Since we have the power to make the rules let's take time and get it right. There's no reason to be unrealistic so we'll keep it real. That's why desire is first on the list.

#1 You can't create anything, much less a life partnership without desire. In this sense we're talking about full blown, hot and passionate desire for the life partner of your choosing. Why on earth would you even consider the choice of a life partner without a level of desire that is almost overpowering? Now for...

#2 You want to choose someone about whom you can comfortably say, "I really and truly like................" you fill in the name!

Think about your best girlfriend or your best boyfriend. Depending on your personal experience it would be important that you've had at least one of these prior to this point in your life. This is not a good / bad thing type of issue.

The focus here is: If you have not ever had a close friendship with another individual prior to your current focus on choosing a life partner, you're in for a rather formidable challenge.

The idea of looking for qualities in a life partner place a huge mental and psychological burden on anyone who is attempting to make this type of decision without the full measure of growth experience tools that are required. Let's move on, assuming you're not one who will be stopped at this point in the game.

#3 We're at the point of no flexibility in this section. These are the must haves and must dos. We'll start with the must haves (complements of my volunteers from various salons and barbershops across the US):

• He or she must have good teeth and plenty of them.
• He or she must have acceptable habits of hygene without the benefit of grading on the curve.
• He or she must be contemporary enough to know the top 10 Rap hits but savvy enough to understand that low shagging displays of undergarments, regardless of the labels, are unacceptable....in public.
• He or she must not necessarily be Christians but must be able to articulate that they hold certain things to be important in their lives. The short list is liberal tolerance for other's religious beliefs, sexual preferences, and national origin. Political differences must also be accepted.
• He or she must be in good health or open and honest enough to fully disclose anything that would ultimately become a burden, financially or otherwise, to the relationship partner.....did I say short list? sorry but you do want to be thorough right:)

Must dos...

• She or he must love human beings, especially their life partner and must understand that conversation is a skill that improves with use, consistent use.
• She or he must have a demonstrated understanding of the word commitment. Ditto for the word Loyalty.
• She or he must understand the ceremony of marriage is an honorable thing that's part of the expectation.
• She or he must understand and demonstrate a commitment to the words and statements confirmed during the ceremony.
• She or he must understand there is no better person in the entire world than the partner who has been made a life long promise of commitment, loyalty and lasting love.

I believe that sums it up. However, I'm sure you'll add your comments to make this an even better list of must dos and must haves.