What makes teenagers think that they know it all? Why do they have to be so mean and disrespectful?
61Teens Are Only A Reflection of Others...
Are your teens mean? Here's why...
I want to start off asking a couple questions. How old are you? Older than 21? Or 18? Did you go to school? Are you attending school? Last one, I promise. Do you know it all? Do you? Huh, Huh? Do You?
I thought not. Guess what! Neither do I! I’m 17 years old and don’t think I know everything. Yet at times I am smarter than others, even adults. That doesn’t mean I know everything though. It just means I’ve had a lot of experiences and learning for my age. It’s not good or bad. It just is.
To answer your question though. It’s because you or it’s because adults think they have to know everything. Key words being “have to know everything”. Like it’s a responsibility or something. So it falls perfectly into the cycle of life. Teens are in the middle of being an adult and a kid at the same time. We are in the middle awkward stage. We try and know everything because the adults in our lives want to know everything. It’s like a kid following his mommy and daddy around. Oh wait, not like, but it is exactly that.
So there it is. The answer to your question. We are a reflection to those surrounding us whether they like to admit it or not. For Pete’s sake I don’t think teens like to admit it either. Maybe that’s another example of how we follow our parents. Who knows.
So I hope this has answered your question and if you have any questions for me then please ask them though a comment in this hub and I will answer them as soon as possible.
Have an awesome day.
Espian~
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Well your analysis is not that far off yet a little immature yet. Not all adults want to know everything, unless you are talking about wanting to know everything in their childs life because they want them safe above all other things.
Teenagers, while exposed to a lot of new life experiences at a rapid pace, feel as though they know a lot and may want to disregard what an adult may suggest because at the time or in your teenage life it doesn't make a lot of sense.
In my experience and I am only 30, when I was 17 I really did think I knew everything and the one thing that I did do was just keep in mind what my parents were telling me. I didn't like a lot of what they had to offer at the time but had I listened then it really could have saved me a world of trouble later.
Now, I am who I am so going my own way was my way and the way I do things but after my twenties and all the mistakes I had made because I didn't listen to my folks, I paid attention to in my later twenties so that I did not repeat the same ones over again.
Even today, a lot of the time I cannot stand what some older people have to say about things but at the same time I have to take into account that there is some truth to back up what they are saying because I only have my life and to live vicariously through others is good for the soul of understanding.
But you are right, no one know everything. Sounds like you have a good head on your shouldars so far so your folks must be good at what they do in some way.
Establishing independence is hard or crazy at times and the need to do your own thing is pretty normal. I think that teenagers just end up sounding mean because parents lose thier understanding of what it was like to be a teenager too and kids don't know what it is like to be the parent so anger seems the quikest route to resolving issues of independence.
Take a good look at the world and you would see, that the world is full of a bunch of kids. :)
Not all of it is hormones! Their brains are wired differently then ours. Here is a great site with animations to show the growth processes:
I believe there is a "know-it-all" phase of emotional growth that all teens must pass through to get to adulthood. It definitely lasts through the teens and into the twenties. In my experience, once people settle down and have a husband/wife/family the need to be the smartest person in the world recedes.
I don't recall the exact age at which I stopped rebelling against parental authority and started listening to and appreciating my parents, but it definitely wasn't in my teens...
Good hub!
Yeah Mighty Mom, I think everyone goes through a "know it all" phase that subsides later in life but definitely not in the tweens. :)
My oldest daughter came around when she started babystiing on a regular basis in her mid twenties. I remember it well becasue she called me and apologized for everything that she put me through since she was a small child! It was an uplifting experience and a wonderful oment when she did that!
LG, Your words give me hope. Since I'm currently in the terribel teens phase of motherhood, I'm in the thick of it. But I have faith it will get better!
As an aside, I have no interest in knowing it all. I know I don't and know that it's impossible for anyone to. But I do enjoy reading about and learning new things here on HP!
That must have been really great LG. I remember calling my folks, mom and dad and telling them sorry for all the crap I put them threw. My mom, she just said, "uh huh." LOL, and my dad was almost in tears and recalled every spiteful and nasty thing I ever did, then we laughed about it.
Yeah I didn't say much either. Now if my youngest would do that it would be really great, but I don't think she is going to do that. She is in her lat 20's and hasn't a clue still! lol
LOL LG! I am sorry about the younger one. She will come around. Has she hit rocks bottom yet?
I'll tell you in email.
Well, very often young people have better perception of reality then adults. Because they are still not completely infected by so called "reality of life". They still have ideals, they are closer to spiritual life then many adults.
Adults have experience, which can be good or bad. More they have positive attitude towards life, they are more "right".
Every age has "right" and "wrong" moments.No human being is not "right" all the time.
Young people have to develop they self-esteem and feel like individuals, to use their own brains, to be able to make decisions. That is the reason they are often "against" the adults and their ways (especially if they feel and see that adults are confused, and act completely opposite they say they do). A lot of adults have completely different attitudes about one subject. How can their children know what to do, if they notice two or more confused opinions about the same thing?
This sentence is true:
"We are a reflection to those surrounding us whether they like to admit it or not."!!!
Very often parents cannot see that, because it is not easy to be faced with the truth. Children are mirrors of their parents, as long as they want to be that. Everyone of us can choose one´s own life path...when time comes for that (with full love, respect and gratitude to our parents who gave us example which we can but do not need to follow (if it is not appropriate to us)).
Great Hub, ES.
I am your fan now, Peace, Love & Light to you.
I am the mother of a "new teen". She is thirteen and putting me through a lot, but I try to be understanding. I am not afraid to tell her that I don't know everything. Saying "I don't know" is nothing to be ashamed of.
I don't know what makes my child act the way that she does. All I know is that there are things that she is not mature enough to understand in life and once she learns a little about those things, I have a feeling that I will see a real change in her. I try to tell my daughter that the emotions that adult go through ar nothing like what a teenager might go through, and while that is true, I also understand I may be a little out of touch with what today's teens go through. As long as a parent is willing to compromise, so should the child. If I don't know it all, then neither does my teen.
Tootles!!!
It's more than that. You teenagers are filled with hormones that make you react irrational at times. Plus, you want to be considered adult when you're just beginning to learn about adulthood. Relax, you'll be an adult for an awfully long time. Plus, when you are an adult, you'll miss your teen years which lasts a grand total of six years. Compare that to decades and decades of being an adult. Other problems can be attributed to your parents or guardians who can effect you negatively. I just think adults let you teens either get away with murder or you all too severly which is why many of you will end up being adults with complex problems unless your problems are solve right now, in your teen years. Letting a teen get away with stealing, for example, might encourage them to steal somemore and grow up to be criminals. Of course, that doesn't mean he or she should spend 5 years in juvie, for example.
Hey thanks for all the comments!! Love Them!! If you liked this one check out the beginning of a new series I'm starting callled Espian's Journal of A Teenager!!!
http://hubpages.com/hub/Espians-Journal-of-Teenage
Oh and I want to let you guys know ahead of time about another series starting Feb 1st It's about inspirational stories from working at Christian Supply. I currently work there and am trying to share how God has worked there in so many ways. Please check them out when they come!! Look for "CHRISTIANSUPPLYTESTIMONIES" !!!Thanks have an awesome day.
Espian~
Here is some of that page that I posted the linkgt to above:
Excerpts from an interview with Jay Giedd:
Jay Giedd, M.D. is a practicing Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist and Chief of Brain Imaging at the Child Psychiatry Branch of the National Institute of Mental Health
For full interview see: Inside the Teenage Brain
...Right around the time of puberty and on into the adult years is a particularly critical time for the brain sculpting to take place...
... It;s sort of unfair to expect teens to have adult levels of organizational skills or decision-making before their brains are finished being built...
...The frontal lobe is often called the CEO, or the executive of the brain. It's involved in things like planning and strategizing and organizing, initiating attention and stopping and starting and shifting attention. It's a part of the brain that most separates man from beast, if you will...
...I think that [in the teen years, this] part of the brain that is helping organization, planning and strategizing is not done being built yet ... [It's] not that the teens are stupid or incapable of [things]. It's sort of unfair to expect them to have adult levels of organizational skills or decision making before their brain is finished being built. ...
...doing drugs or alcohol that evening, it may not just be affecting their brains for that night or even for that weekend, but for the next 80 years of their life..."
this is a great post! Teenagers really do think they know it all though. it doesnt nessacarally mean that there parents think they do, i think that is also just a phase. They think nothing will harm them or effect them, and they are really just in a hurry to grow up and get out there because they think that they know what its going to be like and stuff. I think all and all, its just life and every teeen goes through it, and they learn lessons from it.
Loved the hub though great job!
this is a great post! Teenagers really do think they know it all though. it doesnt nessacarally mean that there parents think they do, i think that is also just a phase. They think nothing will harm them or effect them, and they are really just in a hurry to grow up and get out there because they think that they know what its going to be like and stuff. I think all and all, its just life and every teeen goes through it, and they learn lessons from it.
Loved the hub though great job!
sigh, sigh… I’d wish I were 17 and knew everything. Smile….
Trsmd says:
11 months ago
Hormones play a big factor. They are also trying to establish themselves as adults, and they think that following a parent's rules is childish and unnecessary.