What does Woman submit yourself onto your Husband mean?
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The source of the question
This hub is a response to a question from my wife.
The source of the question is in the New Testament book of Ephesians chapter 5 verses 21 through 25. "Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;" this theme is repeated elsewhere in the new testament and has been a source of confusion for many.
Lets break it down by verse.
Verse 21
“Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” We can find the meaning of this by looking at other passages such as Philippians 2:3 “Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.” Here we can see that submission to one another refers to self sacrifice. The willingness to put the needs and desires of others above our own wants. This is not to say that we give up our goals but rather that we should consider others more. this selfless service is not only honorable but Christ like. Only in learning to be a servant can we become true leaders.
Verse 22
"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord." this should be self explanatory. Still we can clarify it more in Colossians 3:18 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” wives should submit in the same manner they would to God because it is correct to do so in the Lord. Further we can look at Colossians 4:1 “Masters, give unto your servants that which is just and equal; knowing that ye also have a Master in heaven.” It is not only proper for wives to remember their place but for husbands to do so also. While it is the wife’s place to submit to her husband as she would to God it is the husbands duty to recognize her efforts. He to has a master in heaven. Just as we expect fair treatment and recognition from our employers and hope for it from God we also owe it to those who serve us. This includes wives and employees.
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Verse 23
“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body.” Once again men need to understand the pecking order. 1 Corinthians 11:3 “but I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God” The bible is quite clear that a man is responsible for his wife. He is not placed over her as her oppressor but as her guardian and as such he is responsible for her well being and her activities. Colossians 1:18 “And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all things he might have the preeminence.” A wife is responsible to her husband and the husband is responsible to God. She should answer to her husband as she would to God esteeming her husband more than herself as she should esteem God’s need above her own. The husband, in turn, Should react the same unto God.
Verse 24
“Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” How should the wife be subject to her husband. Titus 2:4-5 instructs the elder women of the church “That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.” in this manner should we all be subject to God. it is a dishonor for a man’s wife to be a trouble maker in public and Proverbs tells us “It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.” 21:19. Therefore it is proper to be loving and obedient to your husband and for Him to obey God. No man, in obedience to God, would abuse his wife or lord his position over her. Rather he would praise her openly for her good works in hope that God would do the same for him.
Verse 25
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” Colossians 3:19 “ Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.” Acts 20:28 “Take heed therefore unto yourselves, and to all the flock, over the which the Holy Ghost hath made you overseers, to feed the church of God, which he hath purchased with his own blood.” Men have the duty to love their wives with the same sacrificial love Christ had for the church. Romans 5:8 “But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” before we ever showed love towards Him Christ gave up his life to save us.
Conclusion
Women are not called to submit as beaten slaves but as willing servants. Just as we all serve God, placing His will and desire above our own so too should wives submit to their husbands.
Husbands must remember that they, in turn are required to love their wives as Christ loved the church.
Marriage is a picture of the marriage of the Lamb of God and the Bride of Christ(the church). Christ laid down his life for us while we were still in rebellion towards him. John 16:24 says “Hitherto have ye asked nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.” God is willing to give us our hearts desire to give us joy.
In this same way we are to love our wives. While submission means valuing the needs and desires of other above our own we are to submit to one another as Christ commands. this places the needs and desires of all at the top of everyone else's priority list.
Wives are to submit to their husbands because God made them the head of the family and as such the men bear responsibility for the wives. Women should not burden their husbands by making them responsible for their rebellion. It is this action which caused Solomon to prefer the corner of the roof, or the open fields to be a better place to live than at home with a nagging, argumentative wife.
Husbands should desire the joy of their wife as Christ desires the joy of His people. They should proudly praise their wife for her good works in the home.
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"Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church" this too is part of the passage and a part that some men fail to acknowledge. Christ not only died to save his church he dedicated His life to building it and he promised that he would grant us the desires of our hearts if we asked in faith "that our joy may be full." There is nothing Christ would not do for us and men are commanded to love their wives in the same way.
Marriage is a picture of Christs mariage to the church. As such we are expected to act in those roles. The wife whould act towards her husband as the church should act toward God. Men are to act toward their wives as Christ would toward the church.
Can you imagine Christ beating the church? cheating on the church? leaving the church for womeone else? Locking the church away where it could never enjoy the beauty of His creation? Depriving His church of that which gives them joy? Of course not. Men should treat their wives with all the love and generousity of Christ. Some may teach that Christ favored poverty and servitude but, of all the heroes of the bible most were very wealthy, many were royalty and none were suffering pacivists who stood inactive while others came to kill them.
Can a divorced man or woman remarry?
Off the cuff I know Paul recommended against it but, he often wrote opinions that he freely admitted were his own and not God's. He recommended against a man in the ministry marrying at all but he freely admitted that was his opinion and not God's command.
I will research this subject for you. I suspect the result will be detailed enough for a new hub but I will be wure to put a link on this page so you can easily find it.
this is great but can you use some real live examples to help us understand better - pls send answer to wwjd4iana@yahoo.com
thanks!
Submission is mostly a matter of the things found in Proverbs 31 regarding the virtuous woman. This is not a homebody kept barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. This passage describes an independent entrepreneur who's efforts are directed toward building the family and bringing honor to her husband. These same traits should be found in the husband regarding his service to Christ. The Effective Executive by Peter Drucker calls for decision making to start with the question "What is best for the enterprise?" This is a matter of submitting your will to the needs of those you serve. You may desire to concentrate on being the top truck driver in your company but does that serve the needs God has for you? I'm a trucker who loves proving his ability but if I went back Over the Road and concentrated on my job I could not continue as a music director in my church or help the pastor with the teaching programs. The church needs someone in those roles and I am the only one available at this time. What's best for the church is to remain local, take less prestigious work, and serve my church as worship leader. So I submit to God by doing so. An on the job injury put me out of work for a while and to maintain the house my wife took part time work to help with the bills. She would prefer to stay at home and keep house and work on her hobbies. Some of those hobbies are even profitable but she submitted to our needs by taking a couple jobs that were more profitable and put serving my needs ahead of her own desire. Implied in the concept of submission is that we serve with a joyful spirit. While the task at hand may be undesirable, we should be taking joy in the fact that we can be helpful. Submission is doing what needs to be done rather than what we want to do. The world is full of people who serve their own desires but those who put others first always seem to be the most satisfied by their lives. That's because God rewards those who follow his rules instead of their own desires. Submission isn't slavery it's service. It means considering others first and dealing with your own desires second. Chose your spouse, and your friends well, and you will soon find that they do the same. Just as you are trying to help them enjoy a better life they will be doing the same for you. It's a bit less likely if you spend all your time complaining about what you do for them since that will normally result in a "who asked you to" attitude.
Good hub. Thanks for writing. God bless.
Well, while I remain open to the Lord showing me more and more, at this present time, I wrote a hub called Liberty for Women in Christ. Before the fall the will of the Lord was that THEY would rule over all things together. The curse then was that Eve would be ruled over by her husband. When Jesus died, the message of salvation is that there is no more distinction between men and women, Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, that we are all one in Jesus.
The passage in 1 Corinthians is based on the culture of the time. I lived in Southern Turkey where Paul was, near Tarsus and even today they still walk behind their husbands in that part of the world. Anyhow, if you notice, theses are Paul's commandments, and he says so.
Ephesians 5 is the "mystery" about Christ and the church. You might find my hub interesting, but I believe we are to be EQUALLY yoked in every way and that to be great is to serve one another; that we are no longer TWO but ONE flesh. I just believe there is no oppression for either gender, race or social status in the liberty of the Lord. Again, I stay open to further teaching.
The Biblical Teachings are the basis of freedom for all. Racial and gender equality ideals find their basis in scripture including this one. The Commandments to husbands in regard to their wives is the source of this movement towards equality. Keep in mind that Paul is writing this many years after the crucifixion and is endeavoring to teach people how they should act in light of the new paradigm created by Christ's sacrifice and resurection. There is no need to look to modern views over biblical ones when the biblical ones have been creating the modern paradigm. In fact, when you see a modern movement that cannot be found based in scripture you can be sure it will lead to disaster.
Respect and equality between men and women has always been promoted by Christians and exists only in nations that have embraced Christianity and provided freedom to worship for Christians. No other religion, practiced as it was created, recognizes women as anything better than second class citizens. Most see them as less than human. See Colossians 3:11.
If you look through the gospels you will find that Paul's comments are just repeating the comments and commands of Christ. Pauls views on not getting married are his own and he says so. He also held to other practices he freely admitted were not of God but of his own opinion. He always pointed out when he was giving his own opinion but gave very little of his own opinion. Scripture is The inspired word of God penned by man. Books filled with the opinions of individuals can be found among the so called "lost gospels" and teachings of early church pastors. These are not part of the bible because they are the teachings of men and not God Breathed Scripture. Good men yes, But a book by the apostles Andrew or Thomas, while potentially informative, are no more Scripture than a book by Billy Graham or John Hagee. Never make the mistake of believing that large prtions of scripture can be discarded for any reason. 2 Timothy 3:16-17. All scripture is infallible.
I have been independent since I was 12 years, clothing myself,deciding my career growth, take responsibility, pay rent and so on that a young independent woman can. I am now 27 years and in a serious relationship. Lately we have been fighting alot and I came to realize, I am mostly against his decisions he makes for our future. He is a mature person and guides me in my career path, how I should grow intellectually and so on. But when he takes authority as a man I feel defend myself in words and I throw tantrums. I always knew, my weakness will be submitting to a man, and I have prayed God to help me exercise this even as I enter marriage. I feel if I continue like this, I may loose the man I love. Please help me. After being independent all those years, how can I start submiting?
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Now when your wife was out working for the family and you were not. How do you explain the verse that says the wife is to be the keeper of the home? We are not ment to be out in the work place.
Submission is not the wife being treated like a slave. And the husband saying if you don't do as I say your not being submitting. Our husbands should be looking out for the best for his wife and family. Here is any example. My husband asked me to but our cat on the TV cabnit. I did has he asked. On one side of the TV cabnit is a file cabnit and the side a chair. There was something on the file cabnit. He asked me to move the item off the file cabnit. I said she will jump off onto the chair. The cat jumped off onto the chair and hurt herself for a second. She is fine. My husband said well that is because you were not submisive to me. That is going to far and this has nothing to do with being submisive. We are not to be giving ourselves up to man as we do God. We are to respect each other and be able to trust in the decions our husband make for the family. Not told what to do from moving a peice of funiture etc. This is a very good quote I just found.
"Headship" means that God has called the man to lead his home—and will therefore hold him personally responsible for what goes on in his home. The emphasis is on responsibility and accountability, not on authority and power.”
Note the key words NOT AUTHORITY AND POWER. But RESPONSIBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY.
Carmela says:
13 months ago
This poses a question, what does it mean for the man to love his wife as Christ loves the church? I think this is the main reason women don't want to submit to her man, he doesn't know how to love their wives..Is it just praising her work inside the home? her work as in, "you cleaned the bathroom well this week?" I would like more detail on that..