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What teenagers knows about SEX

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By Wallpaper Queen



Teenagers know sex is a strong urge and they'd be hard put to resist it when left alone with someone they really like. They‘ve been warned often enough about this. Girls also know that solo dating can be a problem, and that boys, whether they*re genuinely interested or not, will always try to get them to bed.

They know the saying, "If you can‘t be good, be careful" Girls know there are birth control pills and boys know there are condoms, but knowing doesn't mean they‘re willing to use these things, "That would seem to be too premeditated," they say. Sex should be spontaneous. Besides, they won't admit to planning to engage in something they know they Shouldn‘t.

Pre-marital sex is fraught with danger. It can lead to disease, unwanted pregnancy, and a soiled reputation for the girls.

But sex can also be fun, and being spoken for is cool. There*s a lot of excitement in illicitness, and a validation of the self in being physically desired.

Drugs and alcohol don't mix well, but drugs and/or alcohol and sex do. Again, by the time they reach their senior year in high school roost teenagers would have been warned often enough to stay away from alcohol and drugs, especially in the company of the opposite sex. Some don't take heed, but most others do.

What they should know-but probably don’t

Pre-marital sax hurts- psychologically as well as physically. F0r many first-timers, the experience is s0 fraught with anxiety and guilt that all they feel afterwards is disappointment, shame, and a feeling of being let down.

Preventing pregnancy requires thought and effort; nothing should be left to chance. Even if sex, to be good, should be spontaneous. Contraception requires planning to be effective. The point is, couples who indulge in pre-marital sex should pay more attention to their sex—Ed classes. Unless they’re using artificial means to prevent pregnancy, pinpointing a woman’s fertile period requires thought and understanding. It can vary from month to month by as much as three days or more, and in addition, couples must bear in mind that the sperm can survive inside the woman’s body for up to 48 hours, making the two days prior to ovulation unsafe days, too. If you find this confusing, you‘re at risk for an unwanted pregnancy.


Birth Controls

There are right and wrong ways to use birth control devices. If you must resort to using them, read the package directions to make sure you get things right. As for condoms, there‘s a very common error committed when taking them off which can bring disastrous results. Important reminder: Don‘t wait until his erection has subsided before pulling apart, and see to it that he holds on to the top of the rubber as he pulls away to make sure it doesn't slip off. I don’t judge a book by its cover. "Nice" guys have been known to force themselves on their dates, and "nice" girls have turned out to be infected. "Decent" fellows may have disgusting sexual kinks, while "docile" souls can turn out to be frighteningly violent in bed. • You can get infected with AIDS or an STD (sexually transmitted disease) even by someone who looks respectable and clean. Many teenagers think you can catch a disease only if you have sex with a prostitute or with some much older man or woman of the world. Not so. A lot of AIDS sufferers or HIV- positive people move in our midst, looking pretty much like you and me. Some of them may not even know they have the disease, because it’s still at an early stage and does not manifest itself.


You can also get infected from having oral sex. So, when unsure, don't!

Sex is an emotional experience that leaves you vulnerable in ways you may not want to be. It can blind you to the character of your sexual partner and cause you to make errors in judgment. Notice how marriages built on passion last no longer than the honeymoon, while marriages build on respect and friendship last a lifetime.

If you can put off sex until the time you*re ready to start a family and l are certain, pretty certain, you've found the right partner to start that family well, you have the prognosis for a long and lasting marriage.

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