cheating bleeping so and so!! Nothing like that.

He does work hard so you overlook the heavy drinking whenever you are together and the inebriated sex that he climaxes but is too drunk to realize he did nothing for you. Even though his present state has him thinking he was the man. You try to realize he works hard and deserves a drink or two if he wants to relax from so much work. You are also willing to ignore he smokes and you hate cigarettes. You two have spoke and he says he is a light occasional smoker and won't around you because you are not just being funny but are allergic and cannot be around smoke.

Still he is a good person, you two laugh and have good times and you actually admire his ethics and drive. He can hold a clear conversation and actually have something fun or serious worth listening to. Cool!! He has talked to his family about you, no not marriage but how much he enjoys you and how well you get along and the favorite uncle you met has pulled your coat tail and given you the low down.

Then one evening it is late and he is coming over but for no apparent reason his lights start to flicker, yes he calls you. May have to turn back but will let you know. You hear no more and figure he was so frustrated getting back in, calling you was not top priority. So, 'late' the next day you call to see how he made it in. He answers but is busy at work and will call back, no problem, bye, later. You do not speak all week and are busy with your own things that have to be done. When on Saturday, Valentine's Day early you see him on line and ask how he was and why you never heard back from him. He does not respond, IM. Eventually, you click out and he signs off.

You continue what you are doing and many hours later you get an IM of, "Hello." What the???? Now the sarcasm appears, "So after several hours you have thought of a response to my question?"  In return you get, "What question?" Without going word for word it is a brief exchange of denial and ends in a, "Go to hell, I am too old for this foolishness and you are too old to play these games."

Phone rings. The exchange is about the original eve of days ago and that this is Valentine's Day without so much as a call earlier in the day. Don't need this mess. You want to climb in my bed and cannot pick up a phone? Of Course apologies out the yin yang, all accepted with a, "Take care, don't need this."

Now, please tell me is it so much to ask that you get a call even if it is late. That you not be so drunk you know what you are doing in the bed. That if we are far enough in the relationship to climb in my bed, I can get Happy Valentine's Day call, not to mention a gift or card?

Ladies please feel better of yourselves. You can let one or two things slide but when it starts to add up let it go, just walk it off. There are too many fish in the sea and if you are a good person another worth keeping will bite your line.