Dear Ms. Distressed,

Both of you are hurting so much in this relationship, and both of you are tired of all the arguing & misunderstandings. I don't know the two of you, or the things that you argued about; but maybe the two of you should stop for a moment and ask yourselves why you two hurt each other so much yet still believe that you love one another with all your hearts.

The stress in your relationship has pushed your boyfriend way passed his limits, and now he's not sure he can continue on loving you while still being the same man. Inside he is conflicted with utter sadness and deep, undying love. That is why he can't bring himself to end it with you. He is dying on the inside...tortured by the pain of your relationship.

This frequent quarrel between the two of you has to stop if you both still desire to keep your sanities. He wants to love you without all the drama, the misunderstandings, and the arguments. And, apparently, so do you.

If you and he are willing to come together one more time, and decide to change both of your behaviors (i.e. listen to each other more, acknowledge each other's feelings, or come up with a system that can prevent arguments from going out of control), I suggest that you do it.

Take preemptive methods to ensure that the two of you will spend more of your life loving each other in happy times, then bickering and quarreling with sad times.

If you are interested in what methods I have to offer, please send me an email. I wish you two the best.

Afterwards:

Thank you very much for your great advice! =)

Thank you. My boyfriend called me and I went over to his house and we talked things over. He told me how he felt about me and that he didn't mean anything what he said, and that he was just upset at that moment. And that he's glad I didn't break up with him like he said to cause that our relationship is not ready to end. Thank you very much for your advice.

You know what to say.