You know, I think people who find things real harsh are people who don't have the ability to relate. If you have been through such little in your life that you can judge someone else in their response of difficult matters, well then you have not experienced enough in life to understand. This is not a bad thing and thank "someone" that you have not yet had that kind of heart ache to relate. I hope you never do. I read things that just make me sad for those who write. The only advise that I can give,...... is Please do not give up........ The things that you experience through life are yours to build from. It is actually easier to give up than Try. So, if you are not a quit-er, build off the hand given. You are the only one that can make the change to strive for something different.